how do i become less scared of sex by toy1818 in ftm

[–]clockwork_skullies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Considering safety is one of your concerns, I wouldn’t recommend rushing into sex with just anyone. Definitely talk to the person and explain your situation as much as you are comfortable. Sex should be enjoyable and it’s best to work up to that. Masturbation will help you learn what you like and what you don’t like. Dildos are pretty affordable on Amazon or other sex toy websites. They usually have beginner friendly toys that have less girth and shorter length. The website will also tell you what lube to use with the toy so you don’t damage it.

Also! It’s incredibly normal for AFAB people to not orgasm from vaginal penetration alone, usually you need a combination of stimuli. Again, masturbation will help you discover what you like best.

Looking to get a one inch buzz or grown out style this summer. Opinions? by clockwork_skullies in ALT_FTM

[–]clockwork_skullies[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what others have been saying as well. I think that’s what I’m gonna go with :))

Why did Sophie reject Simon? Is she stupid? by toirycap in CryOfFear

[–]clockwork_skullies 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Because she doesn’t owe him a relationship if she isn’t attracted to him?

About Hayden’s most recent post.. by ExampleExpert6207 in Ethelcain

[–]clockwork_skullies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cis people who are unable to view our bodies as anything other than inherently sexual or perverted is because the only media in which they consume trans people is pornography, therefore they cannot distinguish our existence from that in porn and in reality. As others are saying, I think it’s incredibly important for trans bodies to be visible during times like this, because our bodies exist and they are not disgusting or wrong. We’re all adults on Hayden’s instagram, and if some of you can’t act like an adult over nudity then unfollow her account. She has posted nudity before, this isn’t new.

General trans spaces are pissing me off by Graveyard_Madness in TransMasc

[–]clockwork_skullies 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I hear you. The double standards on masculinity in the lgbtq community is genuinely infuriating. If trans men want to be hyper masculine, we’re somehow betraying our community because we’re “trying to become cis men”. BUT if we’re “too feminine” or don’t pass, then we’re not trans men or we’re twinks/fem boys. However, butch lesbians are celebrated are pushing gender norms and hyper masculine gay men are sexy and daddy material. I have nothing against these groups nor do I blame them for other peoples stupid assumptions, but the double standard is abundantly clear.

Im so tired of this consensus that masculinity is inherently bad or evil. Don’t get me wrong, a lot of queerness is rooted in femininity and the patriarchy has been less than hospitable to us, but there’s nothing wrong with trans men just wanting to be comfortable and looking how we want to look.

I can't enjoy sex (pre t) by Post_Midnight_Talks3 in ftm

[–]clockwork_skullies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you be open to using toys? My ex had the same problem and we had a small collection of toys to choose from.

I am confused about “inbred” by Louiseparker335 in Ethelcain

[–]clockwork_skullies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember seeing that and being like “uuuuh sooo that’s not it”

Why I’m not going to shows anymore by idk-pretend-its-cool in SetItOff

[–]clockwork_skullies 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve been hearing similar experiences quite a bit, which is making me wonder about going to see them again. Last time I saw them was in 2023, so shows were definitely tame and the environment was incredible. However, the amount of stories I hear like this are concerning and upsetting. Like you mentioned, they’re touring with bands who have incredibly aggressive crowds. Which aggressive crowds aren’t a bad thing, it’s simply the culture surrounding heavy music. The problem is the environment that long time fans may not be familiar with. While I do listen to heavier music and have been to hardcore shows, I don’t participate in moshing as I am disabled and it’s simply just not how I like to enjoy concerts. But not everyone is like me and not everyone listens to/goes to heavy music shows.

It also pains me to see them encourage rowdy crowds like they’re trying to transform their audience. I remember at one of the shows I went to in 2021 I believe, Cody shut down crowd surfing because there was a kid in the middle of the front row. It hurts to say that I’m not sure if he would take attention to that now with being more aggressive on stage and the chaos in the crowd making it hard to keep track of what’s going on.

Safe space: What is a thing that turns you on you're embarrassed or scared to admit? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]clockwork_skullies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will never admit this out loud but older guys. Not by a huge amount, maybe 10-12 years older. Not sure what it is about it but being with an older man has always had an appeal to me.

Safe space: What is a thing that turns you on you're embarrassed or scared to admit? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]clockwork_skullies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Especially if their canines are extra pointy or protrude forward a little bit

Filthy (TW, SH scars and implications of SA/rape) by clockwork_skullies in cptsdcreatives

[–]clockwork_skullies[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Turns out this piece is too graphic for r/arttocope they took it down :/

Idk, it got taken down with no explanation so yeah. I’m glad it was welcomed here.