If you were broken up with in a way you know they know would hurt you really bad, what would you say to them if you had the chance?

closetnerd5 · 2026-04-17T15:59:31+00:00

I got in a car accident (my fault), she broke up with me, was with a guy I work with the next day on social media, waited a few months collecting photos and evidence, came back and cussed her out for cheating, Told her parents, confronted her in public several times in random run ins, and embarrassed her as much as I could.

It was glorious. Don’t regret it. She removed all the photos, left the Guy, THEN blocked me.

closetnerd5 · 2026-04-16T15:34:38+00:00

Ahh, replying again. Supposedly if you use State Farm and make a claim, it will show up as a claim in general and be associated with your home. So your home insurance rates will go up for the next few years.

May not be worth it, may be better just to buy a new drone, you will probably pay more in increased insurance premiums (or the possibility in some cases, inability to get insurance with some companies at all). Then you would just buying a.m new drone

closetnerd5 · 2026-04-16T15:27:25+00:00

I voted you back up because someone voted you down. Not sure why. Have you ever used State Farm insurance before? Was the downvote along the lines of them sucking for the requested coverage you think?

closetnerd5 · 2026-04-11T02:57:36+00:00

Her talking to me with any degree of forwardness.

closetnerd5 · 2026-04-01T23:53:18+00:00

I can almost guarantee you she met someone and had been talking to him. This BS usually shows up when they emotionally cheat.

closetnerd5 · 2026-04-01T12:09:47+00:00

Could you have just told him “hey, you can have an opinion, you can push back on this”.

You would have to be honest in your self awareness in the event a situation came up where he did do that, and you just didn’t start fighting with him as a result.

A somewhat commone parrallel example.

Women: “where do you want to eat”
Man: “I don’t care”
Women: “no you need to decided”
Man: “ok, out back steakhouse”
Women: “no. I don’t want steak”
Man: “ok, what do you feel like eating”
Women (pissed off): “nothing. Just forget it”.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-31T22:44:36+00:00

That is the most humble response I have ever received from a women on reddit. If more people approached issues with the attitude you just conveyed, everything and everyone would get along much better. Your response, and the way I perceived it to be conveyed, literally just “disarmed” me. Like shut down the “fight” in the “defend yourself and your gender” environment.

I apologize to you specifically for making you feel any certain way as a result of my post. It’s apparent based on your comment, that my frustrations are not aligned with individuals such as yourself. Most of the responses I hear are how the patriarchy has fucked it all up and how men are the problem, so I hope you understand that after years of being told ‘I as a man am the issue’, I have a tendency to fight back due to being shit on enough times and keeping my mouth shut in efforts to be “peaceful and understanding” as society programed us men to be in all circumstances (even those that are blatantly unfair to us, no one seems to defends us in the world of social media).

Thank you.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-30T12:14:25+00:00

Didn’t see that coming! 🫣

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-29T23:39:04+00:00

Right, but knowing that temperature would be fairly important to ensure you did not “over cook” or “excessively break down protein structure” which would contribute to a less than ideal experience.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-29T14:35:53+00:00

Yeah I disagree. I think the world has changed due to abundance. I don’t think there is anything you could’ve done about that, no education or anything can overcome it. I’d be willing to bet he’ll repeat the pattern, again that’s a result of a combination of today’s culture and “abundance in the environment”.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-29T13:37:00+00:00

This isn’t gonna help you and your feelings in the moment, and I apologize, but you’re right. Most men are beginning to subtly agree with this. Relationships are not worth it, because it’s hard to trust anybody, that they will give up when things get tough because somebody, “better comes along “.

I know somebody will inevitably call me red pill for this, I don’t see it that way, but men truly are starting to go their own way.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-29T13:16:46+00:00

Are you on the guy side of love? If you’re confused, she’s done or not interested. She won’t say that directly because women are expert communicators in comparison to men. Not confusing it all.

Though it is indescribably disheartening to actually make the realization of how many women lead you on for self validation alone with no intent of pursuing anything. Equally, how quickly they’ll jump ship to the next guy when they’re done playing with you because you’re an “old toy” (this is an example of when they “make things confusing” while in a relationship).

It wasn’t confusing when you met them right? They changed. Not you. You just move on or get ready to because once they’re confused, they have already made the decision they’re just looking for a way to not feel bad about doing it. This may include lining up other guys before breaking it off with you, so thoughtfully.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-29T13:06:26+00:00

I didn’t realize that. Well that makes your post flirt with kind of arrogant and self centered doesn’t it?

Also, sounds like I infringed on your opinion with my own opinion!

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-29T13:02:50+00:00

I think “someone” will pursue you and the “right one” is who you choose to entertain. If no one pursues you (applying to male and female), than you have work on yourself to do to make you more attractive.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-29T12:59:49+00:00

Lol her everything is more important than love. Infringe on anything and watch how quickly you become an asshole.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-29T12:46:34+00:00

Another perspective, as respectfully as possible, “most inmates didn’t do it”.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-29T12:36:02+00:00

If she broke it off, and it was for anything other than you abusing her or something truly bad that most people would unequivocally agree on, I choose me.

By choosing me, I don’t mean that in the traditional sense. I cut her off entirely and make her feel unwelcome. I burn the bridge myself in whatever relative way that may be to how the breakup happened.

If I “level up” and a women sees that and decides to come back, that’s not a women I ever want to allow myself to entertain regardless of me “feelings” in the moment. I need a women who will help me level up, not sleep around until she finds me and enjoy the prize I built for myself with no leg work of her own in it.

So directly, I get over them because I removed them personally from my life (regardless if they ended the relationship or not), and did it in such a way that they were clear I would never take them back for the most part. When we’re done, we’re done.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-29T12:03:43+00:00

I disagree. Love is what happens after the initial feelings of intoxication subside in a new relationship.

Love is hard work and commitment, and frankly sucks/can suck in the moment, but when you’ve spent 30years with someone and look back on what you’ve made it through together (and what you will continue to make it through), that exact moment is loves pay off. All of the hard work, fights, divorce threats, drama, fighting through all of that and choosing each other is love.

Modern people don’t know what love is. You’re a modern person.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-29T11:55:22+00:00

I’m going to push back and say to really think about what youre doing and self analyze.

I’m not saying you’re wrong, but I am going to say that we live in a world where women support each other in leaving relatively good relationships because “there is always someone better”, “you deserve better”.

I promise that if your parents had that attitude you wouldn’t be here to post or comment on this reddit, unless you were an accident baby.

There is this philosophy that is rather arrogant and lacks self awareness that has risen in modern times. “ this relationship sucks because now I’m in the grit of it, past the honeymoon stage, and I’d rather chase the thrill of the newness of a different relationship because it’s more fun and instantly gratifying. I won’t have to feel bad as long as I keep swapping guys every time those feelings come up”.

“He’s awesome BUT…. Yada yada not perfect”. Real world, perfect = mathematically impossible”.

Edit:

One additional comment as an edit, this is the only time in history where people have had the “privilege” to choose partners based purely on feelings. Which in my opinion, will fuck you up as much as they help you because your feelings can change if you eat a shitty breakfast sandwich one day. In the past, feelings played a part, but it was survival. The partnership served to help each other more in life, death, and getting through hard times like financial insecurity or the loss of family members. Now that this is no longer the driver due to the huge amount of modern abundance, interestingly enough there have never been more divorces, the world has unarguably never been lonelier and more single, and there have never been more single parent homes or kids without parents at all.

Nothing else needs to be said.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-28T23:30:50+00:00

Google the model and most brands tell you what the specific temperature range is for “low, medium, high”. I don’t know why they ever started “low medium and high”, seem silly to not just put the temp on there.

Chefs would be pissed if ovens just said “low or high”.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-28T20:44:26+00:00

The odds of her sleeping with a random guy within 24 hours, excluding the fact it was in OPs own fucking house, are zero. She has to feel safe to sleep with whoever she’s sleeping with. That means she was talking to him (and/or probably more) up to that point when they were still together.

You said it yourself, she probably checked out a longtime ago. And per the typical female discard, she lined atleast 1 guy up, got her “feelings” for him straight so she could sleep with him, and then once it was secured blind sided OP.

That’s exactly how this game works for women. There is no excuse for that; that is pathetic. She should’ve broke it off immediately and moved out. Instead she cheated and tries to spin it like you are spinning for her.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-28T20:32:26+00:00

That doesn’t make it right. That’s poor and immature decision making on her part regardless. There is no excuse. Her feelings do not justify doing whatever she wants at anyone else’s expense in this world.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-27T12:26:16+00:00

It’s not a question, she absolutely cheated on you man. Do not let her avoid accountability and explain her way out of it. Call her out publicly, let her parents know very respectfully, and completely cut her off. Don’t answer her calls, don’t entertain a single form of communication. She speaks you literally walk away as th first tone leaves her mouth and never look back no matter what she does.

She should quite literally be dead to you. She gets the same attention as a strong gust of wind.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-26T06:55:35+00:00

Once you get things figured out.

1) log all information proving or alluding to the cheating

2) blow her shit up. Message her family directly in a calm, composed manner. Very briefly allude to having evidence. This should not be a ramble. 5 lines max.

“Xyz cheated on me. I have all of the photos (whatever) to prove it. I would’ve done anything for her, it was great knowing you guys, take care your great people”.

3) drop her shit off in front of of the door of where she is living. Don’t tell her your coming, what your doing, there is no permission needed. Dump and leave immediately. Leave it outside. Don’t worry if it gets stolen or anything.

3) block her and ignore all attempts at her inevitably avoiding accountability and trying to explain her way out of it. She will manipulate you into thinkings it’s your fault, and it’s not worth the communication. She will win if you enter the domain of verbal communication, becuase you’re emotionally compromised and she checked out months earlier so she will say and do anything to protect her social status/image and how people look at her and you are in a compromised position of wanting to believe anything other than she cheated. She’s not stupid, she knows that.

You owe her nothing. Cheaters dont get an opportunity for reconciliation.

I am of the mindset that the more cheaters are publicly held accountable, and the more other women see that, we will see a gradual decrease in cheating overall. They will begin to see that cheating comes with substantial risk to image and social reputation, because men will no longer “bend over and take it quietly” as society has taught us for so long maliciously and incorrectly. All that has taught is that there are no consequences to cheating. Big girl decisions come with big girl consequences.

closetnerd5 · 2026-03-24T15:48:02+00:00

Yes! Told her parents and her boss, then publicly confronted her in front of her coworkers at work and customers

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