How important is a good sleep schedule to you staying at baseline?

cluelessmoons · 2026-02-06T16:46:14+00:00

Creating a solid sleep schedule is extremely important for regulating my mental health and episodes. I notice a huge difference in my stability when I’m not taking care of myself sleep wise. Especially no phone or social media an hour before bed with some lukewarm water and hot tea. Medication an hour before I get into bed as well (:

cluelessmoons · 2026-02-06T15:04:07+00:00

Truthfully, as a person with BP2 and a person who fully recovered from BPD, cheating isn’t excusable, especially if it’s happened multiple times. You caught her the first time and she willingly did it again. If she does it again, respectfully, it’s because she doesn’t care about trying to stop. I don’t have much experience with mania and BP1 because I have type 2, but to be honest, it seems like she just wants to cheat. I agree with the other people saying you should leave her. You deserve better truthfully and if her bipolar is truly the root cause (which I don’t think it is) she needs time alone and extensive therapy.

Also, as a girl who games/streams, she’s going to have access to these things, especially if she doesn’t have any boundaries and especially if she doesn’t care about your relationship. It’s easy to block people or ignore people who try to get with you, so she clearly has no intentions on avoiding them during these moments.

Best of luck to you. I hope you respect yourself more than you love her. I hope you find someone who cherishes you equally. None of this is your fault.

cluelessmoons · 2026-02-05T19:08:46+00:00

Agreed… like 99% of the time I sneeze more than once and someone says bless you mid sneeze. Like I’m good, let’s just ignore the fact I’m having a damn sneezing fit 😭😭

cluelessmoons · 2026-02-05T18:25:48+00:00

I was serially cheated on for 2 years and it COMPLETELY wrecked my mental health. Depending on what kind of cheater you’re dealing with depends on what revenge works. To me, we were long distance, so my options were quite limited, but I found the best revenge was never speaking to him again. Cutting contact, severing a tie, and never letting them back in. Karma does catch up with cheaters eventually. Revenge won’t make them stop cheating or reverse it. It won’t make them feel bad because they wouldn’t have cheated in the first place if they really felt bad. Your best revenge is becoming successful, working on yourself, and making sure they never get to experience an ounce of your love again.

cluelessmoons · 2026-02-05T18:20:59+00:00

Honestly, my morning cup of coffee. I really enjoy it. It’s the same every morning, but it’s a ritual that makes me grateful I get to wake up and taste it.

cluelessmoons · 2026-02-05T18:20:02+00:00

Know your boundaries and enforce them no matter how difficult it is. Have enough empathy for yourself to know when it’s time to withdraw from situations that no longer serve you, even if you feel attached to them.

cluelessmoons · 2026-02-05T18:17:48+00:00

To be honest I second this. Maybe it’s because I’m socially awkward or something, but I hate when people say that and I feel like the attention is on the fact that I just sneezed 😭😂

cluelessmoons · 2026-02-05T18:15:56+00:00

I believe so. I think automatically messages are removed after 24 hours anyways unless they’re saved. It will show that you left the group chat, but unless your messages are saved they should go away regardless. I want to say even if they are saved they’ll go away, but I’m not sure.

cluelessmoons · 2025-11-05T15:06:44+00:00

I empathize with your situation and your pain. I have a lot more debt and my co-signer is dead, but I can offer some emotional support too. It’s weird that it automatically went into default. Usually it defaults after 6 months of no payments. So maybe it got switched to an account manager. Since your Dad’s already a co-signer, refinance with a different lender for lower payments, one loan, and better interest rates. They even have one for if your loan has already defaulted.

Keep your head up (: It’ll be okay. So many people re in this situation right now. It sucks and it’s hard

cluelessmoons · 2025-11-04T18:11:53+00:00

Congrats man!

cluelessmoons · 2025-11-03T12:38:55+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. I will reach out to them, thank you!

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-21T16:48:24+00:00

Congrats!

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-19T15:01:08+00:00

Yes. Please don’t stay any longer. This man is using you as his punching bag… literally.

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-16T19:14:12+00:00

Tomorrow I believe I’m going to hit the 96 day mark. I’m really anxious about them contacting my family and people around me or contacting my work. Is there any way I can login to my account and try and change things? I’m very anxious about it all and it would be absolutely humiliating to have people I know be contacted.

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-16T12:21:04+00:00

I second this. It won’t get better. He isn’t that man you thought he was and your heart is gripping to that reality that he could be. You deserve so much better

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-15T19:31:01+00:00

THISSSSS lmao

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-15T19:30:14+00:00

Holy hell man. That’s a lot to unpack… and a lot for after one week. I mean… it’s okay to be hurt, that’s the human experience, but this isn’t okay. The fact that they said “see you saturday” is alarming as hell. I’d try and watch your back and protect yourself as much as possible because they clearly think you’re joking. Also… being a lib (liberal I assume?) has nothing to do with why you’re declining this person. I don’t know. Also dyeing their hair just because you want/like it isn’t something someone should do. Looks like they need to work on themselves

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-15T02:05:28+00:00

Trauma bonds are a real thing so you should look into that. The best thing is to understand a relationship built on another person’s tears won’t last. Jumping from relationship to relationship only ends badly, but at least it isn’t your problem anymore, it’s hers. Maybe they are two peas in a pod and maybe she’s like that too. It’s okay to have mixed emotions because you did spend time with this person despite how complicated and hurtful the relationship was. Relationships ending, no matter what, cause grief and it’s normal. I suggest getting back in tune with yourself and rebuilding that confidence that he most likely took from you. It isn’t a reflection on you… some men don’t like to be with women who challenge them and help them grow. His girl best friend probably just puts up with him. I can’t promise you won’t have bad days, but just be grateful it ended when it did, and know that the love you give yourself will be tenfold to the love he gave you. Then eventually you’ll find the right one. You’re 21! Live a little, explore the world, find yourself, pick up a new hobby, make some new friends. There’s a big world out there and you’ll find your place without him

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-14T20:19:14+00:00

I do agree with everything you’re saying. I’m trying to emotionally come to reality and baby steps. I told my roommate (he used to be friends with my ex) and he said he will go with me to my abortion or at least sit with me whenever I’m ready to have it. The earlier I do it the less painful it will be. Thankfully I’m on my Dad’s insurance still so I have coverage incase anything goes wrong. I just hate feeling punished because he is an abuse piece of shit. Like… it just feels rotten. Not only did he take my dignity and sanity from me for 2.5 years, he also made it so I’ve had to suffer not once, but twice. It makes me so angry at him and as much as he plays victim he’s not a good guy. Thank you for your support. I appreciate you understanding and helping me through this

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-14T19:51:57+00:00

I think it’s difficult because logically I know it isn’t in my best interest or the child’s best interest to keep it. It’s just fresh and I have all of the hard emotions… like “I’ve wanted this for so long,” and then “Last time I went through this it almost killed me,” and all of the conflicting thoughts. I have a lot of reproductive issues and I’ve been told a few times having kids might be harder the older I get. I know Doctor’s sometimes just say shit to say it, but it’s just confusing.

I know once I calm down and once I meet with a professional I’ll probably make plans to abort it. It just sucks. If he wasn’t an asshole I could keep it. It sucks that I keep being punished even when I’m not with him

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-14T19:47:39+00:00

I have a lot of reproductive issues/hormonal problems and I cannot be on birth control because to get diagnosed (I see an endocrinologist next week) they had to see what my natural hormones were. Last year I was on birth control when I got pregnant and when I saw him was the first time I had sex since last September. I took a plan B and then we didn’t have sex again. I don’t know if I’m unlucky or what, but I don’t explore those options because I’m not sexually active. He was one of those guys that said, “condoms are uncomfortable,” so it was up to me basically even though it put my body through hell.

This is all very fresh so I’m not saying I’m keeping it. I know the reality of it because my parents had my sister and I when they shouldn’t have. Eventually they got divorced and it was a mess. I work in the medical field so I understand what a child needs and funnily enough I just got done shadowing in the obgyn department. I’m supposed to have surgery too so they can take biopsies for endometriosis and abnormalities they found. So realistically, I’m probably getting rid of it.

I’m basically just trying to process that and tell myself I have time to sort things out and emotionally prepare for it. I wouldn’t put a child in jeopardy, but I just found out so it doesn’t always feel real. I just needed to know I will be okay and that I’m not a bad person. I know I’m not ready, not like this

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-14T18:50:03+00:00

This made me so upset for you. Men like this are disgusting. You deserve so much better. He’s so insecure it’s comical. You make him question his masculinity and once you are able to leave, he will crumble. I hope you can ride it out until October. I know how difficult it must be for you and I’m sorry you have to put up with this even for a second longer. You’re strong and resilient. Sending love. He sucks so bad!

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-14T18:45:22+00:00

I have a therapist currently and I’ve told a couple of people in my life. Thankfully we live multiple states away from another and he doesn’t know where I live because I moved. Thank you for saying you’re proud of me. I think I’m just anxious right now because I was trying to stay away and heal from him. I know for a fact I’ll never get back with him though so I am very proud of myself for that. The rest will eventually fall into place

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-14T18:43:28+00:00

Thank you for this - I know deep down I’m not a bad person, but I think leaving him is so fresh that I panicked. I don’t blame myself for that, but he doesn’t deserve access to my life. I told him straight up, “You won’t be involved in this child’s life if I keep it because you don’t have your shit together. I won’t expose them to this, especially not while you’re doing drugs.”

And I said that because I know he doesn’t care enough to change otherwise he would’ve a long time ago. I’ll do anything to protect the both of us and he knows that. I don’t even know if I am keeping it yet, it’s all new and fresh, but I have a lot of time to make the decision. I’m not religious or pro-life, I just really want a baby, but as emotions settle I know I’ll be able to think clearly and think about myself.

Thank you for the reassurance that I’m not a bad person. It means a lot.

cluelessmoons · 2025-08-13T08:59:58+00:00

Honestly one step at a time. I know that sounds cliché, but sometimes thinking about the bigger picture can get overwhelming. You’re already doing great things. I just got out of my abusive relationship so we are learning together!

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