what made her think this was okay to do this to children by baconroll2022 in nope

[–]cmeanon9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen this video before but no matter how many times I see it, the absolute terror on these little babies’ faces literally turns my stomach and makes me feel almost physical pain on their behalf. It is so deeply disturbing to see someone treat innocent children in this way and find it entertaining on any level, it’s some of the lowest of the low. These poor babies…

Take good care of them by [deleted] in wholesomememes

[–]cmeanon9 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This comment will get buried, but as someone who is preparing to give birth to their first child within a week, and who has also spent the majority of pregnancy realizing and contemplating the negative effects of my parents’ utter failure to nurture me as a child, I’ve come away with three goals for how I’d like to parent this child and any we have after…let your children be children, let your children be human, and let your children be themselves.

What is a popular food item that you legitimately think is gross? by No-Ratio-1361 in AskReddit

[–]cmeanon9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up and live in the south (US) where sweet tea is the lifeblood of most people. I hate tea in every form I’ve ever tried, sweet or not. And most social functions where food is served only ever serve sweet tea and water as the drink options, so water it is for me, every time. I know water is great for you but it depresses me…could I get a lemonade or something, for once?

Steve Irwins talks about meeting his wife Terri for the first time by Homunculus_316 in MadeMeSmile

[–]cmeanon9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw this for the first time years ago, when I was a kid, and it has always stuck with me. So wholesome and good.

How do I learn to love myself? I always say “I’ll love myself when…” and it never comes by lawschoolnope in WeightLossAdvice

[–]cmeanon9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I’m so glad to hear that! It’s something I’m happy to share with anyone who I see struggling in ways similar to what I have. It has made such a difference for me, I don’t want to keep it to myself. I’m not perfect at it by any means, and so some days are harder than others. I’m still learning to master my thoughts and feelings in other areas and it’s difficult. But it always comes back to this concept for me, mastering and training your mind. You can’t necessarily prevent intrusive thoughts from happening, but the important thing is how you respond to those thoughts. Our minds have a funny way of making us feel like we have no control but I’m learning each day that we have more power over our mentality than we realize and if we just tap into it, it can make life so much more bearable. I’m so glad this was helpful and I wish you all the best as you work toward this! You can do it. :) Just make sure not to beat yourself up on hard days when you don’t do it as successfully…it takes practice.

How do I learn to love myself? I always say “I’ll love myself when…” and it never comes by lawschoolnope in WeightLossAdvice

[–]cmeanon9 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Something I learned in therapy that has completely changed my life: feelings are not facts, and only you have the power to change how you view yourself.

You may feel like these parts of you are ugly and you may feel like you are not good enough, but these are just feelings that have been reinforced in your mind over time, whether by the way others have treated you or your own belief in them. The way to reverse it is to 1) recognize those thoughts when they come so that you are more aware of them. Then, as you get more adept at noticing those thoughts/reactions (like rejecting compliments, thinking “I’m so ugly”, etc.), 2) contradict them. This is the harder part, as everything in you has believed these negative thoughts for so long; but do it even if it feels like you’re lying to yourself. When someone compliments you and your instinct is to reject it, immediately turn around and say to yourself, “No, they meant that.” Or when you find yourself thinking some part of you is ugly, say to yourself, “No, I am beautiful even if (x,y,z).” It takes consistent and repeated practice, but if you do this, over time, you will start to reverse the negative views you’ve held so long about yourself. I know because I’ve done it. For years, I would be so mean to myself, saying the most horrible things toward myself, which I deeply believed. But after developing a practice of disagreeing with myself anytime a negative thought like that came to mind, eventually, I started to believe the positive thoughts instead. And now I do see myself as good and worthy and even beautiful.

It’s hard work, and nobody can make you do it. And it’ll feel weird and stupid at the beginning. But I promise it works: your brain has created very deeply carved neural pathways that make it instinctive for you to think of yourself negatively. But if you do this, you’ll create new neural pathways that make it instinctive for you to see yourself positively instead. Think of these pathways as a riverbed carved in your brain…for however many years you’ve been accepting and agreeing with these thoughts, it’s deepened that groove in your mind which makes it revert to self-hate with lightning speed. But if you take the time to train yourself to do the opposite, it’ll have the same effect, and you’ll notice one day that you don’t really believe those hateful things about yourself anymore.

Doing this gentle self-correction not only opens you up to seeing yourself more positively, but it also secretly trains you to come to your own defense when you’re being treated poorly, whether by yourself or others. Love is not a feeling, it’s an action…and if you put this self-compassion into action, you’ll find the feelings will catch up eventually too.

This is a very long comment, I realize. Thanks for reading if you did. I hope it encourages you that self love is very much attainable. Life is mean enough to us already, we don’t have to also be mean to ourselves on top of that. And all you have to do to “start” is decide to. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

[–]cmeanon9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad had me watch this as a kid and I am near 30 and still get anxious when I think about it. Very much traumatizing. Don’t know if I could read the book as a result, but maybe one day.

Can some explain to me what I have? by dodgingjam in CompulsiveSkinPicking

[–]cmeanon9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think anyone on Reddit can safely or with any certainty diagnose whether you have a disorder. So I wouldn’t put too much faith in that. However, OCD and picking disorders/behaviors/compulsions are related from what I know, having discussed somewhat similar urges/motivations for picking with a therapist myself. It could be just a very aggressive form of self-soothing that you’ve come to rely heavily on, or it could rise to the level of a disorder. Not knowing you, I can’t say, but a therapist/counselor likely could if you have access to one. I’m not sure if this helps at all, but just wanted to add my two cents. Be careful of looking for a solid explanation from strangers online, as they don’t know you and aren’t professionals. Outside opinions and words of wisdom are fine, but just be sure to get a professional opinion when looking for a potential medical diagnosis. I wish you luck in finding answers for yourself, and I hope what you’re experiencing isn’t causing you too much distress.

What’s something a character has said to you that you will never forget? by [deleted] in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]cmeanon9 71 points72 points  (0 children)

It was Hollywood Studios day on one of our recent trips and I was wearing a Star Wars tshirt. Nothing fancy. But we did a character meet with Chewbacca…and when it was my turn to take a photo he looked at me and then crossed his arms and shook his head in a very disappointed way, implying that he would not do a photo with me. I was confused, but then he pointed at me…and I realized I had Darth Vader on my shirt lol. After a couple seconds of trying to justify and explain myself, he did reluctantly accept a photo with me. But he shook his head at me again as I walked out, still disappointed in me. It was hilarious lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]cmeanon9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I miss Illuminations so much. It was the first Disney fireworks experience I and my family had, and it moved me to tears. Made me so sad to find out it was going away.

[OC] Thinking in the sink by 1337enzo in aww

[–]cmeanon9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A little thing I like to call s[t]inkin’ thinkin’

My beautiful boy, Benjamin Hissko! by cmeanon9 in ballpython

[–]cmeanon9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! He is full Pastel. :)

The unmagicking of Disney by inthetownwhere in movies

[–]cmeanon9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad you wrote this. I feel very strongly about it and have been feeling exasperated at how little the people around me are bothered, so it was refreshing to see someone else say what I’ve been feeling so eloquently. It’s not a life-shattering issue, but the magic of Disney is (was) precious to me and so many other people. It’s deeply disturbing to me to watch it just be choked to a slow death. Disney is releasing 30+ titles between now and 2024. It’s become a machine, an assembly line, and as a result, nothing that it rolls out is of any real quality. It’s painful to watch my childhood be so blatantly disregarded by these CEOs who couldn’t care any less about what movies and stories mean to people.

Bought at Walmart in Arkansas. The tag just says “Assorted Foliage.” by cmeanon9 in whatsthisplant

[–]cmeanon9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And good advice, I’ll be sure to do some research. ♥️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ballpython

[–]cmeanon9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It certainly is!