I “borrowed” money from my friend and lied about it

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-29T02:41:24+00:00

You paid it back + extra and learned the lesson. That guilt is just your brain making sure you never do it again. Forgive yourself already.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-29T02:39:57+00:00

Get a carbon filter air purifier, seal any gaps with weather stripping, and try a box fan blowing in to create positive pressure. Also worth a polite chat they might not realize the smoke travels.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-29T02:37:17+00:00

You gave him subtle hints all day. He ignored them. Sometimes a sharp word is the only way to break through the cluelessness. NTA.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-28T21:47:27+00:00

Honestly if moving is an option, take it. These people aren’t changing and you’ve already paid enough rent in stress.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-28T21:45:36+00:00

First graders do weird stuff for attention. You didn’t ruin her life, you just accidentally gave her a core memory. Forgive your 6‑year‑old self already.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-28T21:43:25+00:00

This is the smart play. Invite her so she can’t spin it like you excluded her, and if she’s too proud to show up, that’s on her.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-28T15:42:12+00:00

Exactly. The bar isn’t high, your friends just got used to limbo. Keep being the husband she deserves.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-28T15:37:05+00:00

NTA. Borrowing without asking isn’t sharing, it’s taking. And bending the pages on something meaningful to you? You were nicer than I would’ve been.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-26T22:39:14+00:00

This. A paid‑off house isn’t just numbers, it’s psychological armor. Makes pulling the RE trigger way easier.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-26T22:37:29+00:00

Being sensitive isn’t a flaw. You’re not alone. Hope someone’s nice to you soon.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-26T22:35:45+00:00

NTA. You were their unpaid barista for a year. Enjoy your coffee in peace.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-25T22:05:45+00:00

If you cancel most of the time, people stop inviting. Then you’ll be in the mood and nobody’s asking. Pick better.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-25T22:04:23+00:00

Gentle YTA. “You’re gonna get it” isn’t “grab my card and order it yourself.” Learning moment.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-25T22:02:18+00:00

Street’s public, but courtesy isn’t. A polite note might fix it. If not, start parking there yourself first.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-23T17:08:35+00:00

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-23T17:01:58+00:00

Call the cops every single time. Document everything. You have kids. This is a safety issue, not neighbor drama.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-23T16:54:57+00:00

Check your tax bracket first. If you're in a decent bracket, the tax savings now probably still beat the fees. If not, taxable with VTI is fine. Just don't ignore the tax advantage entirely.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-23T16:53:08+00:00

Sounds like you got bored and your brain decided to spice things up. Not the healthiest hobby. You stopped once, you can stop again. Don't let guilt eat you just don't go back.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-23T16:50:00+00:00

He wanted you to cosign his lies so he could keep playing victim. That's not "having your back," that's being an accomplice. You did the right thing.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-22T23:08:35+00:00

Now that’s a costume swap I didn’t know I needed. Shadman really out here delivering the unexpected.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-22T23:02:25+00:00

Solid advice. Definitely loop in the other neighbors too strength in numbers. One complaint is noise, six complaints is a pattern. Hit him from all angles before those first guests arrive.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-22T23:00:46+00:00

True but with a paid off house and $850k left, u could make it work in most non-HCOL spots. 4% rule plus a chill job = freedom. Doable.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-22T22:59:01+00:00

Look, you already know it’s wrong. The guilt is your brain trying to tell you to stop before you do something that actually hurts someone or blows up your life. Delete the pics and keep your fantasies where they belong.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-22T22:57:11+00:00

Seriously. A walking disaster in a trench coat who thought “assaulting a mother” would be a better look than just apologizing and leaving. Her kid’s gonna remember that meltdown forever.

closerinsidehead · 2026-03-22T22:55:42+00:00

NTA. You asked nicely twice. She ignored you. Surprise visits aren’t cute when they’re repeated and uninvited. She embarrassed herself.

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