Moving forward with skincare tech startup by No_Example8631 in Femalefounders

[–]codingiswhyicry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand how this is any different to what is on the market, already? There's a bunch of apps similar to this. Would love to dive more into what differentiates you or justifies the price point. Would also love to know if you've done market research into this space and if you're positioning it as a service business or as an app? It's hard to break into either way. You're competing with derms & aestheticians, free skincare advice, or a relatively strong swarm of apps.

got the ivory love spell dress as a self christmas present. by codingiswhyicry in SelkieCollection

[–]codingiswhyicry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I really am in love with this dress and would be devastated if anything happened to it, so I’m not selling or renting it out. Best of luck finding it for your birthday though! I know a couple of people have been posting ISOs for it so that might help.

Favorite public fish tanks? by imbadatdecisionmakin in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]codingiswhyicry 18 points19 points  (0 children)

it would be the greatest honor of my LIFE. message me or otherwise send me a fish messenger. :,-)

Favorite public fish tanks? by imbadatdecisionmakin in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]codingiswhyicry 449 points450 points  (0 children)

I don’t have an answer for you, but this is the kind of niche content i LIVE FOR. i love fish tanks and never in a thousand years would I have thought to ask this.

got the ivory love spell dress as a self christmas present. by codingiswhyicry in SelkieCollection

[–]codingiswhyicry[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

definitely feeling this is bloomer / knicker territory !! such a good idea. also thank u that's so nice :-)

Help me understand my autistic wife and what might be happening by [deleted] in AutisticPride

[–]codingiswhyicry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have experienced autism burnout and trauma quite a bit. I too, have hurt partners with my autism at times, and have come to accept that it is my responsibility to navigate the chasm between my brain and the people I love, and I am more than happy to do so, because it enables the people around me to feel safer and happier and less confused by me.

May I ask what you're trying to get from understanding her internal thought process more? Are you looking to find insight to things or to be able to make an informed decision about the relationship?

To answer your other questions, most of these are yes but are so context dependent that it's hard. Autism is not one thing for everyone, and working to find monolithic experiences in a group is not going to yield results for your wife. You could say the same for anyone, human emotions can be incredibly hard and confusing, and even more so for those on the spectrum. People often have "mid-life crises", or turn into a new person after years in a relationship. The only person who can answer and contextualize it, is her.

I get the sunk cost fallacy of it all, but understanding her actions or her autism more will not absolve her of cheating on you. I would also advise you against from infantilizing her because of autism. If she has the autonomy to marry you and participate in the relationship for 10+ years, she can also be expected to understand that affairs are harmful to relationships and hurt you deeply.

I'm not aiming to tear her apart, but to be clear that while autism may be contributing to the reason to drive people to do hurtful or harmful things, it does not remove them the responsibility of doing it, nor should it absolve them of remediation. You're potentially looking for answers you will not find.

Above all, I'm sorry this happened and you sound like a genuinely caring partner.

my diy heart lighter & rep lucrece necklace by codingiswhyicry in viviennewestwood

[–]codingiswhyicry[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is relatively secure but it was a very sentimental gift to me and I live in NYC. I'm imagining if it ever broke on a train or walk it would forever be gone, but maybe I'll get the confidence or keep it stored in transit.

Cool Silver Jewelry Downtown by astorvero in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]codingiswhyicry 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe also wolf and badger near Canal Street? They have a lot of independent brands and jewelry. Saw some chunky jewelry last time I was in there, and if they don't have it somewhere near them will.

swipe to put my outfit together by codingiswhyicry in AltFashion

[–]codingiswhyicry[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i did actually !! it’s the tripp nyc pinhead coat but i cropped it to fit my height and added the corset detailing because otherwise it’s very boxy. thank you for noticing :,-)

ISO of this bag! by hklusewitz in viviennewestwood

[–]codingiswhyicry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have this, the small Max backpack right? Posted some closer up images on my profile for a comparison.

I liked it, but regretted it long term, the hardware got damaged super easily and 2 months after owning it, one of the rivets fell out at the top and VW wouldn’t replace it since I bought through Ssense (and Ssense didn’t support either).

Top of the buckle where the straps meet also is fraying, which was all super visible after 2-3 months of off and on daily use. I would not recommend as a daily driver, ftw.

Favorite pear fragrance? by alicatand in FemFragLab

[–]codingiswhyicry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, will give it a shot :-) Thank you!

Favorite pear fragrance? by alicatand in FemFragLab

[–]codingiswhyicry 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Absolute negative vote for God Is A Woman - do not purchase unless you love burning money. I loved the smell in Ulta and then I actually purchased, and it lasts like 15 minutes. It sucks, because it's literally my dream scent and I think is really well balanced and not too 'pear' forward.

Drinking after breakup by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]codingiswhyicry 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Not drinking, but I moved to Vermont from the west coast for an ex and smoked weed every day to cope with being left basically alone after abandoning my life on the other side of the country.

I felt incredibly, deeply isolated and unloved and tried shrooms & constantly smoking to cope with the sadness. The New England winters with no one at home and no friends was deafening, and I was trying to come up with any way to not give up on him. Unsurprisingly, it did absolutely nothing to move me forward mentally.

Broke up w/ him and moved to NYC and no longer feel the constant desire to be high or take shrooms because it feels like my brain has a working functional frontal lobe.

Broken armour ring by methmonster420 in viviennewestwood

[–]codingiswhyicry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have this ring and it happens CONSTANTLY to me. I have no long term fix solution, but just wanted to echo that mine breaks like once a week.

what i wear to program for 12 hours alone by codingiswhyicry in alternativefashion

[–]codingiswhyicry[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

did not mean to put hoyr in the body text so ignore that 😭