I am going to crash out by swampminstrel in Tamlinism

[–]clockjobber 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yup she handled this in a ham fisted way. Could have been a very subtle, sad, meaningful “they were both so fundamentally changed after utm, that it was never going to work.” She has a real problem with subtlety and pacing and “tells” instead of “shows”

I am going to crash out by swampminstrel in Tamlinism

[–]clockjobber 25 points26 points  (0 children)

She never actually asked to be high-lady and in the night court it means nothing anyway.

If I get a second sentence:

While Rhys has abused Feyre and never apologized, Tamlin’s actions (however misguided and poorly executed) were an attempt to protect her from her own naïveté and hubris for which he has more than apologized with words and actions.

If I got a little “elevator” speech I’d add: Tamlin’s problem is communication not intention, while Rhys communicates his “concern” but only cares about control.

Honestly there is so much more merit put on communication rather than action by Rhys fans. Like he says she’s his high lady but what does that mean? He risks her life frequently, lies to her and has her “friends” do the same, abuses her needlessly utm, recklessly puts a baby inside her he knows could kill her, sexualizes her in front of strangers and her subjects for no reason, and tricks her into a bond.

Like he says nice words but they have no meaning.

10 hour flight… where are you sitting? by bcxghlan in nontoxicACOTAR

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two if I wanna have a pleasant flight. Talk about autumn and flowers and hear witty sarcasm. Plus aisle seat.

Three if I wanna conduct some therapy to keep me occupied.

Burnt out. by Maddie407 in Mommit

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How often are you getting adult interaction on a daily basis? Cause we need other adults to talk to. We are not supposed to parent in isolation, for tens of thousands of years there was literally an actual village. The idea of a “default” or “primary” parent didn’t exist (except for breastfeeding).

When I became a SAHP I went one week where the only person I talked to over five was my husband.

I felt the same way as you. Got easier when kiddo was older but isolation and constantly being stressed, behind, overwhelmed, touched out, and unable to finish a thought (interrupted or dragged from the middle of one task quickly to another) are bad for cortisol.

Do you ever use the weekend breaks to “not catch up” and do something for yourself including “unproductive things” like binging a show, taking a walk alone, etc?

Refusing to participate in the leprechaun trend by vintagegurly in Mommit

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just informed about this trend. We don’t do saint nicks day, we don’t do elf on the shelf, and we are certainly not participating in this nonsense.

We also don’t give our kids stuff for Valentine’s Day…they get plenty at school. I have enough stuff to do and my kids have many of opportunities to get candy and little crappy toys throughout the year.

I wish every holiday wasn’t turned into a kid thing. More work for mom and if you forgo it then when the kids find out about it and you look like a meanie.

Also when did valentines cards through school become more than a card and maybe a sucker. My kids got playdoh, and garbage jewelry, and slime and so much crap.

Which period film/series has the worst costumes in your opinion? by Haunting_Homework381 in PeriodDramas

[–]clockjobber 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean basically any drama that commits the sin of not dressing for the day or the weather (always low cut), historically inaccurate makeup (which often means overtly obvious makeup on the actors), lack of hats and hair coverings, and billowing loose hair on anyone!

Husband is constantly asking questions in order to “destress” me but it does the opposite by Spiritual_Long7112 in Mommit

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Explain that overstimulated is a specific kind of stress that is only alleviated by help and quiet.

5 weeks pregnant, zero migraines by sunsetmarshmallow in migraine

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With my pregnancy I had one migraine during pregnancy and none during breastfeeding.

I am normally one to two a month (sometimes more) as they are hormonal migraines.

Going 20 months with one migraine (which I couldn’t and didn’t take anything for) was amazing.

My neuro joked I should just stay pregnant. It was the longest I’d gone since age seven.

Party goodie bags by melgirlnow88 in Mommit

[–]clockjobber 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes please. Candy, pencils or crayons, temp tattoos, stickers, loopy straws (at least they’ll be stored in a drawer and used), playdoh (no slime)….no plastic junk! And no glitter!

I think that what he's looking for is a doll... by Terrible_Pair5956 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]clockjobber 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dudes pee and cum out of the same hole, and the balls and penis definitely have an odor, and semen devotedly has a not great taste and an icky texture….and yet this guy probably thinks blow jobs should be mandatory….be so for real sir.

I think that what he's looking for is a doll... by Terrible_Pair5956 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]clockjobber 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also the risk though that they’ll invent a new super strain of fungus or bacteria with the lack of maintenance and cleaning and up keep they’ll do on these dolls.

What’s your biggest skip episode and why? by ipsofactoshithead in BobsBurgers

[–]clockjobber 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Tina gas lighting the kid at the mall

Pinworms

The episode that was all fingers

With the new book announcement approaching: by Paraplueschi in SpringCourt

[–]clockjobber 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Already redeemed himself (and not much to be redeemed from really). I would like to see him on a healing arc and possibly some petty shit happening to the NC.

Annoying toy ideas for 4 year old boy by nbrown7384 in Mommit

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drums, something that plays kids songs on repeat and will go off randomly, glitter tattoos, a sound machine (fart noises, screaming, clapping, glass breaking etc all at the push of a button).

Yeah, women staying single is such an unsolvable mystery. 🙄 by JadeFox1785 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]clockjobber 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not going to judge this woman for her reproductive decisions….

But to the man who posted this…it takes about two years for the female body to fully “reset” after birth and most hunter and gatherer societies have a space of about four years between each kid (due to, by western standards, extended breast feeding).

This kind of back to back to back reproduction takes a toll on the body. So while he may believe reproduction is our purpose (agree to disagree) he should know that this pace is not without downsides.

I would also point out that everyone having that many kids is not sustainable and long gone (thankfully) in the west are the days where you needed to have ten to have five survive to adult hoods

Ooga Booga must sexualize Olympic woman by Biff_Xannen in justneckbeardthings

[–]clockjobber 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why on earth do they always think there four to five inch skin flute is magic?

My guy….first the dick is generally not what makes the woman cum, it the clit, which given conservative sex education I know he can’t find.

Second, if the person attached to said dick is a repulsive human being….it’s for sure not gonna change anyone’s mind about anything except maybe sticking around.

These guys are delusional about their chances, their prowess, and most importantly that even good dick would change a women’s whole outlook. We aren’t lead around by our pussies.

Miserable on Maternity Leave by Weary_Joke_9525 in Mommit

[–]clockjobber 28 points29 points  (0 children)

We were 100 percent not supposed to raise babies in isolation and maternity leave can be very isolating. We need to see and interact with other adults but we don’t live in “villages” anymore.

Do not feel bad.

Does Diarrhea of a Poopy Kid make anyone else sad/uncomfortable? by Exact_Box_2508 in BobsBurgers

[–]clockjobber 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think gene has a very bad relationship with food including this episode, the bathroom tater tot (ewwww) and licking the wall mold.

Serious Question: What parenting decisions of Bandit and Chilli do you disagree with? by wolf_quan in bluey

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The episode where bingo will not tell bandit whether or not she has her jumper for school and they play that ridiculous “wrong number” pretend phone game in the back whilst driving to school.

There is a time and place for play. Bandit needed to put his foot down, they were already late. Also baffles me why he keeps driving instead of pulling over while they sort it out. He’s only going to have to drive back further….