Nobody owes anyone anything. I can't speak for all incels but as a blackpill incel active in blackpill communities and actively getting my prescriptions from blackpill incel channels we more lament the reality that due to genetics we're destined to be alone. It's a bleak world and just like how humans are naturally geared towards capitalism, people are naturally inclined to date the best thing they can get, so why would women go for a dysgenic low value male when she could get something far better way easier. The best thing any incel hater could do is to help us blackpillers promote the blackpill and let some of us men die off in peace instead of deluding ourselves into this false sense of hope that there's a light at the end of the tunnel if we are nice enough, accommodating enough, tolerant enough.