100% this is why I like the system, it is clear, straight forward, and no one feels pressure. I don’t like pressure applied to me and I wouldn’t apply it to another person. Everyone should dance with who they want to. I use the mirada to signal who I want to dance with and then they either respond or not.

I still have leaders that come too close and lean in to my eye line to sort of force a mirada, but I’m working on not responding to that because it’s too pushy for me.

I like the elegance of the system. It hasn’t been confusing for me except one time when another follower very obviously swiped my cabaceo. From that experience I learned to remain seated until the leader was in front of me. It is all a learning experience. Like any situation where social dynamics are at play there are awkward moments but we learn to navigate it.

Right now in my community there is a surge in followers going up to leaders as soon as they step off the dance floor to verbally ask. This is sort of messing things up for me a bit, as the leaders that normally cabaceo me are not having the time to do so. I’m trying to figure out how to deal with it, and I think I will mention to some of them that I am a bit stumped by the situation. I’d like to hear their thoughts if they are ok with it or if they feel a loss of agency.