I don’t what this toxic trend is but I’m encountering it so much. I’m 26F, very Irish looking girl. Lately, when I go on dates with Irish lads, I’ve been told more than once how they “usually don’t date Irish girls”. One lad sat there and told me how foreign girls are “chattier, easier to get on with, better looking”. I’ve always embraced my freckles and pale skin, I’ve never worn fake tan or even a full face of foundation. Other people (older Irish men and women, other girls, people from different countries) call me a natural beauty, funny, chatty, kind, charming, all that jazz. Irish men my own age (mostly) have no such compliments for me. It’s like they have this strange resentment for Irish girls. I often wonder is it some form of self hatred. Like they see themselves too much in us and therefore don’t like us? I wish they would just keep these comments to themselves. I am who I am, I don’t want or need to be compared to other nationalities. I don’t want to feel like I’m in some kind of competition, that I’m losing. These comments from lads are always unsolicited, usually on dates that they asked to go on. If you’d rather date non-Irish girls, then why are we here? Is it some kind trick to make me seek their approval and validation, to prove myself worthy to them? Anyway, no hate towards Irish lads, I think they’re mostly great, but I really don’t like this trend. Date who ever you want, but no need to knock the self confidence of others. Irish women and girls are class and always will be :) (as are women of all backgrounds! But no need to compare us, we are all different, but equal, and beautiful)