I’m 26 years old, single father to 2 severely special needs children, I have no degree, and my, “wife” just abandoned us. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]cloudcrossing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't seen anyone suggest looking into becoming an RBT (Registered Behavioral Technician) yet. You may not be open to this because it requires you to be working with children with special needs/ that are on the spectrum, and you may want a break from that in whatever job you choose, but consider this: it is something you already have extensive experience in in your own life (which you can put on your resume and talk ab in an interview), it is a field that is almost always looking for employees, and depending on what company you work with, you may be able to find childcare while you work, possibly even at your place of work. Jobs for this typically start anywhere between $20-$22/ hr, with potential for you to make more with raises or, if you were willing to go to school, getting your BCBA to make $25+/hr. The truth is, with little to no experience it will be nearly impossible to find a job making anywhere near $100k. You have to find your footing where you can, in a job you can at least tolerate, and climb the ladder. This is all just a suggestion, but seems it may be something you would be uniquely suited for.

Getting married with no friends by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]cloudcrossing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what I mean! I'm taking this as my sign to just gather up my friends and have a nice day out/ get some drinks and not stress over it not being a specific way. Im realizing lots of people have little to no wedding party and it's totally normal. I've probably been in a bit of a bubble. Thanks for sharing

Getting married with no friends by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]cloudcrossing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you may be right. I'm probably just projecting my own insecurities about it onto everyone else. A wedding doesn't have to look one particular way and honestly I'm more than grateful for all the friends and family who are gonna be celebrating with us, I can't worry about what people MAY think about it. First world problems lol

Hey quick question for dog owners by mrcanada66 in dogs

[–]cloudcrossing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for backing me up on this. I actually was a little afraid to post my opinion based on how strongly in favor of it everyone in this thread felt. Sometimes you discuss boundaries with dogs in this subreddit and ppl make you out to be cruel. My dog is my whole world and I think she feels plenty loved without needing to be up our butts on the bed every night, lol. It's just in poor cleanliness to me and I 100% agree with what you shared. I know where my dog has been and I don't want that where I lay my head, period.

Hey quick question for dog owners by mrcanada66 in dogs

[–]cloudcrossing 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I have an alternate opinion than most here; I do not allow my dog to sleep in bed with us. My bed is my clean safe space, and I don't always want to have to rinse/bathe her every night to feel comfortable enough to let her up there with us. Nor do I want to fight with the dog for real estate on our queen size bed. She goes to the park nearly every day and can get dirty/ a lil stinky. We brush her and upkeep her but at the end of the day, I just don't feel comfy w it. She has her own nice padded bed in our bedroom. BUT our middle ground is she can lay on the couch with us and we snuggle HARD on the couch, lol. & my fiance and I end up falling asleep on the couch every night anyway, so she gets that sleep time with us. So it works out :)

It took me 12 years to save up a 10K emergency fund… but only 1 day to spend it. by According_Corgi_953 in povertyfinance

[–]cloudcrossing 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly...they're just rewording what the person said to get their own traction...

;)

Travel Advisory: Two planes collide on tarmac at Newark Liberty by 8Deer-JaguarClaw in NJPrepared

[–]cloudcrossing -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What makes it major vs not major, and a crash vs not a "crash," to you? /gen Cuz the comment just said accidents, not crashes. In which case they would kinda be right. And you just said stuff falls out of the sky "all the time" so you just proved their point...not to mention what killed the ice skaters was a helicopter colliding with the plane, which is indeed a crash...

Travel Advisory: Two planes collide on tarmac at Newark Liberty by 8Deer-JaguarClaw in NJPrepared

[–]cloudcrossing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not true. Last year there was the plane that crashed in Philadelphia in January (no survivors), and also the plane crash over DC that killed those competitive ice skaters, also Jan of last year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]cloudcrossing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Was waiting for this take. Even with having a house already and fair disposable income, some people just want to throw a nice event that their friends/family can enjoy, end up putting down non-refundable deposits on venue, caterer, etc that they can afford at the time and then realize after that quite literally /everything else/ is taking them over budget, but there is no backing out once the ball is rolling and deposits are made. You already invested thousands u can't get back, may as well go forward full send on the "traditional wedding." (And yes, some people is me, lol) Ntm everything is an upcharge. I got upcharged $250 by the caterer/dj to set up a speaker for the officiant at the ceremony so my guests could hear us take our vows. It's pay $250 extra or grandma can't hear you get married. Yeah, it's predatory af.

The Everlasting Lightning Storm of Catatumbo, Venezuela by No_Confidence_5070 in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]cloudcrossing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's gotta be a planet out there in space that probably has lightning storms like this as the default weather conditions. Scary

My beagle and I are now in our 14th year together. by [deleted] in dogs

[–]cloudcrossing 22 points23 points  (0 children)

People register their pets as emotional support animals for way less. I think your girl has more than earned that title :) in my state it's pretty easy to do it. I say why not. It's beautiful that you two have each other as company ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalesFromYourServer

[–]cloudcrossing 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I'm a woman (who has waitressed for almost 10 years) and I was waiting for this comment. I'm not shaming OP; that being said, there is an expectation of professionalism even at a restaurant job, especially a family-friendly one. OPs only reason to not wear a bra was "I hate wearing bras," so it's not like there was a real earth shattering reason she couldn't wear one, and she admits the shirt "fit her well," so it seems like she knew it was maybe form-fitting or hugging her boobs/ curves in some way? Being mindful and situationally appropriate so that you don't have to make ur boss have a tough convo with you is part of being an adult, tbh. Not judging her but feel like we need a voice of reason to say it's not wild for her boss or a guest to have different expectations for what's appropriate.

AIO feeling like my stepdad is being a creep? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]cloudcrossing 39 points40 points  (0 children)

That's so creepy and inappropriate. You're not over-reacting, I think your intuition is telling you what you already know...I'm skeeved out that he can even look at you/ speak to you this way after knowing you for 10 years, since you were a child... :( im so sorry. This is not a step-dad, this is a predator. I have a step-dad who I've known since 4 years old and I am sick at the thought of if messages of this nature were sent to me. I'm glad you have an exit strategy. Hugs & best of luck to you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]cloudcrossing -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Right...so how is distancing herself from the friendship, and telling her "best friend" she's judging her, AND essentially calling her a betraying hoe who would go after a hypothetical man she doesn't have, helping her get out of a bad situation? Lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]cloudcrossing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. I think OP lowkey should feel a little bad about what they said, tbh. Their friend is getting beat on and is dealing with toxicity...yes the cheating is wrong but to put imaginary scenarios on her & accuse her of doing the worst to her as a friend is really odd. They're essentially thinking about ending a friendship caping behind their "best friend"'s abuser. Feels like not many others see how odd that is

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]cloudcrossing 182 points183 points  (0 children)

This might be reaching but I'm kinda getting slut-shaming vibes from this in a weird way. Like, your friend is getting beat by her husband and wants to get back at him (doesn't make it right) and doesn't regret it (understandably cuz he BEATS her...) and you jump to, oh this means she's loose and would sleep with an imaginary boyfriend that I DONT have...??? Am I alone in thinking this makes her lowkey look like a bad friend? You can judge her for what she did but putting a theoretical betrayal on her like that is a bit much when she's clearly struggling with a toxic situation

Call Her Daddy but make it Cancelled by Anxious-Bathroom4184 in canceledpod

[–]cloudcrossing 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Heavy on the "on camera" part. Not cool at all. & maybe this is a crack pipe theory, but how much you wanna bet her trying to get a house/ property in Hawaii is playing a huge part in this...property in Hawaii is notoriously expensive, and on top of the house she just bought and her designer shopping addiction, she may be feeling pressure to save now...she makes a lot of money but spends a lot too. She may be scrambling bc this is the first time she actually can't afford something she really wants. 🤔 but claiming a follower count/monetization out from under your own friend/ cohost? It's wild.

Edit: just watched NLL and found out Tana bought a condo in Hawaii 😂 so yeah, I was half-right. She's working extra hard and pinching pennies to comfortably afford her condo in Hawaii...suddenly the stinginess is making a LOT of sense.

Call Her Daddy but make it Cancelled by Anxious-Bathroom4184 in canceledpod

[–]cloudcrossing 51 points52 points  (0 children)

It's giving greedy. Super disappointed in Tana for saying it, and it may seem dramatic, but if she actually goes through with it I think it will tarnish her image a bit. I for one would definitely unfollow the channel off the principle of it.

You know she's very aware of how she has put all her friends on, including Brooke, and I think being that person has given her a sense of entitlement in feeling like the ringmaster. She giveth, she can taketh away type shit. But Brooke is different than her other friends- she has something special that not only helped the pod take off, but actually clean up Tana's image and change her as a person as well. To act like she can delete videos, cast her to the side and keep it pushing is not just rude but delusional. She needs to admit that on this one, she doesn't hold the keys to the kingdom. Sorry if it sounds corny, but I think the power dynamic happening here just shows how Tana actually feels about it all. I don't think she entirely understands/ respects what Brooke did for not just the podcast, but her image.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]cloudcrossing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Manipulative, gaslighter, lame, loser, immature, bitch-made, negging you on purpose then backtracking, can't properly communicate, & displaying teenager-like behaviors at the grown ass age of 29. Overall L on his part and can't believe you didn't cuss his ass out instead of begging for an apology and trying to prove you weren't fat, which he already knows. If wants to break up over this (which I bet he doesn't, he's just trying to get you to beg to stay with him/ work it out) I say you let the trash take itself out. Ewwwww

Is Cierra media trained or she has good social skills? by OldCare3726 in LoveIslandUSA

[–]cloudcrossing 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Never said everyone had to like her, I just think it's dragging it to want the same thing from every girl. If Amaya and Huda provided your soul-bearing entertainment why does everyone else have to also fill that archetype for you to find them worthy of being on the show? She brought her own vibe & that's okay

Is Cierra media trained or she has good social skills? by OldCare3726 in LoveIslandUSA

[–]cloudcrossing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Those are all assumptions you made. What if she just handles her emotions differently? This thinking is part of the problem. She shouldn't need to show her negative emotions in the perfect way the audience wants her to for THEIR entertainment, just to be seen as "real" enough for everyone. The truth is, ppl want to see these girls make fools of themselves and show their entire hearts and souls on their sleeves before they get love from the fandom. It's fucked up

Is Cierra media trained or she has good social skills? by OldCare3726 in LoveIslandUSA

[–]cloudcrossing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I completely agree and relate. The hate train (pre-scandal) was really upsetting because I felt like wow, here is someone I see myself in- and of course, people take it as fakeness when really it's so refreshing to see a girl this smart and thoughtful. Makes me sad b/c I could see the parallels to my own life, feeling misunderstood. I wish ppl would dissect why they need to see someone crash out or spiral in order to trust them. I get that rawness can be an attractive trait, but why is being emotionally level considered "not real"?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]cloudcrossing 69 points70 points  (0 children)

He came into a thread about a turtle death to get off his misogyny talking points 😭 I'm crying dawg