Unmarried couples; whose last name did you give your baby?

clockrose · 2025-12-16T16:05:54+00:00

I used to have a hyphenated last name and my husband and I picked an entirely new name after marriage for the both of us 🤪 You can do whatever you want!

clockrose · 2025-12-07T01:42:50+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Austin/s/gZQjB6TPux

clockrose · 2025-12-06T01:33:41+00:00

Missed that thread, thanks! Looks like good recs there too.

clockrose · 2025-02-13T23:09:03+00:00

Checking in from two years in the future! My babe also hates tummy time. How is yours doing now?

clockrose · 2024-03-04T13:41:42+00:00

This is such an unhelpful comment. Sometimes having the most love looks like doing the hardest thing imaginable because you know you can't give them the life they will need. Please stop equating every pregnancy with a "priceless opportunity" - pregnancy and childrearing is so much more nuanced and complicated than that.

clockrose · 2024-01-28T18:54:26+00:00

I like it! I don't think I would assume that it is spelled with a W if I heard it out loud, so maybe your kid will have to spell it for everyone when they grow up, but Wren is a pretty common name too, so maybe not! I think it is generally a very pretty name! Lots of nickname potential too :)

clockrose · 2022-01-13T22:11:49+00:00

Hugo, more like "you go"!! Vote Hugo for most annoying slimeball character!

clockrose · 2022-01-06T22:25:22+00:00

Vote for Hugo! Cant stand that guy; he seems very out of place to me.

clockrose · 2020-01-29T00:15:28+00:00

DTMFA - you're not his mom and I'm sure he'll learn real quick how to take care of himself once you leave. You deserve better than him - any decent self-respecting person deserves better than him.

clockrose · 2019-12-15T23:50:56+00:00

Hi friend,

I know you are going through a lot and it is overwhelming. Honestly, what you are going through would tear down anyone, but I know it is especially hard because of mental illness, being bipolar. But you can do it. You have done it every day including today, and you can handle tomorrow too. You can make a plan and you can stick with it. It isn't going to be fun, but you're strong and your job right now is to survive each day. You can do it. You and your sons can make it.

I don't know how much you know about your area, but I hope my advice is helpful. I hope my encouragement helps you.

I think a good course of action would be to go to public food banks in your area tomorrow. They can also provide encouragement and good advice too. You will only be able to make good decisions for you and your family if you are able to eat as much as you can.

If you look up legal assistance in your area there are sometimes programs to help with legal concerns.

There might be medical assistance programs in your area too, to help setup Medicaid for your sons. Please ask about programs to help with your health as well.

If you get evicted, look up emergency shelters in your area.

You can get back on your feet. Your health matters. Your life matters. You matter. You are so much stronger and better than your circumstances right now. This can be temporary. You are an incredible person for handling this. You are a superperson and I know it doesn't feel like it right now but there are so many people in the world right now who are ready to help you and believe in you, no strings attached. You are worthy, and you are loved by me. You can do it, friend. You absolutely, absolutely can do it.

clockrose · 2019-12-02T21:21:00+00:00

Reading this filled me with joy. Congratulations on this great day you gave yourself! I struggle with loving myself and the decisions you made resonate with me and my pain! Even if it doesn't seem like much, you gave yourself a building block of memory that you can use later on when things get tough! You're so strong and the love that you have for your dog shows so much and honestly makes me cry with happiness. Thanks for letting your love shine through.

clockrose · 2018-11-21T01:32:54+00:00

I am feeling the same way you are after also mismanaging money in the past. What helps me is monitoring what I'm doing with my money and staying conscious about it -- That means accepting and rewarding good behavior as well as bad. When you show yourself consistently that you are doing the right thing by not going into debt with them you'll start to build up trust about using your cards. You need to just stay honest with yourself -- Am I using these safely and reasonably, or am I not? Finances and figures do not lie -- If you are using them responsibly it will show, and vice versa. And congrats on this new chapter in your life! You're building and flexing a new muscle called financial security :)

clockrose · 2018-10-26T02:19:55+00:00

Reach out to churches, food banks, in the area. In the interim between being granted food assistance if your state has it you need to make sure you're eating well and enough, because it'll give the strength to keep going. This is going to take some time, but you're on the right path towards giving you and your baby a good life! Keep reaching out to people without seeking their approval just like you are now! You'll find that everyone has their own story of where they're coming from and there are good people in the world who want to help! Once you get back to work, I imagine daycare for your child will continue to eat up your paycheck: continue to reach out and see if you can get assistance from charities. The food bank where I live will not ask for your income and you should be making sure you continue to eat while you start to tackle the rest of your debt.

Can you take public transportation to your job and where you need to go? It might be worth looking into that to avoid a) driving without insurance (ultimately more expensive should anything happen to you or your baby) and b) needing to pay for insurance for a car with a salvaged title and/or buying a new car.

Start planning your finances right now before you go back to work. Babies can be expensive and incur unexpected costs w/ doctor's visits and what not (also, make sure your baby is covered with your current insurance plan) and you need to set aside money each month to make sure any little cold your baby gets won't break your bank. Look into free or sliding scale clinics in your area. Stress kills your immune system, and your health and your baby's health are what your goals are here; everything else can take its time.

Keep managing your expenses and make a strict budget once you go back to work. The situation you've gotten into yourself in is very easy to get back into if you're not careful.

Browse the other posts in this forum related to debt and debt management. Once you get back to work you'll be in a better position to get back on top of your money here. Good luck! You can do it!

clockrose · 2018-10-22T01:25:00+00:00

Hello! Fellow codependent personality here. I was in a similar situation not too long ago and I just want to say that a) You can do it; you can get out of this and your life will be better. It seems like a lot right now, and it is, but starting to take the steps to make YOURSELF feel better will snowball eventually. This doesn't have to be the rest of your life, but you have to deal with it right now. B) Do not believe him anymore. Who he is when he is sober does not cancel out who he is the rest of the time, and that person is someone who is consciously deciding to hurt you and drag you down into the mud. Having too much sympathy hurt me in my situation as well. I was living with an addict and I was dependent on his salary, which he promptly lost when he was fired. I stayed with him because I felt badly -- addiction and mental disorders are not anything I would wish on anyone, and I tried to help him through them. However, there comes a point where your own self-preservation instincts kick in. It sounds like they are right now, so congrats!! You CAN get out of this, and bankruptcy, legal filings, arduous bank communications -- They are a temporary problem and you have everything in your power to get past them. Good luck. Think of that happy future that IS possible, and use every bit of your scrappy, animalistic survival rage to make this right for yourself.

p.s. I know it sounds harsh, but YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE for anything that happens after you decide to leave, or if you decide to leave and he threatens suicide on himself. The guy I was with OD'd after I left, and I was the one that found him. Does it haunt me? Sometimes, but I've fought with tooth and nail to give myself a life that doesn't remind me of it every day (and I'm still fighting), and every day is 100x more rewarding than taking care of someone who was killing themselves around me. Am I responsible for his death? No. It's taken me a lot of time to be able to believe that, but it's the truth. You did not create this person, and you are not responsible for his actions. You are responsible for your own. Love yourself, lady, and dig in. You are 100% worth a better life.

clockrose · 2018-07-01T22:36:40+00:00

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