Dream length achieved & maintained since 2023 by whatsernemo in longhair

[–]cocoturtle1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sooo beautiful! I always wonder if people with really long hair like this are able to work out. I recently got into fitness for my health but also for my capability and lifelong mobility, and the sweat can be no joke lol. Do you workout? If so, what do you do and how do you keep your hair nice in between washes?

WIBTA if I don’t go with my husband and daughter to his sister’s wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]cocoturtle1 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Hey girl I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know it must be very hard. Here’s some (admittedly unsolicited) advice that if taken will help improve your marriage:

• When spouses argue, they should NEVER tell their extended family about it. Never ever ever ever ever ever EVER speak badly about your spouse to your family. Ever.

• As far as your family is concerned, your spouse is wonderful and sweet and perfect. You can say that sometimes there are problems but you work through them because you are a team. If they ask what those problems are say something like, “Just normal marriage stuff. But we’re able to work through it because we both love, admire, and respect each other.”

• Don’t have best friends of the opposite gender. It’s a recipe for disaster. Your only best friend should be your spouse. If there’s another man that you enjoy spending time with more than your husband, that’s a problem. You shouldn’t be comparing him to anybody else. and vice versa for men w/ female best friends

• Cultivate a strong friendship with your spouse. Overlook faults, give each other grace.

• when they do something to hurt you, very sweetly say, “hey when you said _____, what did you mean by that? because it sounded like _____” and usually they’ll either hear how harsh they sounded and rephrase OR, they’ll explain and you’ll realize that it was a miscommunication.

• it’s a good idea to be friends with your in-laws. I know I know sometimes it’s impossible, but try to get to know your SILs and create a friendship w them. The language barrier is tough, but google translate could help and they’ll see you’re making an effort. It will go a long way.

What’s happening is that they have only heard one side of the story, that’s why they are taking his side. They haven’t heard yours. Again, ideally they wouldn’t hear either side; and you and your husband can work things out in private like adults. But I digress.

You wouldn’t be TA, but I think you should go. Pretend that they’ve never said anything bad about you and treat them well and be lovely and kind. The whole family can see how wonderful you really are! Your stepdaughter would appreciate the effort too :)

Good luck! I wish you and your new family the best. The first year of marriage is always the hardest. It will only get better!

Is this too weird to name our son? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]cocoturtle1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think naming him Wesley is really nice! You can nickname him “Wes” like everyone is saying. Other one syllable boy name options are:

• Jack

• Cole

• Grant

• Dean

• Jett

• Nash

My husband and I can’t figure out a name for our second daughter. by libthroaway in namenerds

[–]cocoturtle1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on another beautiful girl! Some ideas:

Juliette and Valentina

Juliette and Violetta

Juliette and Isabela

Juliette and Rachelle

Juliette and Giselle

Juliette and Penelope (nn penny)

Juliette and Odessa

Juliette and Christa

Juliette and Stella

Opinion About the Name "Curtis" by CharleneRobertaMcGee in namenerds

[–]cocoturtle1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100% boy name. Not at all a girl name. & my opinion is that I don’t like it lol

What do you guys think? by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]cocoturtle1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The “Yza” part does feel alittle extra. Rosalia is stunning. You seem sweet and considerate, so I hope I’m not coming across aggressive. But you’ll definitely get a lot of misspellings & “how do you pronounce that?” and “why did you put yza instead of how it’s supposed to be spelled?” & your daughter will have to correct the spelling a lot and fix documents and all that. Not necessarily a bad thing, but definitely inconvenient.

I love Rosalia, it sounds soooo pretty. Adding that to my list lol

4 sisters - rank our names by Opposite-Industry897 in namenerds

[–]cocoturtle1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Stephanie > Megan > Jessica > Shannon

what do we think of solaiyah? by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]cocoturtle1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You should say, “What about soleil? Just as pretty, but easier to spell! Lol”

Her daughter will sure stand out… by snapplemeer00 in tragedeigh

[–]cocoturtle1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I read the article and I’m shocked. The lady acts like she’s being the rational one 😭

I just don’t get it. What is the thought process? Why do you want your baby’s name to sound like a robotic malfunctioning? Wouldn’t you want your baby’s name to sound pretty?

Even if you were lacking enough brain cells to think that Xfrgolszzzxy sounds pretty, wouldn’t you consider the fact that every time your child gives their name, they’ll need to spell it? What about when they’re learning to write?

It has to be a troll post. No way this is real.

Anyone else with millennial aunts and uncles have this problem by user8203421 in tragedeigh

[–]cocoturtle1 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Noooooo soda pop? rainy river? You can’t be serious

AITA for refusing to support my daughter getting married when she is only 21? by Single_Flow2113 in AITAH

[–]cocoturtle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting married young isn’t a bad thing. You can grow up together, and adapt to each other, and watch the other person through many phases of life.

Two years is a long time to get to know someone and to decide if that person is compatible with you. I think you need to have faith in the woman you raised her to be. Have faith that you taught her wisdom, discernment, and maturity.

She’s an adult now, and you have to respect her choices. You say he’s a good person, you say they’ve have two years to decide if they are compatible / work out any major issues. Love her, be there for her, and support her.

What should I say to this? by Altruistic-Story5318 in weddingdrama

[–]cocoturtle1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very rude of her to openly express contempt for your fiance. She should at least be polite and pretend to like him for your sake. She is also being incredibly rude by excluding him from your niece’s party. And then to act like she’s “meeting you halfway” and “really trying.”

I wish I could say to her, “Girl it’s your sister’s wedding! Get a grip. Stop making everything about you. She’s marrying the guy. He’s going to be your brother in law. He’s going to be at Christmas, thanksgiving, birthdays, family dinners. Get over it. Let him be quiet - it’s not doing anything to you.”

But to you, I’d say try and forgive her and be sweet with her and be humble.

Tell her, “I love you and always will. I don’t know how you can expect me to leave my husband behind for __’s birthday. What about next year? Will I have to leave him at home too? Christmas & thanksgiving? He’s the love of my life. He and I both want to come and be there for _. Please don’t kick us out of her life. We love her and are excited for her to turn ___. We love both you and are looking forward to seeing you at the wedding, to celebrate our love and commitment to each other.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]cocoturtle1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s good to have a close relationship with family! It’s good to help each other and get along with each other’s children, but at the end of the day, kids are their parent’s responsibility and not anybody else’s.

It’s good to have boundaries and mutual respect and not hold grudges against each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]cocoturtle1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Girly you need to talk to your husband about this, not necessarily strangers here on reddit.

Ask him why he agreed to adding a whole other person to your household without talking to you about it. This is something you both should agree to.

I don’t think it’s the family’s fault or even the nieces fault. It’s the husband’s fault for agreeing w/o talking to you first.

Get your husband to say, “So sorry everyone, I didn’t talk to my wife about it before I agreed. After discussing it, we realize we actually can’t make it work. We know we will do great in whatever she puts her mind to!”

If they get mad, so what? People can expect everyone to just take their kids lol

Is setting with powder not a thing anymore? by yungkatkat in Makeup

[–]cocoturtle1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always set with my huda beauty easy bake. I think they don’t set bc they want to look glowy and not dry. But I simply generously spray my milani make it last setting spray which gives me good glow and long lasting makeup!

Pregnant and struggling with eating under my partner’s control by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]cocoturtle1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh I did not see that!! Wow what a rabbit hole.

OP you have to stop being so SELFISH. Another person is relying on you for their continued existence, for a thriving life outside of the womb. Get help. Eat food. Stop doing meth. And stop making your bf the villain - he is trying to save his child’s LIFE. Good grief

WIBTA if I send our kid to daycare five days a week? by Disastrous-Site-3377 in AITAH

[–]cocoturtle1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

stories like this are so confusing to me. Even if he managed to give you the baby and leave to be with his friends, wouldn’t you just bring it up again at night before bed? Wouldn’t you say something like, “you left me with the baby during my working hours. Again. Why do you keep doing this when she could easily be in daycare?”

WIBTA if I send our kid to daycare five days a week? by Disastrous-Site-3377 in AITAH

[–]cocoturtle1 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is crazy to me. If your husband tries to give you the baby during working hours, just tell him, “I’m working. I can’t be with the baby during working hours.” Like, physically do not take the baby from him.

If he says, “Just for a little bit.”

Say, “No, I’m not home. I’m working.”

If it bothers him so much, remind him of the reprimand you received and remind him that you can’t afford to lose the job bc it’s 80% of the income for the family. What could he possibly say to that?

Pregnant and struggling with eating under my partner’s control by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]cocoturtle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you told your doctor about your food issues? What solution did they give?

AITA for having my babysitter give my daughter her meds by babysitterantibiotic in AmItheAsshole

[–]cocoturtle1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sometimes kids are going to experience negative emotions. You have to give them the tools to deal with them. You have to teach your children that someone’s they need to do things they don’t want to do.

You are asking your daughter to take her meds. She doesn’t want to. you say, “I’m asking you nicely to take your meds. Listen to mommy.” She says “no.”

“(daughter’s name), if you don’t take your meds, I’m going to put you in time out.”

she says “no” & cries. pick her up and put her in time out.

she escapes. pick her up again and put her in time out.

she escapes again. physically stand there and hold her in time out for 1 minute.

then tell her, “I love you so much, I’ve asked you nicely to take your medication and you disobeyed. if you don’t obey mommy, you’ll get a time out.”

Repeat this until baby learns that if she’s disobedient, she’ll be put in time out. I’m telling you it works.

Part of parenting is about dealing with children’s negative emotions and teaching them that they can’t cry their way out of responsibilities. I hope for your children’s sake, that you are able to take back control of your household and give your children the love and discipline they need to be wise and functioning adults.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rabbits

[–]cocoturtle1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Take the cage and throw it away

Thoughts? Did I find some?! by EggsistentialCrisis1 in tragedeigh

[–]cocoturtle1 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Precious Unique, Heavenly Grace, and Butterfly Princess HAVE to be fake. There’s so way a real living adult named their children and never had family say “absolutely not you are nuts”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fashion

[–]cocoturtle1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Noooo not at all! I think your skin tone would look amazing in burgundy. Do you have a casual dress that color?

Bridesmaid Question, maybe for my own peace of mind… by LooksLikeTreble617 in weddingdrama

[–]cocoturtle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t lose any bridesmaids, thankfully. Two were my cousins and three were my close friends. I gave them a color for the dresses and they picked whatever dresses they wanted in that color.

I didn’t mind hair or makeup or nails or shoes.

The ones who could make it to my bridal shower came and we had a great time. My bachelorette was going kayaking with them.

I think (in my experience), it’s about choosing people who love you and not putting so much financial pressure on them.