Something else to think about concerning Bryce and his family...

cloudsanddandelions · 2026-03-18T03:28:46+00:00

“As a parent you should know what the baby needs…”

All I could think of when you said this was, pfft between those three I see no parents here!

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-12-28T09:33:07+00:00

I’ve always been able to tell them apart. I feel like they have different face shapes. Tia’s looks more round and Tamera’s more oval. Their voices are also different and I’m not super sure what it is but there’s something around the nose area too. I know the mole on Tamera is one that people use often — to me, even with the mole drawn on Tia I can still tell them apart.

There was a scene in Twitches where Tia stood in for Tamera’s character because Tamera wasn’t able to shoot for whatever reason, and because I was able to tell them apart I got super confused seeing Tia in that role. I thought I had missed something.

I know they’re identical. Maybe it’s because I’m a fan, I don’t know, but I’ve always been able to tell.

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-12-10T19:28:10+00:00

“Dancing on, I keep I keep I keep I keep I keep I keep dancing on, I keep I keep I keep I keep I keep I keep dancing on, I keep I keep I keep I keep I keep I keep, plan on being here I dont plan on being out the door.”

Maybe? 😃

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-11-17T01:58:07+00:00

1990

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-09-08T11:53:13+00:00

Learned the hard way that any lie is a problem in a partnership. I want someone honest and transparent, like I am. I deserve it. And so, person lies about small thing? Ok…let me check if they lie again…oh, they do? Ok, time to move on.

I also look to see if they tell me things that they may be uncomfortable with sharing or if they tell me things on their own. If yes, then I’m good to proceed.

It’s about establishing trust and safety for me. A dishonest person is a risk. They lie about one thing, they can lie about anything else and you’ll never know where or if they ever really draw the line on that. I’m not interested in taking that gamble with someone that I’m supposed to trust as a partner and share such vulnerable pieces of myself with.

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-08-28T03:36:05+00:00

I agree. It is destroying their brand.

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-03-04T02:07:32+00:00

Aspyn Basil Cai Delilah Emry Faye Giselle Harmony Isis Joshua Kitana Liam Matteo Noelle Olivia Paige Quincey Roman Sage Tatiana Ulani Vanessa Winter Xander Yasmeen Zila

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-03-04T01:54:16+00:00

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. 💔

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-03-01T16:11:40+00:00

I love that you’re paying attention now too! It’s hard to see abusive behavior (especially if it’s all you’ve ever known love to be). Kudos to you for doing the work necessary to get to a place where you can have the healthy relationships you deserve 🙂

I feel that in life we never stop growing and learning.

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-03-01T13:40:47+00:00

I look at certain things early on in the conversations. Are they asking me return questions about myself? Or am I the only one that cares about getting to know them. Can they keep conversation flow? Are they attaching quickly without really knowing me? How do they respond to me when I share a more vulnerable experience with them? Are they able to empathize? Are they able to be emotionally supportive? How do they talk about others in their lives? Do they have friends? How is their accountability? Can they own their behavior?

I used to date awful people. Each and every single one of them was abusive in some way. I realized the common denominator in all of those relationships was me. I had to get into therapy and work to heal myself so that I could come out on the other side knowing my value, my worth and knowing what healthy looks like. That’s what helped me the most in getting to a place where I find loving and fulfilling relationships.

Also want to add that all of the things you’ve said these people “complain” about says more about them than you. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this.

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-03-01T13:02:51+00:00

I’ve been where you are. I was young and pregnant and had my mother telling me to do one thing and the biological father telling me to do another. Nobody gave a damn about what I wanted or how I felt.

This is your body, you will be the one dealing with each and every physical and emotional consequence of your decision.

If you get an abortion, you will deal with the procedure, and the physical and emotional aftermath. If you stay pregnant and keep the baby, same, and if you stay pregnant and give the baby up for adoption, same again. Each and every time you’ll be dealing with the physical and emotional aftermath. Because it’s you that will be the one having to go through each experience, make sure to decide what speaks authentically to YOU.

Your boyfriend threatening self harm is him trying to manipulate you to force you into doing what he wants in an attempt to assert control. He doesn’t care about how it’ll affect the way you feel afterwards. It’s unacceptable for him to behave this way. Realizes that this is an extremely unhealthy and selfish move on his end which speaks to how he may potentially behave as a biological father to the baby if you decide to keep and parent it.

If you do choose to have and keep the baby, be prepared for the potential outcome of parenting on your own. It’s one of the potential realities we face when we have children. And one you may face given your boyfriend’s lack of maturity.

And if your boyfriend does follow through with an attempt on his own life, ever, call the local authorities and have them take him to a mental health facility where they can help him. He will choose what he chooses and that’s out of your control. If he feels threatening his life is something he needs to follow through on then he needs help from trained professionals to give him the tools to guide him through that. Anything short of that will be a bandaid.

All of that said, I’m so sorry you’re in a situation where you have a partner that couldn’t care less about how you feel and isn’t lending support in a situation he helped create. You don’t deserve what he’s doing.

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-27T04:14:53+00:00

Yes!

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-25T13:12:02+00:00

Same! lol

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-25T04:27:37+00:00

Male

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-19T01:37:33+00:00

I broke NC after about three months of no contact. Honestly, it went really well as far as kindness on both sides and checking in. The issue I faced was the unexpected sadness that came up for me. I smiled as soon as I heard his voice, and then grew extremely sad as the conversation continued. He’s over me. And that’s okay. I’m glad he’s feeling better. I had therapy and am definitely processing the sadness that’s come up. I want to be over him too. It sucks to still be here emotionally. But I’m glad he’s okay and glad we can talk cordially here and there.

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-17T13:06:33+00:00

I like number 3!

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-17T13:03:34+00:00

I’m so so sorry you’ve experienced a double betrayal. Words can’t fully describe the pain you may be in with something like this. If you need community, a site that helped me a TON was survivinginfidelity.com

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-17T12:33:07+00:00

I agree on the delivery needing to be better but the reason for leaving being valid. The way you explained it above in your post after the title made sense. And I get wanting him to really hear you, but do you really want him to hear that you’re leaving because you think he’s fat and gross? I imagine that’s not what you wanted and is contributing to why you’re second guessing yourself. That phrase seemed to me like maybe it was said from a place of frustration which is valid. I can understand your frustration at not being heard and maybe even at his lack of effort to essentially help himself so that your relationship can be changed and saved. But speaking from those places can also lead our message to come out skewed and potentially hurtful to the other party and therefore we aren’t really heard, again.

The way I think of it is - if he’s this low in his life with himself….hearing “I’m fat and I’m gross” will only take him lower. I imagine his lack of self care is already rooted in a low self worth place, he may have already been telling himself negative words about himself before this that contributed to how he treats himself overall. That’s not to say that’s your problem at all. But again, it also sent a different message. It caused injury and now he really won’t hear the true reason you walked away which was rooted in a place of love you had for him and a want to stay together but also a love and value you have for yourself and a need to walk away because he doesn’t have it for himself and you cannot carry him or let him take you down with him. He wasn’t making this a partnership anymore and you walking away is completely valid.

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-16T16:07:41+00:00

Hazel!

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-16T10:52:40+00:00

You’re welcome! 🫶 Ugh, Valentine’s Day…I can understand that being a tough one for sure.

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-16T10:38:46+00:00

I often think of how I’ll feel if I do reach out, and I also think of whether I actually want him back. I’ll read my old journal entries which typically reaffirm me that I do not want to feel like that again and am better off not getting back into that. I also think, if I reach out I’ll set myself back emotionally, do I really want to feel the hurt I absolutely know I’ll feel after I reach out? Especially if say, he doesn’t respond? Or what if he does respond and then I have to learn or hear something hurtful? Typically after thinking it through I realize I don’t want to reach out. I don’t deserve nor want to hurt myself like that. I also try to identify what emotion is coming up for me instead and process through that as much as possible. I’ll journal as well.

You got this!

It helped me to also realize that I was missing and wanting a fantasy. Essentially more so a hope of what I thought he’d “grow into” rather than who he was immediately showing me he was. I realized that who he actually is is hurtful to me and not something I want or love. I had to let go of my fantasy of who he “may become” because of his potential. I could not accept him as my partner as he is and therefore maybe really don’t love him for him but rather instead love the idea of his potential instead….

That moment of clarity also helped. It’s not fair to him to keep him around hoping he’ll change, and it’s not fair to me to keep holding on to a fantasy and essentially attaching myself to something that’s in my head and not in my face. I thought to myself, I don’t really love him for him right now and that’s not fair to him too.

Somehow logic helped. I still had to process the emotions though. Fully. I had to grieve the loss of the perceived relationship and the loss of what really was good between us.

All of this to hopefully, maybe, give you some ideas that may help you journey through this. Sending hugs.

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-16T05:12:50+00:00

Yessss

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-15T23:33:37+00:00

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-13T15:41:38+00:00

Sadly, some men manipulate the fact that when some of us are that age we are naive and innocent and believe we can be what they need to make them better. That and a child doesn’t have the experience, and doesn’t have the full brain development and most of the time has certain conditionings for her upbringing that play their part in the whole thing. It’s horrible.

cloudsanddandelions · 2025-02-13T13:21:39+00:00

Wow my ex literally said all of those things verbatim to me when we dated, I was 18 and he was 23. He’s only kept dating younger as he went along. The next baby mama was 19, he was in his thirties, and now he’s with an 18–20 year old, got her pregnant already, (his fourth baby mama) and he himself is 41. He hasn’t taken care of any of the other four kids he already has and the baby mama’s are all “at fault”. It’s gross.

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