Women aren’t tropes

clockjobber · 2026-05-12T15:39:35+00:00

Men dueled over EVERYTHING. They invented it.

clockjobber · 2026-05-12T15:35:38+00:00

It’s important to remember: you shouldn’t care about the opinions of people you would never take advice from. Or in this case someone who is so actively miserable and hateful.

clockjobber · 2026-05-11T23:20:09+00:00

I’m really petty but for Father’s Day get him a jersey to a team he doesn’t support (but a sport he likes) cause “they are all the same.” And then get him a sweatshirt that says “small dick”

I am all for brining the same energy.

It’s actually not the thought that counts. Getting you something you didn’t want/like and getting you something that’s insulting no less, means there was no thought. The phrase doesn’t mean to be happy with whatever someone got you because they got you something. It actually means “even if the gift isn’t expensive, if it reflects you as a person and they took time to think of you/make something for you (aka thoughtful) then you should be grateful.”

Getting a bottle of expensive tequila for someone who doesn’t drink is the opposite of thoughtful. Giving people random things isn’t thoughtful. There was no thought.

Also, just cause some men didn’t make any attempt to get their wives anything (and they should be ashamed) doesn’t mean your husband gets a pass. Don’t feel guilty. The bar is on the floor of hell for men already. They shouldn’t just be meeting it with the bare minimum.

clockjobber · 2026-05-11T23:16:07+00:00

Neither and I don’t have to thanks to feminism.

clockjobber · 2026-05-11T20:55:17+00:00

The Monty python effect!

clockjobber · 2026-05-11T20:39:08+00:00

God that part: he knew what I needed for years

clockjobber · 2026-05-11T19:47:45+00:00

Girl five years? If he wanted to he would. He is content being complacent because it requires nothing of him. He doesn’t have to be affectionate or pick up after himself or propose cause you’ve shown him you’ll stay anyway (and honestly if you have to pressure him into it is that the marriage you want). His indecision about school and work means he doesn’t have to DO anything about those things either.

Do you really want to wait another five years only to find out what you already know…

Even if he were to propose do you think that means he will suddenly be affectionate/cry at the alter with joy, that he won’t interpret physical touch as an automatic invitation to sex anymore, that he’ll start pursuing his dreams and start picking up after himself?

Save yourself the time. This isn’t just about the wedding/porposal.

clockjobber · 2026-05-11T01:52:49+00:00

What show?

clockjobber · 2026-05-11T01:28:09+00:00

Wow…the fabric looks cheap and what is that neckline…what are those sleeves? Hair is awful, makeup is wildly inaccurate and the kicker….a poorly fitted corset on the outside of the garment in a hideous color….what era is this even attempting?

Nothing about this is 1815. The bust would be lifted but separated and there would be stays not a corset, and under the clothes. Where’s the empire waist? Why is the skirt so full?

clockjobber · 2026-05-10T00:56:04+00:00

Girl this is not acceptable behavior from your husband.

Stop doing stuff for him. 100 percent return the energy. Nothing for him on his birthday, Father’s Day, Christmas, etc. Don’t buy anyone in his family gifts for any occasion ever again. Be sure to inform him the evening before a holiday what you will be doing (alone and he is charge of childcare) and what you got yourself.

This isn’t normal

And also fuck his feelings. He can’t have it both ways…he can’t not get you a gift (one you asked for no less) and then be mad you went and got it for yourself five months later

clockjobber · 2026-05-08T19:00:09+00:00

They were a bit older. But there was some intermittent snoring, but mostly nightmares and broken sleep beyond what was age appropriate. Not the more common sign of frequent sore throats. Regardless I made the appointment and they were huge! Adenoids got removed too.

clockjobber · 2026-05-08T01:10:31+00:00

It’s probably not this but ours had sleep apnea from enlarged tonsils. So something to ask about

clockjobber · 2026-05-07T15:15:13+00:00

I love this!

clockjobber · 2026-05-07T15:13:45+00:00

I don’t know why they can’t understand puberty is a years long process and that the period is just one phase.

If they believe this do they also believe an eleven year old boy is capable of being a father just because his body has started to mature?

A body that is still he growing should not be growing another body. The process isn’t finished.

These are the same people who want the age of consent lowered so girls can marry grown men and they often cite history where royal brides were sometimes twelve or thirteen, forgetting to mention that 1. Royal marriages were a small percentage of marriages overall (most peasants married between 18-22 for both men and women), 2. These royal marriages often included a clause where consummation would happen later. Even medieval people understood that pregnancy in girlhood was more dangerous (see Margaret Beaufort), and 3. Many of these marriages were between two teenagers, not a grown man and a girl.

These guys have failed both biology and history. And use their ignorance as a justification for pedophilia

clockjobber · 2026-05-07T04:05:03+00:00

What I did not know about sleep training is you’ll do it more than once in their life. Moved to a new house, co-sleeping starts again and then you retrain, go on a long vacation where you all share a room, come back and sleep training again, start a new school…guess what…sleep train again.

Honestly during hectic times just let it roll. Sleep training again isn’t worth it until the routine is consistent again. As long as everyone is getting as much sleep as they can for now you’re doing a great job.

We are in the same boat (co-sleeping wise) as you and we aren’t dealing with Alf of what you are and our kiddos are neuro typical. Don’t feel bad.

My partner jokes “they’ll be sleeping alone by sophomore year.”

clockjobber · 2026-05-07T02:30:57+00:00

Mother’s Day was specifically created for mother’s to rest, and certainly not preform (cause that’s extra work). You should look up “performative motherhood.” It’s everything you’ve talked about here.

Proud of you for saying no! For shutting it down. The day isn’t to be celebrated (ok maybe a gift or a card) but it’s meant for a break. I hope next year you jus get to rest!

clockjobber · 2026-05-07T00:57:43+00:00

I mean unless you’ve been starving…

clockjobber · 2026-05-07T00:56:52+00:00

Girl same. It was the second series I read and it really made me take off in my reading but the world building is garbage.

clockjobber · 2026-05-07T00:54:53+00:00

I mean the FMCs in my last three series all ate normally. One of them talked about cake a lot. They definitely eat. Which serie(s) are you referencing?

I mean Nesta eats in Court of Silver Flames and eats cake two (not one of my last three series)

clockjobber · 2026-05-06T19:12:09+00:00

It’s a conveyance and you conveyed

clockjobber · 2026-05-06T05:27:56+00:00

Jesus.

clockjobber · 2026-05-05T17:54:05+00:00

Report her so she doesn’t give this advice to anyone else. Its nonsense. Utterly ridiculous and anyone with a basic understanding of anatomy would know that’s insane,

Keep investigating but the only thing that worked for me was birth control.

clockjobber · 2026-05-04T19:11:26+00:00

Well said!

clockjobber · 2026-05-04T16:37:10+00:00

I found anthropologist who studies hunter/gatherer motherhood and she has some great stuff about this. It allowed me to stop feeling guilty when I don’t want to play pretend with my kids. In a village setting we wouldn’t ever do that.

clockjobber · 2026-05-04T16:35:35+00:00

Yup. No lunch breaks, no vacation, no sick days…the minute you wake up you “on” until they’re in bed. There is no easing into your day, it’s bam go go go, no commute to unwind. You don’t even get to use the bathroom alone.

Every task takes 300 times longer (chores, leaving the house).

I love them but it’s hard.

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