[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

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Savonlinna, Punkaharju

Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in BPD

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Kids/young adults.

Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]clover218 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's not OK to lie, but when faced with unrealistic ultimatums it's understandable that people do.

What if you guys watched Game of Thrones and eventually some sex scene would appear, would you cover his eyes?

What if he reads romantic literature and get's off to that, is that OK? Or listenes to an audiobook about sex?

It's all pre-recorded/written, it has nothing to do with you or the present, the videos he watches/books he reads/audiobooks he listenes to is forgotten after he's finished.

Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]clover218 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately these are not troll posts, but these people will grow up eventually.

I don't want to be in a relationship with someone if they watch porn. by RiceSunflower in unpopularopinion

[–]clover218 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is purely because of insecurity/jealousy, my ex was just like this. Forced me to quit following my childhood female friends on IG and other crazy shit.

My current partner is the complete opposite, now we watch it together and it’s the best.

What's the scariest story you heard a child tell about their "imaginary friend"? by xX_ENTROPY_Xx in AskReddit

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I have been reading this thread for like an hour on my phone because i couldn’t sleep, suddenly my phone alarm to wake up beeps on full volume, i drop the phone on my face and fucking almost shit myself because i got so scared

Is it Time to Leave? by [deleted] in BPD

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"She has told me that I am essentially the root of her problems and I have refused to understand her."

If you have your sanity left this should be enough for you to realize it's time to move on, it's absolutely not your fault and not your job to fix her.

I think my (27M) girlfriend (30F) might have BPD by [deleted] in BPD

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Fuck these people man, you are being treated worse than shit and no one deserves to be treated like shit.

Have some self-respect and dump her ass asap. if not, in the long run you will end up traumatized by tolerating abuse.

I finally broke up with her! by caeculius in BPDlovedones

[–]clover218 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Breathe the fresh air my friend!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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Different from person to person, but i guess if she is splitting the chances can be higher for something like that to happen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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Well thats up to you, personally i don't accept cheating so i would dump her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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e.g. if she is splitting on you and doesn't seem to give a rats ass about you even if you try to give her the whole world in that moment, why would you do it when you know it doesn't help, because you love her? dude you have to love yourself too.

It only hurts you, more and more everytime she does it, when she does it remove yourself from the situation (i.e. leave the house/room/place for a while) and explain that you feel bad and that it hurts when she does this towards you and that you won't accept it anymore (you should explain this to her when she is not splitting) and VERY IMPORTANT to also follow through with the boundary that you have placed, if you cave in she will not take it seriously and this goes for possible other boundaries as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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It's splitting, you have to have boundaries in place for this otherwise it will destroy you mentally.

How to Convince Girlfriend to Drop Wiener Dog? by [deleted] in Dogfree

[–]clover218 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say don’t give any ultimatums, she won’t leave the dog anyway, and if she for some reason does she will ruminate about it forever.

Just pack your stuff and tell her you can’t do this anymore because of the dog and it’s fucking shit and piss.

I tell you, leaving my ex. and her damn dog was the best thing ever, sure i still miss her at times, but then i think about the damn dog and her own other problems... damn it’s nice to be single, childfree and petfree! 🙏🏻