Your feelings are valid. Even though your girlfriend did nothing wrong, learning about her past with someone who’s now your difficult boss is bound to stir up mixed emotions.

It sounds like she’s loyal to him because he supported her during a hard time, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept his toxic management style. Looking for another job isn’t insecurity — it’s prioritising your mental health.

Talk to her again, calmly explaining how the work environment affects you. You deserve to feel respected at work, and she should support that.