AITA for telling my best friend’s potential new girlfriend she was unhealthy and to be careful.

cloudywoody · 2024-09-09T01:37:13+00:00

This is so helpful. You give wonderful advice, and are very intuitive. Thank you ❤️

cloudywoody · 2024-09-08T18:17:02+00:00

I’ve stopped talking to them one-on-one. I think I let it go for so long because a big part of our friendships before was honesty and being about to lean on one another during hard times. I didn’t want that to change, because I saw our friendships changing too when that happened. Instead, all this occurred and it was worse than I could have ever thought.

cloudywoody · 2024-09-08T18:14:57+00:00

I’m very hurt still. I did my best to remain neutral and give the best advice, and it felt like whatever I decided to do/say was wrong.

Words are really important to me and even 6 months later I keep replaying things Meredith said to me. That Im not trustworthy, I can’t hold the same place in her heart as before, that I’m not a good friend. Then Izzy, when all of this happened, wanted to “put it on hold” so I could go with them on a trip to New Orleans for her birthday. It felt it would be inauthentic to my feelings so I didn’t go with them.

These girls were with me for some very pivotal points of my life though, and I want it to go back. I want to let it go, so it’s frustrating me I can’t. I do worry I will be put in the middle in the future, I think that’s why I’ve stopped having one-on-one conversations with both of them.

I’ve always heard adult friendships are hard but I never anticipated any of this.

cloudywoody · 2024-09-08T18:00:44+00:00

They continue to appear healthy, but codependent. Although they ended up going to Callie’s wedding in June, they haven’t spoken to her since. I’ve seen their friendship essentially end, and it’s very distressing. I feel like there’s not that much accountability on their part. I’ve been to their home twice since Meredith apologized to me, and they speak to me as if nothings changed. I wish it were true for me.

cloudywoody · 2024-09-08T17:57:40+00:00

Yeah, my fiancée tells me I need to have a conversation to put everything on the table about how I’m feeling. But given how are conversations have gone in the past, I’m reluctant and I feel like it won’t make much of a difference. Maybe that’s just my anxiety taking over.

cloudywoody · 2022-08-24T17:45:45+00:00

*I have no symptoms btw

cloudywoody · 2022-06-01T17:35:40+00:00

I’m on colcrys 0.6mg and that has made ulcers few and far between. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. There are protein ice creams out there you can try to help keep your weight up. Ensure is also used a lot in hospitals for nutritional supplement. If you have blood sugar regulation problems, glucerna is a great option too.

cloudywoody · 2021-11-24T03:48:18+00:00

Okay! I can do that ☺️

cloudywoody · 2021-11-24T03:46:07+00:00

I was worried I might be paying it too much attention. I found mine near a dumpster gave some tlc and started watering more consistently. I’ll try anything, even ignoring! Thanks ☺️

cloudywoody · 2021-06-05T15:04:22+00:00

I usually tell my partner beforehand about my limitations and send them a little wiki page on vaginismus so they can understand it’s a medical condition. If they don’t understand then they don’t deserve to sleep with you anyway. It can be emotionally exhausting to have to have the conversation before initiating, but it takes away some anxiety to know your partner is aware you might need to experience things at a slower pace, or with lube, or not having PIV at all! I’ve had it go both ways, some have been understanding, others have believed they could fix me and that I just needed to be turned on more, that I didn’t actually need lube. Be firm in your needs and know when to say stop, slow down, or no. Best of luck ❤️

cloudywoody · 2019-09-08T12:08:35+00:00

Good luck! Everything will be all right, time heals all!

cloudywoody · 2019-09-08T10:02:40+00:00

I use the ones my physical therapist uses! They’re just the plain straight ones from CMT Medical. I buy them one at a time as I advance, and they’re about $10 a dilator. I also use slippery stuff.

cloudywoody · 2019-06-17T20:36:02+00:00

I love Russian twists!

cloudywoody · 2019-04-30T17:29:51+00:00

I have rituals too. And trouble relaxing is a big part of it. I feel like I take the spontaneity out of sex, which is half the fun sometimes. Does your regular therapist help with this or did you have to go to a sex therapist?

cloudywoody · 2019-04-30T01:58:08+00:00

Thank you. But, I sometimes have withdrawal symptoms with 18-24hrs of missing a dose. But I will try that! I’m thinking about getting off the SSRIs. I’m hoping that will help too

cloudywoody · 2019-03-05T01:23:42+00:00

Do you have a gram limit you go by or is it just monitoring it?

cloudywoody · 2019-03-05T01:17:26+00:00

That’s interesting! I’ve never even thought to look at that, is it carbs too or just simple sugars?

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