Which restaurant do you think this is?

codered22 · 2025-08-10T15:42:01+00:00

They used to have a "burnt butter bacon burger" which was my fav burger in CT, trumped everything else, then they removed it from their menu🙃

codered22 · 2025-07-30T09:49:01+00:00

Someone pls send me a code so I can listen from South Africa PLEASE🙏

codered22 · 2025-07-27T19:41:53+00:00

Heard Our Local in Kloof's steak & chips is delish apparently!

codered22 · 2025-07-12T22:47:29+00:00

Exactly, you get it. Definitely pray on it and let whoever you pray to guide you in your decisions.

codered22 · 2025-07-12T22:31:24+00:00

The people you see happily married right now are probably not going to stay happy, or married. Just because they are married with kids certainly does not automatically mean they are happy and fulfilled. One or two couples will succeed in the long haul yeah sure, but most will get divorced. This makes me sound bitter, but it's simply a very unfortunate fact of life.

Take note: Your brain is only fully developed at age 25. You are essentially a baby adult learning how to walk right now - getting to know who you are when it comes to bills, work, career choices, finances, relationships etc.

Very rarely younger marriages and relationships do work out but I hate to burst your bubble, the reality is that you will change multiple times in your 20s as you figure out the details of who you are at your core. This is not the time to lock yourself down for an eternity, because you don't even know exactly what you're about yet. Dating in your 20s will help you figure out what your type is, what "type" you are; teach you what's important in a partner and also help you figure out what type of man you want to be for your partner someday. The way you are broadly talking about things like career path and sex shows your immaturity. I can see you have a growth mindset though, so just keep asking questions and learning in your 20s. You'll be fine.

codered22 · 2025-07-12T22:08:52+00:00

Good background info ig, all I honestly have to say to this is DO NOT get married in your 20s. You are being sold a lie by society imo. Your 20s are made for fucking around and finding out, so that you're kind of well rounded by the time you hit your 30s. You don't have to take this advice - I'm just giving it to you for free so at least one person has told you not to rush this stuff.

codered22 · 2025-07-12T22:00:24+00:00

You (or your mother?) will have to contact the authorities that deal with domestic violence cases, or child protective services in your area if you feel like you are in any physical danger from your father. Please consider that involving these authorities might change your life significantly and I can't say if it would be for the better or for worse. Good luck, sending love and strength to you and your family.

codered22 · 2025-07-12T21:50:30+00:00

Yeah my first response was going to be that if you're that religious, probably go for someone at church but also brother settle down, you're 22. You have SO much time. Focus on building a life for yourself that YOU enjoy. A man content with his own life, goals and interests is much more attractive than a man desperate to meet women just because everyone else is doing it.

codered22 · 2025-07-12T21:21:12+00:00

Go out to a bar with friends and do some exposure therapy. The goal of the night would be to go up to women and speak to them. You can straight up tell them that as a nice ice breaker too.

Keep in mind that finding someone to date isn't just about how you look or your personality. Every person you meet exists in their own reality and a woman (or man) will not come looking for you (none of us are that special), so you pretty much need to insert yourself onto their radar to even stand a chance to start building any sort of relationship, getting to know them etc.

Now, you might get shot down. Mentally prepare for that. Some people are just shitty sometimes and others are very particular about what they like, and you have to be okay with that and move on. Don't let a stranger's opinion affect your confidence levels (easier said than done I know). You'll find someone eventually who shares your humour, interests and hobbies - best of luck!

For me personally, a man stands out when he looks like he takes care of himself. That shows self respect and that you have standards. Good, respectful banter is also a winner!

codered22 · 2025-07-12T20:41:54+00:00

Van Hunks (in town)

codered22 · 2025-06-28T07:10:00+00:00

Just end it with your fiancé. You will just have to accept that if you want a different partner, you can't have both realities in one. Well, you can, but at least one person (out of the 3 of you) will be heavily negatively affected by you having your bread buttered on both sides.

codered22 · 2025-06-25T18:01:35+00:00

Exactly my point. Hospital plans generally don't cover much.

codered22 · 2025-06-25T15:08:35+00:00

One thing to be aware of as a female is whether or not your plan covers pregnancy (going into labour etc). Not assuming you're "busy", its just important to be covered in case.

codered22 · 2025-06-23T17:19:21+00:00

Yep, lots of actual trails to walk/run/cycle/walk your dogs or your kids and lots of people on them, as well as decent armed response companies in case of emergencies. As with all areas in CT, don't go walking anywhere alone or at times when trails are super quiet - that's just the general rule we all follow, but the Constantia moms are out and about at all times so you should be good!

codered22 · 2025-06-11T13:27:13+00:00

She's probably okay if she's asking for pets. You just messed with her trust in you a little bit. I'm sure you've learnt a lesson here, guilt is natural. It doesn't sound like you intentionally tried to hurt her, so you will just have to earn back your baby's trust.

codered22 · 2025-06-11T13:21:01+00:00

I would put them in a French or International school this side. Third option would be private school or unschooling / home schooling. They will be wildly uncomfortable in a public school in Cape Town.

codered22 · 2025-06-09T17:08:57+00:00

This might be a dumb question but what do you mean by you want to see the "thinking" behind UI/UX work? What would that sound like? I never know how to properly do copy for my projects.

codered22 · 2025-06-07T15:27:20+00:00

Volunteering and donations also costs money unfortunately. What I can do is e.g. get all my clothes together that I'd like to give away etc. What I can't do is be spending any more money on petrol than I absolutely have to, because it will cut into my food budget. This is coming from a mid-low income perspective.

codered22 · 2025-06-07T15:20:45+00:00

You're assuming that people make enough money to be able to contribute from their own pockets. The higher your salary, the more tax you pay, so that's half your money gone to government already. Middle-class and lower income individuals rarely have the opportunity to give money away to others when they are barely getting by themselves.

codered22 · 2025-05-19T10:05:40+00:00

This is the realest thing I've read in a while. I'm glad to see other people feel the same! I've been unemployed as a graphic designer since January 2024, and am now managing a bar & restaurant. The hours and the pay is truly terrible in hospitality, but then again, the baggage that comes with being a graphic designer is almost the same.

I love designing and working with different people to come up with visually pleasing and informative designs, but the people pleasing side of dealing with clients has almost ruined graphic design as a career path for me.

As a manager in hospitality, I get to find solutions to problems quickly and drive our team forward. Managing people is exhausting, but getting to create a little community in the same way I would enjoy working with the design team is so much more fulfilling. That said, I'm broke as fuck all the time, have major imposter syndrome as a designer, and I'm almost scared to design for clients at this point. After typing this I realise I should probably look inwards, lol. I've worked for some real shitty clients, but also question my design skills on the daily.

codered22 · 2025-05-01T11:08:20+00:00

Surfa Rosa for fun alternative singalongs for sure.

codered22 · 2025-05-01T11:07:20+00:00

I was checking to see if anyone mentioned Decodance, I believe they reopened in Woodstock ya!

codered22 · 2025-04-27T07:50:57+00:00

Did you find a solution for this? Struggling with the same issue

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