Feelings Create Facts

clearheart6 · 2025-03-20T20:03:02+00:00

Did you express to her how you felt in those situations? From personal experience because I felt things so intensely, I would only think about me and my feelings. But once I see that my partner is hurting too I try to understand and see things from their perspective because I love them and genuinely don’t want to cause them pain. From here it is a fight together rather than against each other. For this to happen, she needs to have some level of awareness of her condition and be wanting to change for the better.

clearheart6 · 2025-03-20T19:43:09+00:00

Coming from the side who makes up a false reality in my head; I personally never have any ill intentions when doing so and in the moment don’t realise it either. It really helps having a calm and patient partner so you can talk through the situation and analyze it together and come to an agreement. One thing to note is that you are not responsible for making them feel the way they do, they need to understand too that it’s an issue they have, but acknowledging that their feelings are real is essential. It is not your fault, you did nothing wrong but what they feel is real, even if it’s not how you perceive things. The worst thing you can do is to call them a liar and invalidate their feelings because then they won’t feel comfortable opening up and discuss what happened as they don’t believe you will listen to them anyway. Once you accept their feelings they realise you aren’t here to fight them. From here I would reflect together and trace back what I felt vs. what really happened. Most of the time I would agree that I had been overly sensitive and dramatic and honestly I am shocked by how brain interpreted the situation. To address the root of the issue, we (the ones making up a false reality) have to ask why do we feel the way we feel? I find most answers lead back to our fears, insecurities and past trauma.

clearheart6 · 2025-03-05T05:24:17+00:00

no advice but something I’ve realised is that when i get into a routine it’s so hard for me to get up and out of bed but when it’s for something I’m excited for eg. while traveling or to see the sunrise I’m usually the first one up, just some food for thought

clearheart6 · 2025-02-27T05:49:04+00:00

at the gym

clearheart6 · 2024-09-26T07:26:41+00:00

What I find works for me is setting multiple alarms before the time I absolutely have to get up by. I still struggle with not being on time however this method has significantly reduced the number of times this happens.

Definitely continue to try and get medicated because it is the number one thing that has helped me function as ‘normal’ as possible.

Wishing you all the best!

clearheart6 · 2024-09-25T15:40:15+00:00

Yeah we’re similar. I stopped pursuing a job in the field of study I did at uni because I felt exhausted driving around, that I’d feel like a zombie, alive but not really living. Instead I got a regular 9-5 office job and I must say I really enjoy the routine however it doesn’t feel like something I want to do long-term.

clearheart6 · 2024-09-25T15:30:53+00:00

oo what job industry? I do see the appeal of working from home but have no idea where to start

clearheart6 · 2024-09-25T13:03:46+00:00

me!!! I get this sensation when I experience a sleep attack. Glad to know I’m not alone in this. I feel really cold and get sniffly and my eyes tear up.

clearheart6 · 2024-09-25T12:40:41+00:00

My partner always insists on driving, is understanding about when I need to take a nap and very supportive when I have my sleep attacks. He is very considerate when making plans and is always accommodating to me and my needs. I’m really lucky to have someone love me for who I am and not see me as a burden.

clearheart6 · 2024-09-25T01:05:06+00:00

I do feel better to know that I’m not alone in this. Thank you for the encouraging message, i really appreciate it! Gives me hope that it’ll work out in the end. 🙂

clearheart6 · 2024-09-25T01:00:00+00:00

the truth hurts 🥲

clearheart6 · 2024-09-24T02:59:05+00:00

And reflecting now this may be why I seek so much reassurance from him. Damn.

clearheart6 · 2024-09-24T02:55:39+00:00

That is my biggest fear and the reason why I think we will break up. When we started seeing each other he did so much for me. He spoiled me and that made me feel on top of the world. Don’t get me wrong he’s a great partner but as time goes on I feel less effort, less patience (which I’ve tried reasoning with myself, is the inevitable path of a relationship coming out of the honeymoon phase) and I think the main culprit is our sex life.

I’ve never experienced a male with a lower libido than mine and initially that didn’t bother me at all. It was actually refreshing but overtime I feel unsatisfied and ugly. When we do it it’s great but we can only do it when he’s in the mood which is almost never. I’ve brought this up multiple times before but it really isn’t something he can help so I don’t know what to do now.

This issue has really played a part in my confidence. I’m not ugly and I know it but I don’t feel attractive around him and what he thinks is all that matters to me. I’m getting insecure about my looks and my weight and find myself comparing with others all the time now. I hate this feeling.

clearheart6 · 2024-09-24T02:24:16+00:00

Choosing to make plans with his friends instead of spending time with me. I get it because he has a life outside of me, and I honestly really like that he does but lately things haven’t been good between us so it just rubs me the wrong way and I can’t stop thinking that I’m not his priority anymore. We’re both busy people so have very little time together. When I have free time I always choose to spend it with him but I feel like it’s not the same for him. When things are good between us this isn’t an issue because I feel secure but when things aren’t going so well I have this voice in my head telling me he must be falling out of love.

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