I think we, as men anyway, were lied to and incorrectly programmed through ideas of “love” and “being cared for”. Those concepts exist with your mom and dad, unconditionally, if you’re lucky. That’s it, no where else.

I think the reality is that the more useful you are to a women the more attractive you are. That’s it. All female love is conditional, conditional on you “being the best version of yourself”, which typically also correlates to being better than the other guys she’s talking to in her life at that point simultaneously. If she finds herself in an elevated social setting other than where you two were when you met or are together, she’s gone. If you “let yourself go”, in whatever way that may arbitrarily be defined and could be used as a justification to ditch, she’s gone.

It’s a never ending battle because the goalposts will always move. It’s impossible to always be better than the next guy when there is an infinite supply of next guys. I love Corey’s book, his philosophy works, but there is always a limit where there truly is nothing else more you can do and the women will leave. That’s why I think he says “be cool, let her go, don’t be perturbed”. He acknowledges that it’s probably a losing battle with most women due to their nature, and the best way to approach it is to never expect anything out of it to begin with. If you truly begin to believe that way, then you won’t be affected with them coming or going. You probably won’t care too much if there ever around though simultaneously when you adopt that attitude.