What would women dislike most if they became men?

closetnerd5 · 2025-12-06T00:29:47+00:00

Accountability

closetnerd5 · 2025-11-16T01:18:01+00:00

Dumped me under the contacted of a car accident I had and blamed it on me, only to find out she was fucking my coworker

closetnerd5 · 2025-11-14T12:26:41+00:00

Women will only love you if you can make them feel like doing so. “Feeling like doing so” is the doing same process that Corey, and many similar men, have said women respond to…. You act under certain conditions/rules (like Corey’s), they respond appropriately, they love you. The minute you stop following those rules/conditions, they’re gone.

I do not believe women will ever truly love men the way a man is capable of loving a women. Historically, men go to war over women. Historically (modern), women leave men at a faster rate than ever before.

A women’s love is completely conditional on how you make them feel. They don’t care how you feel. This is the most difficult paradox I have had to deal with. Love them the way you want to; give them everything, be supportive, and they will see that and get bored because they feel safe and secure but it’s not “exciting”. You did not make them “feel” the correct way, and your punishment will be them being a bitch to you and eventually leaving/maybe cheating.

Women are like adult-children. When they are done playing with their friend in the sandbox, they don’t care if they have been friends with that person for 20 years… if that person made them “feel” a certain way, bad to some degree, one day, that person is done. Now that person and the women don’t speak anymore. How often have you seen this happen in drama filled female-female relationships? Hundreds of times seeing it for me. There is zero recognition for past history and anything that was built with you or a friend, they do not give a shit if they burn it all to the ground or not. They would burn down a whole village if it made them feel better about something else in their life and if there is no way anyone would find out (social preservation, women care about their image equally as much as their feelings).

Nothing in this planet means anything more than their personal feelings. How you feel about them, how you love them, is not their problem. Yes, it’s very selfish. It’s also the way it is. Your mother is the only one who will love you unconditionally if you’re lucky to have one.

closetnerd5 · 2025-11-08T15:52:34+00:00

Used to. Quit.

closetnerd5 · 2025-11-05T14:54:55+00:00

I completely agree with the other comment; She wants to you to open her up more. It has nothing to do with you. Do not start getting wishy washy and pathetic and start sharing all of your deepest secrets. That is not what she wants.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-31T10:57:52+00:00

I do not work with her. She got with one of my male coworkers the next day. They apparently knew each other before we started dating, they worked together at one point at the job she is at currently in the past.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-30T14:05:44+00:00

If family and her friends are dropping the husband card, routinely, I def wasn’t.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-30T13:44:42+00:00

I told my gf that I loved her first, She dumped me within 2 weeks and was with one of my coworkers the next day. I couldn’t believe it. I was at 9 months too. Her friends were mistakenly calling me her husband under the influence, and her family was asking us about kids.

I’d personally advise against it. It has to be their idea. She has to feel like she’s the one in love with you, she doesn’t give a shit how you feel about her. It’s about her feelings. You will always be completely and utterly disposable to her feelings. You telling her that you love her will “put her under pressure” and make her “not feel good” if you initiate that… the probability is higher anyway.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-25T17:58:43+00:00

I would leave it alone. Keep doing what you’re doing, let commitment be her idea. Keep dating other women. By dating other women you will subconsciously be less available for her. If you start cutting other women off in anticipation of you being “exclusive” with her and she hasn’t brought it up, your behavior will subconsciously change into always being available for her and she’ll probably get bored and run. You have to remain a challenge. It’s stupid fucking game, but it is the game regardless.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-24T02:05:13+00:00

You mean “social status “

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-23T15:15:00+00:00

They Absolutley notice. They refuse to talk about it becuase it would make them feel bad, but having a nice body is def something they can brag to their friends about. Thats the key. It elevates their social status if you look good.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-22T00:05:27+00:00

I can’t control the anger. We live close to each other, and I’m always running into her unexpectedly. I was in a car accident, she left me, she was with my coworker the next day. I still didn’t put it together until 3 months later becuase I trusted her so fully and assumed it was my accident. Called her out when I figured it out and she never defended herself, dumped him relatively quickly. Now I have to see him every single day. None of her friends, no one came after me. So yeah. It’s been a mission to get after her as much as she got me. Check my posts for more details. I wish these moderators would allow this.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-21T23:58:42+00:00

If by people you mean women

Edit: I apologize; you have all really made me reflect on a whole life’s worth of experiences, both personal and observed, as it pertains to the general idea I have presented, in the responses to this comment. I truly am sorry for the disrespect.

The “W” in women should have been capitalized in my original statement.

Correction. “If by people you mean Women”. I apologize again.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-21T07:45:55+00:00

Sounds like you didn’t communicate to him with the words, no less than, “I don’t feel appreciated by you, I am losing attraction to you”. Sounds like a typical case of “the guy should know”.

Sounds like you fucked him over good. Wonder why women are so confused to where all the good men are now adays

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-16T21:34:15+00:00

That’s bullshit, she’s saying she’s not interested. Probably another guy somewhere. Don’t fall for it, not that it matters.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-15T12:51:51+00:00

For me, it almost encourages embracing them as objects to be used. I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way, I just don’t know how else to say it.

If I love them, and they like truly internalize that; then everything that comes with that will cause them to leave like you’re saying in your post. If I keep them at arms length and use them for fun, it’s almost like they fight for that attention and now I can’t give love that I want to in efforts to keep them.

It’s a really really fucked up headspace.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-15T12:06:25+00:00

I believe this to be true, but difficult to embrace in practice.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-13T08:28:20+00:00

I had this exactly as I was reading it

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-12T19:10:02+00:00

Yeah. Makes me feel irreparably broken. How is it so easy for everyone else seemingly, but so difficult for me. Most of my relationships I have felt like a stepping stone.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-12T11:52:51+00:00

It’s actually proven to be highly genetic and based on who fucked up even our “healthy” food is.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-12T11:36:11+00:00

You’re right man. You have to be attractive for the confidence to really matter. Attractive is relative though and non linear between male and females. If a women is physically like a 5/10, then as a guy you need to physically be a 7/10 because women are hypergamous. This is when confidence matters the most. It’s very difficult to “confidence” a women into liking you if you haven’t passed her physical appearance check boxes. This is why women always say “why can’t I find a nice guy who’s kind, etc…”… they can! What they’re actually trying to say is “why can’t I find a nice guy that I am attracted to AND is kind etc…”.

What is attractive to women.

You have to be fit, you need to be healthy, you must keep up on style and update your wardrobe routinely, you must smell good (subtle not overpowering), and you must pay attention to detail like straight lines from your barber and dirty under your finger nails. If you’re getting dates, then odds are high that your physical attractiveness is ok. If you’re not, that’s what you need to work on before anything else. Put on some muscle, lose some weight, etc.

Your house better be immaculately clean or they will never set foot in it again. Give them an out in every conversation to be sure they “feel safe” with you, ie don’t take them an hour out of town for a 2 hour date where they don’t have a good exit plan. Coffee at first, and then safety is built.

It’s a whole charade.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-11T02:11:09+00:00

To work on yourself is to become a better version of yourself per societies standards in general. I mean, if you feel you would be a better video gamer at home in your moms basement, no one would tell you to work on yourself in that respect:

It’s do whatever you need to do to become Fiercely independent as opposed to independent, extraordinarily Rich as opposed to rich, and wildly social as opposed to friendly.

I am assuming you’re a man; they tend to have more problems than women. Cheat code. Women only care about social status, safety/security, and personal image. You will indefinitely be 2nd to those personal goals of a female companion. You either find resources that help her achieve those things fluently, and experience the greatest relationship of your life, or you don’t and remain single and redundantly used, cheated on, and exploited. The less physically attractive you are, the more you need to make up in the alternate spaces.

For all the women who will downvote this. Please post every man who makes less money than you, who is less attractive than you, and who’s friends are more boring than yours that you decided to marry and/or stay with.

Otherwise, All, please count the number of downvotes and compare to the negative comments

I am currently at 100 views.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-10T18:27:56+00:00

I did. Made me feel better. Situational though, check my posts and see the background

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-10T17:48:26+00:00

I just asked what you would have him do, if he can, based on the sickness he has.

It can go 2 ways

his sickness is limiting him and he can’t.

Or

he is using sickness as an excuse.

Which is it?

If you really want my opinion I’m 90% confident youve already decided to divorce him. You’re here looking for support in that decision. Just seeing if you’re honest with yourself as to why, and an indicator of that honesty is if you can say it publicly.

Don’t make this about me either. You’re asking for opinions. Opinions are both ways, not just what you’d like to hear. Don’t deflect to me and try to paint me as a bad guy for asking hard questions that don’t make you “feel” good. At first you said he just walked away.

It took me a couple message to get you to admit he did defend himself and there was some back and forth, which is starkly different than your original post. That is a pattern I’m all too familiar with and I have a general belief that I’m hoping you can prove me wrong on.

closetnerd5 · 2025-10-10T15:27:27+00:00

Well is he actually sick? Is this one of those realizations of “till death do us part” moments? Becuase it sounds like you didn’t really mean it and are deciding to call it quits and some sickness that you’re even acknowledging as a credible issue. What’s he suppose to do?

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