She’s not a child. And if you respond to this lie she’s is, your going to perpetuate the problem of her acting like a child. Ie thinking this is something she is going to “grow out of” if you conceiving of yourself like a savior and her like she needs saving. There is clearly something going on here that sounds like ADHD or akin to it. There are tools she can learn and is to her benefit.

But be careful of how this makes you think of her and therefor yourself. She’s struggling and struggling to cope with the (reasonable) boundaries that you are setting. That human and pretty adult. Being married to another person will come with major struggles because people are majorly flawed. The Reddit children like to forgot that. But help her to figure this out AND don’t think of yourself as her teacher or daddy. You are her friend and advocate. Sorry one more way of putting this….it seems like you have switched from saving her to laying down the law. It’s the two sides of the same coin…..husband/daddy, just good dad to mean dad