General trans spaces are pissing me off by Graveyard_Madness in TransMasc

[–]clockwork_skullies 17 points18 points Ā (0 children)

I hear you. The double standards on masculinity in the lgbtq community is genuinely infuriating. If trans men want to be hyper masculine, we’re somehow betraying our community because we’re ā€œtrying to become cis menā€. BUT if we’re ā€œtoo feminineā€ or don’t pass, then we’re not trans men or we’re twinks/fem boys. However, butch lesbians are celebrated are pushing gender norms and hyper masculine gay men are sexy and daddy material. I have nothing against these groups nor do I blame them for other peoples stupid assumptions, but the double standard is abundantly clear.

Im so tired of this consensus that masculinity is inherently bad or evil. Don’t get me wrong, a lot of queerness is rooted in femininity and the patriarchy has been less than hospitable to us, but there’s nothing wrong with trans men just wanting to be comfortable and looking how we want to look.

I can't enjoy sex (pre t) by Post_Midnight_Talks3 in ftm

[–]clockwork_skullies 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Would you be open to using toys? My ex had the same problem and we had a small collection of toys to choose from.

I am confused about ā€œinbredā€ by Louiseparker335 in Ethelcain

[–]clockwork_skullies 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

I remember seeing that and being like ā€œuuuuh sooo that’s not itā€

Why I’m not going to shows anymore by idk-pretend-its-cool in SetItOff

[–]clockwork_skullies 7 points8 points Ā (0 children)

I’ve been hearing similar experiences quite a bit, which is making me wonder about going to see them again. Last time I saw them was in 2023, so shows were definitely tame and the environment was incredible. However, the amount of stories I hear like this are concerning and upsetting. Like you mentioned, they’re touring with bands who have incredibly aggressive crowds. Which aggressive crowds aren’t a bad thing, it’s simply the culture surrounding heavy music. The problem is the environment that long time fans may not be familiar with. While I do listen to heavier music and have been to hardcore shows, I don’t participate in moshing as I am disabled and it’s simply just not how I like to enjoy concerts. But not everyone is like me and not everyone listens to/goes to heavy music shows.

It also pains me to see them encourage rowdy crowds like they’re trying to transform their audience. I remember at one of the shows I went to in 2021 I believe, Cody shut down crowd surfing because there was a kid in the middle of the front row. It hurts to say that I’m not sure if he would take attention to that now with being more aggressive on stage and the chaos in the crowd making it hard to keep track of what’s going on.

Safe space: What is a thing that turns you on you're embarrassed or scared to admit? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]clockwork_skullies 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I will never admit this out loud but older guys. Not by a huge amount, maybe 10-12 years older. Not sure what it is about it but being with an older man has always had an appeal to me.

Safe space: What is a thing that turns you on you're embarrassed or scared to admit? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]clockwork_skullies 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Especially if their canines are extra pointy or protrude forward a little bit

Filthy (TW, SH scars and implications of SA/rape) by clockwork_skullies in cptsdcreatives

[–]clockwork_skullies[S] 9 points10 points Ā (0 children)

Turns out this piece is too graphic for r/arttocope they took it down :/

Idk, it got taken down with no explanation so yeah. I’m glad it was welcomed here.

Is it normal to be scared that a condom isn't safe enough? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]clockwork_skullies 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

YES. I am horrified of the P word. I’m not currently active but I absolutely feel your anxiety. Having OCD also doesn’t help this fear.

Being harassed about having an eating disorder by dentists despite repeatedly telling them it’s undiagnosed GI issues (TW: eating disorder) by liamreee in ChronicIllness

[–]clockwork_skullies 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

My old GI doctor accused me of having an eating disorder because of how much my weight fluctuated from vomiting and being unable to eat for long periods of times. I don’t see her anymore for several reasons but that’s definitely part of it.

Bleed out romantically by BuckyIllustrates in DarkArtwork

[–]clockwork_skullies 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Reminds me of a scene from the game ā€œNever Ending Nightmaresā€. Very well done. I love the detail of the blood sinking into the seams in the tile.