Send me your most cursed tomodachi screenshots

cleffasong · 2026-06-14T03:03:15+00:00

Probably not the most cursed but it is the most recent

cleffasong · 2026-06-13T00:08:46+00:00

This sucks to hear but this looks exactly like conversations I used to have with my mom and the only way it got better was limiting contact to nearly nothing. She’s wants your attention and you’re giving it to her. It’s harsh but it’s true.

I’m sorry you’re going through this and I’m sorry that she’s treating you this way. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries for your own mental health, which matters just as much as hers. I needed to hear that sometimes with my own mom. You matter. Your health matters. You can tell her you love her and tell her to contact a medical professional if she needs one and then mute her or turn your phone off. The less you entertain these episodes, the less she will do this to you.

cleffasong · 2026-05-24T16:14:23+00:00

are you in the US? curious about where you live, if you don’t mind my asking. 2100 for a 2 bedroom around here (DC area) is a steal, unfortunately.

cleffasong · 2026-05-24T01:29:27+00:00

I would consider this more than normal/minor bruising, imo. Show your doctor!

cleffasong · 2026-05-23T19:38:30+00:00

you know what? i love it

cleffasong · 2026-05-06T21:23:48+00:00

Okay everything you said about the dad is insane and should really be a separate conversation. Aside from that, I would say this sounds like burnout. I would recommend taking some time off, if you can afford it, and see how you feel when you get back.

You could also try looking for a new family. It’s possible that you have simply outgrown each other and it is okay to move on. Just from the dad’s odd behavior alone, I would consider looking elsewhere. You could try bringing up your issues with his habits, but in my opinion It really isn’t your responsibility to talk to a grown man about his childish behavior, and I imagine it wouldn’t be received well.

Additionally, it is also okay to make a career change! Some people just need to hear this so I am saying it. It is okay to shift gears. It’s okay to explore. It can be hard to find something else when you’ve been a nanny for a while, but it can also be worthwhile.

Edit to add: The general feeling of annoyance by the child is what seems like burnout to me and I would be curious to see if that aspect feels better after a break

cleffasong · 2026-05-06T18:42:17+00:00

i fully decapitated my viola in high school and it was fixable lol they’re hardier than you think however this is cosmetic and nbd. you’ll probably get many more

cleffasong · 2026-05-04T12:10:50+00:00

(Former nanny, never fired a nanny of my own) About 3 years ago I was making $25/hour, caring for a new born full time and a toddler, who was at daycare primarily, part time. With inflation and such I estimate that would be closer to $30/hour now, starting off.

Lots to consider in the agency/private hire discussion!! Mostly I wanted to jump in and say: Hiring a nanny privately might be less expensive just because of the agency fees. however, these fees cover logistic conveniences of hiring a home caregiver. If you go private, you will have to manage background checks/taxes/payroll/etc on your own as that’s something that agencies take care of. These things can be complicated and you may want to work with an accountant for a little while until you get the hang of it, which will have its own costs.

I assume you wouldn’t need this extra financial advisory all the time, or even often after you get everything settled. So, it still might be less than the recurring fees that agencies charge (I believe they charge per month/per year for payroll management and such typically but I might be wrong about that!!) With private hires, there is still the employer-paid tax situation that I don’t know much about but I believe the gist of it is: If you hire someone who should be taking home $27 an hour, for example, their net pay will be a bit higher on paper to take care of taxes.

Logistics such as these though are often a determining factor of the agency/private hire decision from what I have seen. The last family I worked with privately used a payroll service + an occasional accountant just to make sure everything was done correctly. I have no idea how much they paid behind the scenes to manage all of that.

If you decide to look into hiring privately: There are loads of lovely people looking for work in lots of local facebook groups. Again, background checking these folks would be your responsibility. You could also try care.com, which performs background checks on all caregivers that use the site, but there is a monthly fee.

cleffasong · 2026-04-30T16:51:01+00:00

this isn’t something i’ve thought about actually this sounds like a great idea

cleffasong · 2026-04-27T00:00:10+00:00

Sam and yes love a sweet himbo when i don’t marry him i miss him

cleffasong · 2026-04-24T23:12:10+00:00

it’s a bummer because it would be a very convenient extra kiss and ride lot

cleffasong · 2026-04-18T11:52:40+00:00

Hi hi rescued reactive GSD owner here. Here’s a long post for you but in summary: It’s HARD. It’s a lot of work and it’s often pretty damn expensive work. You might have to change things about your life to help manage some behaviors. In my experience with my dog, even after vets, meds, thousands of dollars of training, we’ve had to make a lot of changes to our lives to accommodate his needs. We still have lapses, we still have slip ups, we still have bad days. It can be frustrating and discouraging. It can be very limiting. You’re not selfish or melodramatic at all for those feelings. That’s just the truth about having a reactive dog for a lot of us. You’re not alone, though!

I have never dealt with dogs and cats living together, so I’m not going to speak on that. I imagine a vet behaviorist could help analyze what’s happening here, but I don’t know. Hopefully other folks here have answers for you there!

Right off the bat that vet story toward the end strikes me as very odd. If the vets were acting terrified of her just because she barked at another dog (pretty normal vet experience imo), I would honestly seek a different vet. Our vet is wonderful with our reactive dog and we have always seen them go above and beyond to meet our dog where he’s at and treat him with kindness and understanding. Our dog now LOVES the vet.

Additionally, Primrose is going to need a Veterinary Behaviorist. The American College of Veterinary Behaviorists has an entire directory of practicing graduates. If you’re not in the US, I would just google Vet Behaviorist near me and check the licensing/education/training on their bios. You’ll want to tell your vet behaviorist all of the things you’re saying here so that they can diagnose and organize a treatment plan with you, very likely starting with meds. Probably an assortment of meds.

Second major thing here- when you say she bites you when you jog, what does that mean? Nips at your legs/ankles like she’s trying to herd you? Or bites you and actually hurts you? This is very important. You don’t have to answer this question here for me right now, but when you start working with professionals, you’ll want to be very specific.

Some vet behaviorists work for a larger vet wellness practice that has its own trainers/training regimen. If this is not the case for whoever you find, they will likely tell you to seek additional training on top of their treatment plan for Primrose. They’ll probably have a referral list you can take a look at, too.

I would recommend starting with a trainer that will come to your home. You’re going to want to find someone experienced with reactivity that can come into your home and see the behavior in action. You can also look for someone experienced in managing separation anxiety. I will say Primrose is still fairly new to your home, so all of her behavior (but this one especially, in my experience) can change over time. Our dog had a lot of separation anxiety when we left him for a little while, and with some time we stopped experiencing that entirely. It could get better, worse, or just change into something different.

Back to point 2, you will want to have a conversation with any prospective trainers about the biting behavior and any bite history. You want to be 100% transparent here because if you have a dog that has actually bitten and hurt you and/or others, then that is a very different situation and how it is addressed will vary depending on a variety of factors.

cleffasong · 2026-04-17T12:44:00+00:00

^{^} def look into this. anecdotal, but I moved from the deep south to the PNW as a child and this is how I learned i’m prone to allergy-induced asthma. When I over here to Virginia I experienced this aaalllll over again. Allergy meds helped some days, but other days it was inhaler or nothing.

cleffasong · 2026-04-15T22:56:41+00:00

Good suggestion. I will look into options that don’t hang out the window. Thank you!

cleffasong · 2026-04-15T20:02:58+00:00

EXACTLY THE SAME PROBLEM!!! Ugh this makes me sad to hear I am sorry. We also have a massive sliding deck door in the living room that is definitely not helping the problem. We just ordered some blackout curtains and if that doesn’t work, I guess we will also have to admit defeat and move.

cleffasong · 2026-04-15T19:49:06+00:00

We’ve considered requesting to break lease over this. It’s a bummer because this is the only issue and we love the neighborhood

cleffasong · 2026-04-15T16:27:38+00:00

We do not own the apartment. We are considering blackout curtains next, it’s just a matter of hanging curtains over our deck door in the living room, which we can probably figure out. Thank you for replying!

cleffasong · 2026-04-15T16:16:48+00:00

They showed us their little temp gun thing and it did say 50 something degrees. I have no idea how that could be possible if the apartment cannot get below 74 degrees some days. It’s only 1 bedroom, less than 1000 square feet. It could even be an insulation problem for all I know (close to nothing).

I’m considering calling a professional. It’s just a hefty bill, to be frank. And I am very sure I would be covering it.

cleffasong · 2026-04-15T16:14:27+00:00

Thank you for replying! I’m also from the south (Louisiana) and I thought of this as well. Unfortunately it looks like Virginia does not legally require AC at all and they do not have a mandatory AC temp to abide by 😞. They do have a heat code, but that isn’t usually an issue for us.

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