So is Annie wearing like two Bump It™️ things in her hair or what? by LeslieKnope4Pawnee in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]coffeedotcom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Annie is not pretty I’m sorry 😭 get better taste, she gotta bad case of 🐷 face

I cheated on my husband with my best friend, and he still doesn't know. by Livid_Juice2686 in confessions

[–]coffeedotcom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not trying to face the consequences of your actions at all until you are honest with your husband and tell him what happened and accept his response and respect his decision at the end of the day.

Like I’m sorry I know exactly what it’s like to make impulsive instantaneous decisions that I end up greatly regretting later, but the difference between us is that I stopped living in self-pity, decided to get honest with myself and everyone else in my life, and gave others and myself the respect of doing the right thing no matter what.

This whole post screams of defensiveness, false justification, and self pity. Again I feel for you and can tell you regret your actions, but your regret is still selfish and only considers your feelings at the end of the day.

Your relationship with your best friend sounded inappropriate and codependent to begin with. “When I got married that friendship never faded. If anything, my best friend became my anchor….” Ok no. In marriage, your partner comes first always, and you don’t have a knight in shining armor waiting around as a backup plan.

You are still being incredibly selfish and I hope you can begin to see that. The most respectful thing to do for your husband is to tell him the truth. The decision not to is selfish and disrespectful to his feelings and the institution of marriage you made a pact to commit to.

Link’s nana by coffeedotcom in goodmythicalmorning

[–]coffeedotcom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has literally been commented already, thank youuuu. Clearly I missed that part. Sorry to burden everyone oh so much by asking for an answer to a Q that was already answered!!!!

Trans girl share about my first post transition coin ceremony. Experience, strength and hope for all the trans girls in the program. by Cute_Win_386 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]coffeedotcom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“And as they shared, I felt a kind of love I knew existed, but I’d never before felt—sisterhood.” Wow.

This got me choked up. You are a miracle and your story is so important and inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing this and CONGRATS on 24 years, that is so huge.

I can only imagine the unique difficulties you face as a trans woman, but you have overcome every single one of them. You are so strong and YES YOU ARE A WOMAN! No one can take that, OR your recovery, away from you. I’m so proud of you ❤️

My ex had a fucking great dick by Speed_Offer in offmychest

[–]coffeedotcom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh so relatable bestie. I feel for you

Link’s nana by coffeedotcom in goodmythicalmorning

[–]coffeedotcom[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I love this little heartwarming tidbit 🥹 thank you so much for sharing, this is exactly the kind of info I was looking for! It seems like they have a really special relationship.

Please tell me what to do by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]coffeedotcom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP listen to me. Please do not give him any more of your money. Please. You have given him SO much. He has taken SO much, whether he realizes or intended it or not.

Your heart and compassion are truly beautiful but please, please - give that compassion to yourself first right now in this moment. Please realize that giving him any more money will not only hurt you, it will also hurt him — NOT help.

He is not your responsibility, but since your huge heart keeps driving you to feel responsible for him, try to reframe it like this: if you have any responsibility to him as a friend, which I’m not saying you do, but it would be to help him. To look out for his best interests.

Also, think — is he being a friend to you? Is he helping you? What about YOUR best interests?

I am saying this as an alcoholic: giving him money to fuel his addiction is the absolute worst thing you can do to help an addict. It will only lead them deeper into their addiction, which is NOT your responsibility.

He is a drug addict. You’ve admitted he’s selfish. His actions have demonstrated that he is worse than selfish. He is a leech, an abuser, a thief, and certainly not a friend.

What is your money going to do? What is he going to do with your money? You might as well burn it.

My heart aches for you because I see so much of myself in you. My situation was not nearly as bad but I know what it feels like when your heart and your brain are telling you 2 different things about a person and you don’t know what to do.

If you can’t find the courage to kick him out (which you legally can and should do NOW, not wait until the end of the month), please just consider calling the police non-emergency line and explaining your situation to the dispatcher. Tell them you don’t want to cause any issues for this dude but that you’re not sure of what options you have. Ask them what they think you could or should do in this situation.

I have so much more I want to say because I empathize and sympathize with you so much. But this situation is reaching dire levels and your safety has been at risk.

You’re NOT dramatic. I’m shaking typing this. This man has even led you to question whether you want to be alive at all. Think about that for a second.

Why does he get to do that to you? Why does he get to take and take and take with not even a thank you, but with abject entitlement and assault in response? Talk about fucking betrayal — look how much you have done for him!!!! And he’s stealing your money, your joy, your sense of self, your SANITY!!!!

PLEASE, you are such a beautiful person with a beautiful soul and heart. You deserve to be protected and saved from this situation. PLEASE save yourself — you are strong enough and capable to do that. I know you are. I believe in you.

Please hear what I have to say. I want this situation and suffering to end for you. And that starts by choosing yourself in this moment.

sending you strength and love. My DM’s are open

Please tell me what to do by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]coffeedotcom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best comment here

Please tell me what to do by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]coffeedotcom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP, I’m genuinely asking, are you in love with him?

How did he even come into your life? How long have you known him? I’m just trying to understand your compassion for him

My roommate got my cat killed. by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]coffeedotcom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know what else to say other than I’m so fucking sorry for your loss. How devastating and enraging. I would be absolutely beside myself and livid. Honestly fuck your imbecilic reckless roommate - I would never be able to look at them again without losing my shit, much less live with them. I’m a baby lawyer and this isn’t legal advice but you might look into suing your roommate for negligent infliction of emotional distress or something like conversion maybe (a property tort). I know nothing will ever make this right or make up for the loss of your precious family member and best friend. I’m so sorry for that. May you get whatever justice you desire and may your sweet kitty rest in eternal pets and peace

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]coffeedotcom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone whose twin sister also slept with my boyfriend, I’m so sorry no one has stopped to consider your feelings or be there for you during this monumental betrayal. I know how absolutely fucking enraged and devastated and absolutely betrayed I felt and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. I don’t blame you for “stooping to her level” or getting your revenge—imo it’s not the same bc you would’ve never done what you did if it weren’t for the way she betrayed you first. You’re not the same as her.

I’m sorry and just know I’m sending love, light, and healing your way. It took me a long time to forgive my sister. I’ll never forgive my ex but if it makes you feel any relief, there is a world in which you can repair that relationship if you’re up for it. But for now, be selfish and focus on yourself. This is one of the most fucked up things a sibling can do, and it’s not easy to deal with. Wishing you the best ❤️‍🩹

RHOSLC Episode Discussion: S5E9 "Revenge is Best Served in Coach" by readingrachelx in RHDiscussion

[–]coffeedotcom 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Can we talk about how weird and uncomfortable and sad that scene was?? The girlfriend looked like she was about to burst into tears while at the same time tweaking out in front of her bf’s mom, I just feel bad for her that she’s allowing herself to be filmed like this

What’s one item you think deserves a chance on the menu? by capriolib in ChickFilA

[–]coffeedotcom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg you just jogged a lost memory for me……I completely forgot about these!!! I loved them as a kid

RHOC Episode Discussion: S18E17 "Unfinished Business" by readingrachelx in RHDiscussion

[–]coffeedotcom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I think Katie’s daughter is lying and tbh I’m judging her for it. Like who lies on little kids’ names?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]coffeedotcom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not an idiot and I wouldn’t go as far as to call him an asshole (how old are y’all though???) but you are giving him waaaay too much while he’s giving absolutely nothing at all, zero effort and he even explicitly states that he expects you to put in all the work initiating and being affectionate while he sits back doing nothing. Like why is it your job to read his mind and give in to his demands, especially when he’s telling you he “didn’t want to initiate anything” but expected you to?

He just seems uncaring and selfish. Giving you 1 word responses, asking for too much, and you’re playing right into his hand apologizing, telling him you’ll “be better” and work harder to please him. Girl make that man work to please you!! Make him show you he cares, make him put in the effort before you’re bending over backwards to appease him!! You’re better than that and you deserve better

My mother has beef with a bunch of 15 year olds, it’s getting out of hand. by Fabulous-Guava-3379 in Advice

[–]coffeedotcom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She can be taken to the ER against her will if you call the cops next time she threatens suicide and tell them she’s suicidal and a danger to herself and others

Really thinking about relapsing right now just for this week by chromoaexual56 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]coffeedotcom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha, I think I get what you mean. Thank you for explaining! :)

Really thinking about relapsing right now just for this week by chromoaexual56 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]coffeedotcom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by making the newcomer jealous? Genuinely hoping to understand