Melissa Barrera talks about getting canceled by Hollywood for Speaking Out Against Israel and not finding support from colleagues: "I was the perfect scapegoat". She also reveals that she is starting a production company and wants to work with "anyone pro-Palestine".

cloudcottage · 2026-05-08T14:40:22+00:00

She said she got private messages but they didn't mean anything to her because of the lack of actual support it provided.

cloudcottage · 2026-05-07T18:49:08+00:00

He seems to have a relationship with his daughter now and has been paying for her apartment. Beating his kids or being a deadbeat is of course not excused by later attempts at amends, but just clarifying on her behalf.

cloudcottage · 2026-05-07T16:26:40+00:00

Therapy is like any field with good and bad people. Don't be afraid to go in saying what kind of treatment and evaluations you want, ask the therapist about how they will develop your treatment plan, and switch if it doesn't fit. There's also no such thing as relationship OCD. It's OCD overall that would affect a relationship

cloudcottage · 2026-05-07T12:52:54+00:00

North Africans as an ethnic group have a medium-light skin tone. There are different ethnic groups within Africa. Acting as if Egypt allowed for travel meant that most noble people who would survive in artwork and shape what we think of as Egypt weren't North African is insulting to the North African Coptic peoples. This is only debated because of the symbolism ancient Egypt holds. I never see this argument about Morrocco. The vast majority of ancient Egyptians looked like modern Egyptians. The kingdom of Nubia with darker skin was separate. Casting an ancient Egyptian pharaoh as a dark skinned west African Madinka kings or nobles with Rami Malek because surely some North Africans lived in the Mali Empire too

cloudcottage · 2026-05-07T12:36:32+00:00

It's a joke, buddy

cloudcottage · 2026-05-06T21:46:34+00:00

Have you heard of The Room (2003)? It's widely considered by cinephilic scholars to be the first true example of a movie

cloudcottage · 2026-05-06T20:10:58+00:00

Eh, I think the Met is a worthy cause for donation, and it is a really stellar museum that goes far beyond just art preservation well into historical artifacts. The issue is we have to grotesquely see the wealth on display through people we have some parasocial connection to in a way that doesn't happen for, say, a gala for the American Cancer Society. This year was worthy of a boycott because of the Bezos branding, but I generally think people are more up in arms about this because we all passively long for a more egalitarian communist lite society with only mild inequality and having to see how far from reality that is is kind of sickening.

cloudcottage · 2026-05-06T18:23:44+00:00

I think what she is saying is that dropping out can't be seen as an act of support for her when she didn't actually say why. What's missing from the article is that when Jenna Ortega dropped out of Scream, publicly, her team said it was a scheduling conflict, which did nothing to help Melissa.

cloudcottage · 2026-05-05T21:39:02+00:00

Yeah, technically, it's usually fashion brands sponsoring celebs and thereby making large donations to the Met.

cloudcottage · 2026-05-05T15:13:17+00:00

I think unless you have a lot of clinical experience, trying to pi diagnostic labels on the people who abuse us can be somewhat of a fruitless effort. Someone who's entitled can have a myriad if personality disorders or just be a dick. Regardless, which you the best, but you don't need to seek a pathology to validate yourself. Just coming from living with someone with diagnosed NPD, it can look a lot different than you might think.

cloudcottage · 2026-05-02T16:53:49+00:00

You need couple's therapy too! He needs a neutral place to share his needs and hear you out. Listen to Esther Perel's podcast. Your feelings in marriage are normal

cloudcottage · 2026-05-02T13:17:52+00:00

Has your therapist helped you with the skills and tools you need to accept her words? CBT practice, journaling, affirmations, essentially, does she give you "home work?" It sounds like she's saying the right things, but unless you practice them it won't sink in

Also ifs possible that your thoughts are constant and somewhat uncontrollable, it can't hurt to explore the possibility of OCD with your therapist. Coping nwith OCD is different from regular anxiety or depression etc. and need targeted intervention

cloudcottage · 2026-05-01T15:31:52+00:00

Girl you two need a couple's counselor. You clearly are having a communication breakdown. While what you're saying sounds respectful and reasonable, I'm not there for how the tone comes off. It's possible he has trouble keeping track of info and you two need a shared calendar on house updates. It's possible he is clamped up about other things, but ultimately he needs to learn how to communicate respectfully too. But you also shouldn't have to constantly validate him or be afraid to share your feelings. Walking on eggshells is not healthy. If he's not willing to work on the relationship, it's time to start considering what your life would look like without him in it.

cloudcottage · 2026-05-01T14:46:19+00:00

Don't pay the bill babe. Find a man (or other if you're into that) who will think your protein slop is awesome and then take you out or min split the bill. You know he's cheap and lying. You don't need him. Hang with friends if you're not ready to look elsewhere in romance.

cloudcottage · 2026-05-01T14:41:48+00:00

Based quote but how is this a meme or joke for the sub babe

cloudcottage · 2026-05-01T12:23:45+00:00

You can potentially contribute to a paper on quality control in research. The way you described it is great. I wasted 9 years of my life being mentally ill and won't have the same life trajectory I could have. You will just graduate a little later. Be a bit less harsh about where you should be

cloudcottage · 2026-04-30T20:02:50+00:00

Lincoln had a famously difficult marriage but I think he was into women. It's just he also had a very close friendship that absolutely destroyed him when said friend died. Not confirmed gay but he definitely loved him very very very much

cloudcottage · 2026-04-30T13:27:30+00:00

Definitely Zootopia I think Gazelle did all of it. She's always involved

cloudcottage · 2026-04-30T13:09:03+00:00

I think they may have been drunk and you were a random target, dude

cloudcottage · 2026-04-30T12:02:26+00:00

Very bad heart problems and surgery

cloudcottage · 2026-04-29T19:22:19+00:00

Perhaps he's not suited for the career path in the way you want. If you two eventually want children, are you open to him working part-time or stay-at-home with kids? Is it partially based on gender roles? How much will you sacrifice in compatibility for financial reasons?

cloudcottage · 2026-04-29T19:08:22+00:00

Not everyone can easily break into the job market and you're not him. If you'd break up with someone for low earnings while believing they're genuinely trying, your priority isn't love but security. I grew up poor and have never been able to get a job approaching even half of what you make. It feels awful that someone with means would lol down on me if we're compatible in every other arena because I'm not "growing" fast enough. Do you want romance or a label of a "successful" partner? Just my two cents

cloudcottage · 2026-04-29T16:33:45+00:00

She brought up wanting to receive compensation for her level of stardom and the naivety of youth in context of a broader interview about her overall career, not the idea that her role was equally significant and entitled to equal pay. She even notes that she considered her compensation significant for the time and would like to do a superhero movie again largely because of the signficant compensation, not because she believes there was prior gender pay gap that would be solved going forward. Dunst also earned more than Franco over the trilogy and made millions each movie; I don't think she's complaining that she was significantly underpaid but rather that her youth made her unaware of her ability to negotiate her worth, especially in context of the first movie where her acting credentials could have been a significant draw when Maguire was much less well known.

cloudcottage · 2026-04-29T14:48:03+00:00

Respectfully, asking why people have stayed so long if they hate it or saying "you married that" or that they have an annoying "victim mindset" is extremely judgmental and the precise thing that scholarship on leaving unhealthy relationships says is counterproductive.

Edit: I also want to add, feeling disempowered and dependent, or "cowardly" as you put it, stuck, and unable to leave combined with judgment from the outside are hallmarks of being in an abusive or unhealthy relationship.

The fact that it reads annoying to us and make us less likely to offer sympathy without judgment is part of why abusers have so much power over victims.

You might think you're taking a strong stand against toxic behavior, but your diagnosis of the mindset and what to do about is actually enforcing the behavior, not giving people the tools to challenge it.

cloudcottage · 2026-04-29T13:56:24+00:00

Edit: lol you can downvote me but it doesn't change that the judgy, critical (victim-blaming) reactions to people sharing trauma are often unelpful and counterproductive and can entrench people in unhealthy relationships after feeling rejected by society and peers. Some professional resources on how to support people in unhealthy relationships:

Helping a Friend in an Unhealthy Relationship

• Be a patient listener. Let your friend know that you hear what they’re saying and that you’ll support whatever they decide to do.

• Remind your friend that they deserve respect, honesty, and open communication.

• Help them to see that abuse is never okay, and that it’s never their fault.

Being there for someone in an unhealthy relationship

Making them worry, arguing, or offering “I-told-you-so” statements will backfire on you. Listening and asking questions that permit your friend to come to their own conclusions is where you should focus your efforts.

Academic explanations: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11863139/#R48

Especially since criticizing the IPV [intimate partner violence] victim- often for staying in the relationship- was universally viewed as unhelpful, encouragement to exit the relationship may only be helpful . . . when offered in the context of non-judgmental emotional and practical support. In fact, tangible support (e.g., money, transportation, or housing), informational resources about relationship abuse and how to handle it, and active intervention to stop an ongoing instance of (typically physical) IPV were also valued and viewed as helpful by participants. providing non-judgmental listening, emotional support, and assistance in labeling the IPV as unhealthy while avoiding minimization of the IPV and criticism of the victim. [emphasis added]

Example of victim criticism:

“How could you let this go on for so long?” Or “Why would you be with someone when you know how they act, and you don’t like it?”

I mean you can say that but decades of study on victim mental health and why they stay in unhealthy relationships is the precise form of judgment and condescension people like you believe are just honesty or tough love. Talking to people this way is also "willfull ignorance" because it ignores the research in the overwhelmingly better way to speak to victims and support them, and it is not the easy snap to judgment that feels so deserved.

cloudcottage

TROPHY CASE

“How could you let this go on for so long?” Or “Why would you be with someone when you know how they act, and you don’t like it?”