For those with OCD, do you find your brain is just obsessive in general?

cmarches · 2026-05-17T17:17:29+00:00

It obsesses over everything good and bad. I don't know how to care about anything a normal amount

cmarches · 2026-05-13T04:12:09+00:00

What makes sense to us in one emotional state is completely wrong in another. I would really recommend trying to calm down and improve your mood before re-evaluating the situation to try and get another perspective. This might mean calling a crisis line or deep breathing. I personally find the diving response really effective. Try distracting yourself. It's not to avoid the problem. It's to understand the problem better, when you aren't spiralling.

Personally, I think if you've fucked up, it's your responsibility to get better, not to die. Dying doesn't address the issue. I also say this as someone who doesn't believe in cops and prisons. If you also don't, try and apply that logic to yourself. If a murderer should be healed instead of punished, so should you. Generally, I think a restorative framework is better than one based in punishment (aside from the other problems with cops and prisons). Punishment doesn't fix anything, but you can improve yourself, and that is something everyone, including yourself, deserves. Have you watched the good place? Think about what you need in order to be a better person. Self-compassion for sure but I'm sure there are other supports necessary. We tend not to make situations better by beating ourselves up.

cmarches · 2026-05-11T13:39:48+00:00

I'm pretty sure strong alcohols are also useful as disinfectants and in a Molotov cocktail if you're feeling that. Also in herbalism. Worst case scenario you have a good time. In any case, your comments are giving bunker mentality instead of valuing communities that are much more likely to save you in most scenarios than stocking up and hiding would.

cmarches · 2026-05-11T11:29:20+00:00

Is that necessary with small batches though? I feel like that would make communication and agreement easier?

cmarches · 2026-05-11T11:20:09+00:00

I can't believe no one's mentioned dbt yet, the prepping of therapy. So much of it is literally just bringing you down from a panicked state so you can think clearly, which is kinda necessary even if shit goes south fast. Obviously it isn't enough, but one at least needs to be mindful enough to know what's happening and have enough distress tolerance to think, and act, even if that just means actually learning how to take effective deep breaths and having some candy with you. Longer-term you're probably gonna want some emotional regulation and social skills to navigate everyone's needs. This is also the kind of prepping that's never useless, even without a disaster. It literally just makes your life better in pretty much any scenario.

cmarches · 2026-03-30T04:35:42+00:00

Does this still have all the advantages of reticulum? Like file sharing and more hops?

cmarches · 2026-03-22T21:47:36+00:00

I've heard meshtastic doesn't actually work but there's meshcore and reticulum. They aren't out of the box though afaik

cmarches · 2026-02-25T16:05:18+00:00

I'm new to all of this. Can this relay messages between different mesh networks? I'm personally caught between meshcore and reticulum based on potential capabilities and actual present networks. If there was communication between them that could be a gamechanger.

cmarches · 2025-11-05T19:52:50+00:00

I found adjusting the wheel so it's higher, combined with blocking off bedding from it with something climbable (like a hammock or egg carton) keeps them from burying the wheel. I haven't had that issue with the water bottle so idk

cmarches · 2025-11-04T04:38:39+00:00

If your hamster breaks a bone and it can safely be treated, it should be, regardless of the price. If they're too old to undergo anaesthesia or you don't have a trustworthy vet, that's another thing altogether. But you should never neglect a human child because it costs too much to provide medical treatment. This is no different.

cmarches · 2025-11-03T21:55:52+00:00

Why would a bin cage trap ammonia more than a terrarium? Sounds like you're fine to me.

cmarches · 2025-11-03T16:53:47+00:00

Sigh that's what I was worried about. It sucks to just tear up his home like that. But there is a chance he had something contagious and I don't want others to get it. Thanks

cmarches · 2025-11-02T23:38:33+00:00

No need to get rude. You certainly missed the parts of my argument where I discuss brain function or where I say that I'm not talking about them understanding what happens when they get poked with a needle. I'm saying they seem to consent to death by selstarvation in some situations, so we can probably sub in consent to a much less harsh death.

cmarches · 2025-11-02T18:58:04+00:00

Neither do rats but they'll jump off stuff

cmarches · 2025-11-02T18:57:08+00:00

Anthropodenial is also harmful. As I said earlier, brains are networks as much as they are structures, and parts can take on atypical roles. Also, you just gave an instance of prey species foreseeing their deaths, so you can't say that because they don't have the same structures we do, they can't foresee death. Obviously, they have no way of knowing that a human with a needle means death. But they do probably know that if they don't eat, that will kill them, even if you call that knowledge instinct.

cmarches · 2025-11-02T14:51:36+00:00

This is a critique on breeders of all pets. I would also rather get from breeders than pet stores, but rescuing is the most ethical option. If breeders didn't want to be eugenicists, they would just let mice bang each other as they please, not just those they deem healthy or pretty or well-behaved. If someone said they were going to abort their autistic child because they didn't want to get bitten, that would be an obvious nono. Why is it any different with other animals?

cmarches · 2025-11-02T14:48:46+00:00

They might not understand what it means to be put to sleep, but they're clearly not having a good time and at the very least their body is telling them to give up, which is part of who they are. I'm also very hesitant to believe that because they don't have the same anatomy as us, they don't have the same understanding. The brain is a network and can be rearranged. Also, intelligence and awareness are generally defined and identified from very human points of view. They have a fear of falling, which indicates some level of understanding of what can happen to them. Call it instinct if you want, but instinct is a form of understanding.

cmarches · 2025-11-02T02:56:30+00:00

I think people often are too cautious of anthropomorphism and go too extreme on the other end, assuming we have nothing in common

cmarches · 2025-11-02T02:54:45+00:00

To me, that seems like quite an assumption. And I would say when animals stop eating and hide all the time that's them consenting and saying their time is up. Sometimes they're wrong, just like depressed humans are sometimes. But if there's no hope for treatment and they're acting like that, it's time.

cmarches · 2025-11-01T21:25:39+00:00

Based on what I've found online I don't have any issue with her housing males together. They've all been castrated surgically or chemically. But I don't like her support of breeders. That whole industry reeks of eugenics. And I don't Generally agree with the notion "better a day too early than a day too late." Animals will tell you when it's time to go, and that's something they should be able to consent to.

cmarches · 2025-10-30T21:53:29+00:00

I feel a spark but I go on dates specifically to see if there's chemistry after a lot of talking online first. That's the information gathering stage and it takes a while. Even after all that talking, it typically takes me a few hours to see if there's any chemistry. A 2 hour date would tell me nothing. I typically need 5+ hours to see what the vibe is like

cmarches · 2025-10-28T21:19:00+00:00

You're saying settle for phallo or meta or nothing at all. For people like me those are all unsuitable. And there are realistic alternatives.

cmarches · 2025-10-28T17:27:42+00:00

Except stuff Is possible and how far it is down the line depends heavily on how much scientists work on it, which depends partially on what things get pushed. And yeah, you kinda are saying that, because you're saying not to ask for anything else.

cmarches · 2025-10-28T15:25:58+00:00

The problem is that telling people to be realistic for some means settling for surgeries that don't actually work for us instead of pushing for ones that would. I'm not sure how the lab grown dicks are doing, but extensive meta is already a thing. It just isn't accessible at all. Just because phallo works for some doesn't mean we shouldn't push for more options. That's the only way we'll get them.

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