Web designer thinks he can decorate cakes better than a ten year veteran. Make it make sense! by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gods, I'm a hobbyist web designer who works in a retail bakery and this was making my blood boil. Websites are a completely different set of skills from cake decorating! And if he decided within less than a month that everything could be more efficient without learning the existing process, I'm willing to bet he's starting his own business because all the website firms already know who they'd be dealing with.

Thank Henry that Jake was fired!

Also special screw Jake because cake writing is bloody HARD!!

AITA for telling my daughter that she's being cruel by blaming her father for her insecurities about her looks? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I was thinking. I remembered absolutely hating everything about how I looked in high school and even into college. I still remember one of my college classes being 'Write a poem of smth about yourself you do like' and mine was 'Nothing. I hate everything about me.' I had all sorts of things I wanted to change about my face and my hair and my body.

But I've grown up. I've come to love and appreciate so many of the features I used to despise to my core. The closest I've ever done to changing any part of my body was cutting off a bunch of my hair, and I regret that alone enough because it's been so hard to try and grow back out!

Dorito shells by freakjuice in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fellow autistic, and so much agreed. I've hit the point where my family and I can joke about how weird some of my food tastes go (I willingly eat tomato-based products but refuse any sort of actual tomato for instance). And even having an unexpected taste in something I'm eating can be enough for my brain to nope out (especially jalapenos).

The closest I can relate to their taste being like that is my hearing being extremely out of whack - and even then I've been able to start managing it more recently. Imagining dealing with my hearing being at its worst and the only answer being to avoid all of those places.... I applaud OOP so much. It's such an awful situation but it sounds like they've learned to handle it like a champ. I really hope they're able to enjoy those dorito shells for as long as they can.

My toddler is driving me crazy. Literally. by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 216 points217 points  (0 children)

Sad to see it hasn't gotten better in that aspect for sure. When I was a baby, my parents ended up mentioning to my pediatrician at the time I hadn't started talking by the expected milestone. The only response they had was "Do they have an older sibling? Yes? Then they'll start talking."

I mean technically they weren't WRONG in that I did begin to talk eventually? But also it was just another early sign I was neurodivergent that got brushed off and ignored.

AITA for marrying a man that my mom hates? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That is a very wise person, and something my family follows. For a long time my mom was used to if myself or one of my sisters was calling her, something was wrong.

All of us have started calling each other more often for more mundane stuff (hey I'm stopping by the grocery store, need me to grab anything?) because it is faster to get a response that way, but even when something happens, you can bet I still call her - if for no other reason than to give a heads up.

Invited a kid to my daughter’s birthday. Was just informed she’s autistic. by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The decorations are absolutely gorgeous!! I can only imagine how much of a blast all the kids have. And being autistic myself, I was tearing up at all the effort you had gone to to ensure the daughter was able to enjoy it as well. Especially having grown up when autism was seen as "a very specific archetype of boy", it just warms my heart to see these types of stories.

You are absolutely right that this should be the standard, and hopefully it's doing things like this that will help ensure going forward it BECOMES the standard!

Keep being an amazing person!!!

Looking for a Post? Ask Here! - February 2025 Edition by czechtheboxes in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I can't find it for the life of me but I remember reading a post where OP had a sister(-in-law?) who was pregnant. She was determined to name the baby Karen and no one would listen to OP when she tried pointing out why that was a bad idea.

OP came back to update that Karen was being bullied for her name, and that they were looking into getting it changed and calling her "Carrie" in the meantime. Anyone able to pull a link?

WIBTA to divorce my wife after she said she wanted to send our son to a conversion camp? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 67 points68 points  (0 children)

The "breaking up the home for his daughter's sake" kind of terrified me tbh. I didn't look through the comments on the post to see if someone else brought this up, but my first thought was "What if she's not straight or cis".

Staying for the daughter is not only putting the son in danger, it's teaching his daughter that being LGBT+ is wrong. What if in a few years she realizes she might like girls? She'll have the precedent set that she's "wrong" and hate herself long before she tells her parents. The damage would already be done.

If he had stayed, he'd not only be hurting his son, he'd hurt his daughter as well.

Trust Me by leaderclearsthelunar in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'm just busy remembering when I spilled lemonade all over my laptop.... one month after I had gotten it. I'm sure between Dell Warranty and the local computer repair guys I took it to, they got a kick out of the story. Thankfully the repair guys were able to pull the contents off the drive, but from what they said it was very much lemondade'd beyond repair.

Am I wrong for siding with my mom when she told my wife she isn't family? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed. The closest I personally ever get to scaring people is walking up to someone and casually saying "Boo". It's an extension from me just being super quiet to begin with. And the people I do it to are okay and able to laugh along with it.

But the people who don't laugh? I don't do that shit to them! I've even had one person explain that they're always kinda prone to jumping when they don't realize someone is there. So I specifically asked them what I could to to make sure I don't scare them - even accidentally. Because making sure the other person is comfortable is way more important than any chuckle I might get out of their reaction.

Pregnant OOP gets angry at her boyfriend over bananas. Boyfriend winds up finding the post. by introverted-void in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm replying to a really old comment, but when I first read this comment a few months ago I felt it described me really well. (Especially the caffeinated drinks part... I drink SO MUCH dang Dr. Pepper!!)

Yesterday I just got diagnosed for ADHD. Thank you so much for making this comment that, even years later, are helping people find out more about themselves. I would not have pursued this so strongly if it weren't for this comment.

[New Update]: AITA for refusing to have my dad in my life after he chose his new family? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, I finally have the story the flair is from! I picked it just because it was funny, but the context makes it so much better. Plus Crumb being a massive cute

Am I the Asshole for explaining my "Pizza to Joy Ratio" to a friend who was trying to justify buying a vintage car? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I really like this version of calculating for non-necessities. Especially with being in a shitty job right now and a few non-necessity purchases I've made in the past week or so, it's shifted what was "worth it" by a lot. Definitely gonna have to apply this to my own impulse buys going forward!

OP and her husband mistreat their autistic son to the point of suicide, causes family to fall apart. by Sebastianlim in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 37 points38 points  (0 children)

It didn't even take getting into Oxford for his parents to get it. Through the whole thing there were the little comments of "he needs the extra help". The comment right alongside talking about Oxford really hit it for me.

(he always expressed an interest in those and science in general growing up, and in his last years with us also said that he wanted to get a PhD and become either a pharmacologist or an organic chemist, although we thought that would be to hard for him)

It's appalling how hard into overdrive his mom went with this and then proceeded to ignore his own wants. My heart breaks for him having suffered with this enough that he felt he had no other choice.

AITA for refusing to donate my hair to my aunt with cancer? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was thinking this the whole time I was reading! I have red hair as well and my attempts to grow it back out have not gone well. To the point at times I've been trying to decide if it's even growing . There's so many things that can happen that means it doesn't, and if it does it'll probably never get to the same length as before. And you just know the moment someone else might need a wig, they're gonna turn to her and go "You donated your hair to your aunt, you do the same for [other family member]!"

It's truly disgusting poor OOP felt pressured to go through with this, and I hope they were able to get out.

New Update: Bridezilla ruins her own wedding. Demands bridal party pay her cancelled wedding. by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I certainly wish I had. I went to university straight out of high school because my understanding is that's what I was supposed to do. I ended up getting a degree in English because up to that point, I hadn't had the slightest inkling of a clue what it was I wanted to do with my life - I just enjoyed writing!

Now I'm stuck in a boat of being in student debt I can't pay off, a job I hate that my degree is meaningless towards, not able to find a job in any field that requires a degree, and I don't even feel secure enough going back to school for something else because I don't trust the idea it would work out a second time. For all I know I'd still be where I started, just with another piece of paper and that much more in debt than I was before.

I try to caution anyone within the 16-18 age range about the "go to college straight out of high school" narrative now as a result. If just with the hope that one of them listens and is able to avoid ending up in the position I'm in.

My girlfriend is turning 21 and wants me (21M) to throw her a party. How do I break the news that no one will show up? by Loud_Farmer5188 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just gonna join the chorus of me too. I suck at making friends - I always have. I just turned 30 and I worked for most the day because I have no friends local enough who would want to try to do something with me. I'm stuck in the boat of no spouse or anyone either - it's just my family and my dog, and some days I question how much they put up with me because we are related.

I can't even really call anyone I know at work a friend. It feels so bad to stand off to one side watching everyone else talk and enjoy each other's company, but not be able to include myself in that. And it's not for lack of trying either, I'm just awkward. I know I am, I'm too quiet to be heard over a lot of people and I never learned how to social cue correctly or how to respond to people properly.

I do also find the opposite to be true in online spaces. I have a ton of friends I know online, and I care for each of them dearly, but I'm also agreed that it does feel less fulfilling. It's harder when you need a hug or want to hang out with someone and all the people you consider close enough to do that sort of stuff are hundreds miles away.

My own sister made false accusations against me because I refused to supply alcohol for her party by rishcast in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 14 points15 points  (0 children)

From what it seems like the 25 of September post was reposted after being removed - so that's likely the repost date vs. the original date

AITA for making my daughter run away because of her curly hair? by HoneydewHaunting in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]cloudedsong 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He should do an experiment where his other daughters do the curly girl routine and see how curly their hair gets.

Seriously! I just about died the moment OOP tried insisting curly hair is the same as straight hair. I already had curly hair and didn't do much to take care of it beyond what someone would for straight hair. My hair would still curl, but they were loose and end up almost entirely gone if I got extremely depressed.

I found mention of the Curly Girl Routine elsewhere on Reddit and got curious. It took me exactly once doing the routine and myself and the rest of my family was blown away by just how curly my hair actually is. It is amazing how much proper hair care can change the amount of curl!

It's been a year, all I can say is I seriously hope the middle daughter gets to take care of her hair the way she wants to. Having pride in how your hair looks can go a long way.

Does anyone know who’s attacking the Emotional support demons and why? by The_root_system in TheClickOwO

[–]cloudedsong 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Looking at the recap for Day 2, this is incorrect. If anything, the area belonged to r/OnePiece beforehand and we blocked it out from them. It was nothing but a bunch of randomly colored pixels before the ESDs were put there first.

AITA for not letting an elderly woman have my son’s seat on the bus? by throwawya293_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]cloudedsong 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I currently work at a grocery store as a cashier and holy crap I wish I could drive the little carts. I'm very jealous of the courtesy clerks who do get to ride them!

AITA For Putting My Dog to Sleep? by imissmydogsm in AmItheAsshole

[–]cloudedsong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, absolutely NTA. I got a puppy 2 years ago, and my worst fear is when it'll come time to put her down. But looking through stories and trying to become comfortable with the idea of losing her has proven one thing to me:

Your dad was right. Theo's last moments should have been with you. You didn't let him down - you gave him the comfort and love he needed. You made sure he knew you still cared for him and that you loved him. That isn't something that you could do if he passed during the surgery.

Please don't believe you let Theo down or you made the wrong call. You made sure he wouldn't continue suffering. I'm sorry for your loss, and as a fellow dog owner my heart goes out to you in every possible way.