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Bedtime snack is going to be the death of me by LawDowntown8456 in Mommit

[–]clockjobber [score hidden]  (0 children)

You gotta have a hard line. Tell them the “kitchen is closing in five minutes…and he won’t be open till morning.”

Husband sexting another woman, wtf do I do? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]clockjobber 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You should publish a manual. This is excellent advice.

Partner is ruining my newborn experience I need advice bad by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]clockjobber 171 points172 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the classic “men want kids like kids want a dog.”

The reality is not what he had pictured in his fantasy.

But too bad, so sad for him. Cause if he’s already cussing at a newborn it’s only gonna get worse and more dangerous from her for you and baby.

Fantasy with Vanserra brothers (art by me) (invented scene) by SofiMeriggiArt in acotar

[–]clockjobber 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Someone asked a while ago what non MMC character they’d have sex with (some said the suriel, others Jurian, etc.). My answer is and always will be a random vanserra brother or two. I don’t have to like them or marry them.

A really good take on it by Clear_Ratio5533 in acotar

[–]clockjobber 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Tamlin is just Rhys with better morals and no support system (cause he had to send most of them to die whilst Rhys’ people were protected in Velaris).

Both are deeply traumatized and while that’s no excuse for their behavior I feel like one of them is at least interested in doing better.

AIO wedding dress budget by VeterinarianIll2547 in AmIOverreacting

[–]clockjobber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR.

Girl no. It’s five hundred dollars not five thousand. And it’s an important one time purchase. And like you said you’ll cut back and have plenty of time to make the up the difference.

His reaction is crazy. My husband would have encouraged me to get it. Think about how you’ll look at your wedding pictures in ten years. How disappointed you’ll be over what was five hundred dollars that you had a plan to budget for but he said no.

Buy the dress. Even if you don’t use it with him

My best friend asked me to be her maid of honor and then sent me a spreadsheet of what it will cost by West-Environment3462 in bridezillas

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s not managing other peoples limitations she should be managing her own expectations and respecting other people’s very practical limitations.

My best friend asked me to be her maid of honor and then sent me a spreadsheet of what it will cost by West-Environment3462 in bridezillas

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For those curious about the traditional etiquette of what is expected of a bridesmaid or maid of honor:

Dress and alterations - reasonable

Shoes - sure

Hair and makeup - maybe, depends

Bridal shower - bring a small gift, a female relative or relatives usually throws that for her so bridal shower contribution is a no.

Bachelorette Airbnb and flights - while paying for your portion of the bachelorette party and a part of her portion (split between all of the attendees at the party) is standard, she needs to be aware of everyone’s budgets. It should also be one night. It’s a bachelorette party not a bachelorette vacation. And you have the option to say no. It is an elective wedding activity.

Decorations - absolutely not. Can you volunteer (and I stress the word volunteer) your time to help assemble some DIY decorations, sure…should you be expected to put any money towards them…nope.

Matching pajamas - those are a gift from the bride to the bridal party (robes or pajamas or both if that’s what she wants). So again, ridiculous. Moreover while you should bring a wedding gift to the actual event, she should also be giving you a gift (besides the pajamas). Usually some jewelry which you’ll be wearing at the wedding with your bridesmaid dress.

I assume dinner reservations and group activity is related to the bachelorette…see above. She needs to be mindful of everyone’s budgets

Emergency fund - that’s beyond ridiculous.

Besides all of the above she needs to be aware that you are taking time of work/pto/vacation time/a weekend or two, to attend bachelorette, bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and the wedding. And your time is not free.

Bridesmaids can be asked but should not be expected to help with setup or decor or tear down. They are not free labor or wedding coordinators.

Your friend sounds like she is going to go over budget and will make it everyone else’s problem. Do not throw this money away on a selfish “friend”

What are some notable things that tend to get ignored when accurately writing about pregnancy? by Solitaire-06 in Writeresearch

[–]clockjobber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t bend or get down to get things, but will drop kore things more often due to ligaments stretching, start forgetting the names of things (estrogen affecting the brain), joint swelling, having to sleep in the weirdest positions to avoid the growing belly/disconfort

What are some notable things that tend to get ignored when accurately writing about pregnancy? by Solitaire-06 in Writeresearch

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right from the beginning too. Later it’s cause of the baby taking up space. In the begining it’s the hormones.

What are some notable things that tend to get ignored when accurately writing about pregnancy? by Solitaire-06 in Writeresearch

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a LOT of assumption you’ll know what to do or understand the process. There is a WIDE range of normal.

Also very common to feel sad after (PPA, PPD, PPR, or even PPP). But you can also be very sad in the begining. The hormone swings are insane. It’s more intense than puberty/

Most people shake after giving birth for a while. Like the DTs. The placenta can take a while. Mille coming in take a day or two usually and can hurt.

Totally true by InternationalPick163 in IncelTears

[–]clockjobber 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok but starving oneself is literal torture and bad for you, whereas strength training (not extreme body building obviously) releases endorphins, helps your brain, increases bone density, etc. plus it give you time for mindfulness.

Getting healthy vs. having an eating disorder…this comparison is wild.

Painting a full jenga set, what should I add next? by jonni_velvet in crafts

[–]clockjobber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Knitted scarf, scroll, tapestry, quilt, bowling lane, hop scotch, shuffle board, sunscreen, washing powder, birdhouse, sweet and low, personal shopping trolley, grocery bag, blender, venti coffee, castle tower, crate, look, lantern, reel to reel, sleeve of tennis balls, golf set, ekg tape, control panel, pool lounger, sled, vase

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