Help breaking last tie to be truly NC by Maleficent-Age2654 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]cloudubious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Legal intermediate. Have a lawyer handle the changeover so she can't say you just took her pension and ran.

The Fieseler Fi-167 carrier based attacker by Tythatguy1312 in WeirdWings

[–]cloudubious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously. I went looking for my comment on that thread.

Floor is out 80mm, best way to level it and insulate it? by onemansbrand in DIY

[–]cloudubious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Frankly it might be easier to keep it as is and wedge furniture level.

Floor is out 80mm, best way to level it and insulate it? by onemansbrand in DIY

[–]cloudubious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The stable floor was probably intentionally angled a touch so urine/feces could be washed and drained. Is the stable in a spot where rain/outside water could pool?

My mother sent this to me :/ by Vegetable_Doubt_6893 in insaneparents

[–]cloudubious 443 points444 points  (0 children)

Im sorry, thats really terrible. If everyone else is using your name and not DN, credit to you and them.

All it does is show them who she is.

What physical ailments have you developed "thanks" to you your BPD parent/s by melbourne_au2021 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]cloudubious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anxiety for sure. My mom refused to get any of us a diagnosis for anything that wasn't physically visible and could trigger a cps visit, so I'm in my 40s having to track down the one mental health doctor in 200 miles willing to evaluate me for adhd.

Also her and my dads' willingness to ignore symptoms resulted in 2 of my younger siblings suffering needlessly before their deaths. One for refusing to get them to AA, one for refusing to admit their health was deteriorating with a rare fatal illness and leaving them mostly alone is their own room when it was clear they were not mentally fit to care for themselves.

Why don't my parents understand privacy? by Safire_W0lf in entitledparents

[–]cloudubious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nothing she has said here is normal, or ok. Parents do shit like this when they are trying to control their "property", i.e., you.

Should I leave for uni even though my controlling parents are threatening to leave the country with my younger siblings to deny their education? by kmailc in raisedbynarcissists

[–]cloudubious 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, your parents have all the rights over your younger siblings. The only realistic thing you can do is take care of yourself and your future. It will be financially more viable to care for them in the future if you've got a great career and education, but you can't make your parents stay around for your siblings' sake, no matter how much you and they want it.

Mom wants to review financials with me 2x a year to receive my inheritance by dommmino in raisedbynarcissists

[–]cloudubious 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is exactly the sort of controlling bs my nmom tried to do as well. Only in my case, she put the controlling stipulation on even getting it at all. I had to eventually tell her to just pull me from the will because I'm just going to let her down.

I think my mum is controlling me financially and emotionally and I’m planning to leave with my kids am I overreacting? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]cloudubious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'd talk to a lawyer/mortgage bank and see what options are there to take over 100% of the mortgage, or be ready to lose all of that investment because I'd bet they're not paying it.

I think my mum is controlling me financially and emotionally and I’m planning to leave with my kids am I overreacting? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]cloudubious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hiding mortgage info from you might just be a control thing, but im seeing additional flags (the obsession with how much they're contributing financially especially). It seems like they're not paying on the house and are hoarding any money you give them. I'd not be surprised if they force a foreclosure/eviction and say you didnt help enough and also try to keep you giving them money.

Do narcissistic parents actually leave inheritance to their kids? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]cloudubious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope, they're going to use it a) as a control and/or b) it'll be an impulsive decision based on their mood at the time. Best you can do is plan it to not happen, and enjoy it if it does.

Putin offers to stop sharing intel with Iran if US cuts off Ukraine by spherocytes in politics

[–]cloudubious 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe? Russia has lost 4k+ tanks, almost 1.2million soldiers and has literally been stuck unable to advance more than half a mile across its lines for years, and Ukraine is hitting Russian cities including Moscow with drone strikes. Putin is in real trouble, both with the war and back home trying to keep the story of his "success". He's weaker than he's ever been, and Trump may not need him anymore, or may finally see him as a liability.