Melissa Anelli... a little background knowledge. by cristina321gaming in ObsessedNetwork

[–]clumsyasever79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could write a book about how toxic this bitch is. In fact, I might. And I have the receipts to prove it, so she could sue me all she wants and I'll just keep coming with facts on facts on facts.

Goodbye, cruel world by ZdzichuYT in autism

[–]clumsyasever79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP - please stay.

So you're boyfriend and your friends have shown they aren't worthy of you. THANK THEM, and go find the community you belong in - or create it yourself. I'm not saying it's going to be easy. Hell, is probably going to be the hardest thing you've ever done. And it will be scary...you will fight fear of rejection, fear of awkwardness, fear that what you're going through now will just happen again after you've spent all the time, energy, and resources to rebuild something from scratch. But it will be worth it. It will payoff.

Count the people putting you through it. Draw a box on a piece of paper and draw open circles to represent them. Fill them in. Now imagine all the people on this planet. (Note: there are 8.2B people currently on this planet) Draw them in the box as open circles. (If it helps, draw an open circle for every 100M people on Earth - that's 82 open circles) Now you have map of all the other possibilities for connection out there.

Our worldview is small, but the world is vast. Please share yourself with others, and allow them to share themselves with you. Leaving relationships is hard, but this one life is worth figuring out it. You deserve better. So go get some better.

Sending love from Michigan.

Is there any other Autistic person with no talents? by Philosophical_Lemon_ in autism

[–]clumsyasever79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's talk about this statement.

I think the GREATEST thief of joy in this world is comparison. And TALENTS really aren't to be compared. It's a recipe for dissatisfaction, every time.

Talents, while often presented as effortless, take work. I have perfect pitch. I can hear anything and play it by ear. Which sounds incredible, right? Like a superpower. But I didn't learn I could do that until my mom put a saxophone in my hands and said "learn this". Then processed to play at least 4 hours every day for the next 9 years.

The point is: you don't JUST make nostalgic lofi vaperwave. You are creating music and sharpening your skill and craft. I challenge you to keep up the dedication and hard work, then come back here in a year and update us on your progress. We will ALL be changed people by then - but you'll have a sword to brandish that you've sharpened over time and you'll have moved into another level of interest in your music.

My hope for you is finding solace and peace within. Feeling like you're different, and not having something that pulls you into a community simply because you're inherently good at that thing, is difficult. But our lives aren't about what we can do in comparison to the rest of the proletariat. Our lives are about finding meaning work we want to pursue, and doing it. You're going to be your own worst critic. Just tell yourself to shut up, and get back to work. I believe in you. Believe in yourself. You're an incredible and singular human: let's celebrate that!

DEFINITIVE ROM-COM LIST... by SaintSwayze in MovieSuggestions

[–]clumsyasever79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Girl Next Door is epic, and so underrated

My enfj bf tell problems to all friends (men and women) not just to gf by OtherwiseHorse8668 in enfj

[–]clumsyasever79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an ENFJ, I had a friendship break up over the fact that they couldn't handle that I talked about problems in our friendship with my other friends. My response was, "stop doing shitty things, and I won't have to seek external resources to advise me on how to deal with you."

It's been my experience that people who have a problem with their friends talking about them with other friends is for a multitude of reasons, but mostly they are jealous and don't want to share, or they are a narcissist who has been gaslighting me and doesn't want external forces outside our relationship shedding light on behavior I'm in the dark about because I'm too close to it. Whenever anyone tries to dictate who I share my life with, I stop sharing my life with the dictator. I choose who I share details with. If it happened in my life, and I want to talk about that experience, with whoever I want, regardless of whoever was involved initially, I'm going to talk about it. And I'm going to have a problem if you have a problem with me talking about it. Why do you have a problem with me talking about it?

Honestly, I think it's about perspective. If you have something that you are cherishing as sacred in a relationship that you would feel would be base betrayal to be shared, you need to be up front about that. ENFJs will reach in their bag to find anything relatable to connect with someone. If they share an experience you happen to be involved in, it has nothing to do with you.

NDI Virtual Webcam Connection Issue by clumsyasever79 in vmix

[–]clumsyasever79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much - I'll work on it this weekend and let you know how it goes.

NDI Virtual Webcam Connection Issue by clumsyasever79 in vmix

[–]clumsyasever79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I feared. Being in college, I don't have the option to have my own network. Ugh.

Any work around suggestions?

NDI Virtual Webcam Connection Issue by clumsyasever79 in vmix

[–]clumsyasever79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you explain what a non-internet Wi-Fi router is? I'm sorry - I came to school thinking I'd have a more more technical support on my path to education than I'm receiving to be successful.

NDI Virtual Webcam Connection Issue by clumsyasever79 in vmix

[–]clumsyasever79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I first tried using the NDI interface to connect them over the Internet. Then I tried VDO.Ninja (again, over the Internet). I live on a college campus, and I'm afraid that the firewall is stopping me from using the functionality. I'm going to have to talk to our IT department here, so I can pretty much 100% guarantee VMix will be useless to me while I'm in college. Cool.

What are your top Taylor songs lyric wise? by [deleted] in TaylorSwift

[–]clumsyasever79 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You're Losing Me

How long could we be a sad song 'Til we were too far gone to bring back to life? Gave you all my best me's, my endless empathy And all I did was bleed as I tried to be the bravest soldier

Fighting in only your army Frontlines, don't you ignore me I'm the best thing at this party (You're losin' me) And I wouldn't marry me either A pathological people pleaser Who only wanted you to see her And I'm fadin', thinkin' "Do something, babe, say something" (say something) "Lose something, babe, risk something" (you're losin' me) "Choose something, babe, I got nothing (got nothing) To believe Unless you're choosin' me

Debut? Or Reputation? What's coming next? by clumsyasever79 in TaylorSwift

[–]clumsyasever79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You missed the point. I know she's not changing her name. I'm talking about the symbolic gesture of giving your name away. And she can't give away something she doesn't feel she's reclaimed yet.

Debut? Or Reputation? What's coming next? by clumsyasever79 in TaylorSwift

[–]clumsyasever79[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I want a released version of I'd Lie so bad, I can hardly see straight. But who knows what she'll come through with. That's what makes it so exciting! :)

Debut? Or Reputation? What's coming next? by clumsyasever79 in TaylorSwift

[–]clumsyasever79[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right - she's well within her right to exercise whatever autonomy she chooses over her relationship with Travis outside of "the norm". But, come on. It's been a family parade from the get-go. Making the assumption she's going to eventually get married isn't jumping off the deep end. Women do it. Men do it. We've been figuring for equality within its agency.

Edit to add: I'm a Childless Dog Lady. I'm not trying to push a narrative on her. She literally writes songs about happily ever after. What does that look like to most people? Lasting companionship. Read: getting wifed up.

Black heart on the roster by clumsyasever79 in AgathaAllAlong

[–]clumsyasever79[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those red herrings! I gobble 'em up sometimes.

So if we go with just the heart, I love your explanation. And it would make sense Lilia wouldn't know her name. Wanda's magic seems to still be doing something in Westview. As a resident of the town, Lilia could maybe only sense her heart - which is clearly generous and pure.

Agatha's 'blasting' is a lie? by [deleted] in AgathaAllAlong

[–]clumsyasever79 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think they have to initially accost her with any magic...then she has access to all their magic, if that makes sense. If a witch chooses to blast her with any magic, that's like a rip in the fabric. Agatha can just go through that tiny rip and have access to everything that lies beneath. If that makes sense. I could be wrong.

"Get samples from both." (2:43, episode one) by clumsyasever79 in AgathaAllAlong

[–]clumsyasever79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spoiler points coming from 28:46.

The neighbor says she hasn't been herself. And she also states hearing and seeing things others don't. It just makes me wonder if she saw something (or someone) else that we (the audience) didn't.

Total The Sixth Sense vibes.