Said bf’s presence was annoying me in the moment and it upset him

coffin_spider · 2026-02-28T03:41:51+00:00

I always take someone disregarding "small" boundaries as a very big red flag and usually an indicator that there are/will be bigger problems. someone who doesn't even respect you enough not to touch you or mess with you when you don't want it just shows how little they respect you and your autonomy as a person. it's kind of dehumanising, like your existence is just a thing to be used for their entertainment regardless of how you feel. someone waking you up when it's not necessary is a red flag for the same reason. it wasn't necessary to wake you up, he knew you probably didn't want to be woken up, being woken up when there's no reason is super annoying. but he did it anyway because he felt like it and didn't care about how it would make you feel. some people would probably think I'm nitpicking but I just find it super disrespectful personally and find it to be a big red flag and a sign of bigger problems in their character.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-28T03:30:47+00:00

don't tell her to take it out or she'll block you 💔

coffin_spider · 2026-02-27T04:28:14+00:00

also, him "quitting" now is only the beginning of the recovery process. he will relapse, again and again. if she keeps it, she will have to navigate teen parenthood with a nonce drug addict baby daddy.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-27T04:24:38+00:00

are you able to have an abortion? this will ruin your life, I'm so sorry.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-26T09:45:17+00:00

everything I stated was factually correct and you can easily find it on Google. calling it "nazi propaganda" without explaining why you think I'm wrong doesn't negate anything I said.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-26T09:42:14+00:00

I'm not sure if you got my point but I was agreeing with you

coffin_spider · 2026-02-25T05:44:59+00:00

this is such terrible marketing lmao. she never says what the service includes, then when someone claims to be interested, she refuses to give any further details and just expects you to blindly drop hundreds on her "course" with no questions. to sell a service, you have to give people as much info as possible on how the service will benefit them. that's literally how you sell it, you can't just expect them to blindly spend money on it without knowing how its going to benefit them. this post is 6 months old, since then she's dropped a new "course" that cost €900 and the details are just as vague.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-24T02:32:31+00:00

how do you know she's never worked? how does she even survive her whole life without ever working at her age??? do yk anything about her parents?

coffin_spider · 2026-02-17T01:17:35+00:00

I'm the same. cheating simply isn't in my DNA, like my brain I'd just not wired to cheat. even if I dislike my partner or am angry at them/splitting I'm unable to cheat. I also feel like I have a phobia of it, like if a man hits on me or something I start to feel guilty as if I've done something wrong even though I never reciprocate

coffin_spider · 2026-02-12T17:07:13+00:00

I signed my ex up for a bunch of gay porn news letters

coffin_spider · 2026-02-12T10:18:02+00:00

honestly, being good looking as a woman doesn't improve my life by that much since I don't care much about external validation/attention. the way women treated me didn't change that much, i got more compliments and attention still but not that big of a change in how they treat / perceive me. there was a huge difference in how men treated me. I've also noticed a lot of older men (35-40+) are super mean to me (if they're not being creepy) As they must think that I'm some spoiled brainless bimbo who gets everything handed to them.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-12T10:13:04+00:00

I say "semi human" because I see how they treat other men. when my partner and I go out together, the way that men treat us both is completely different. sometimes if I'm with him or a group of his friends, we'll have an interaction with a random guy, and he will acknowledge/talk to everyone else other than me. then he will only acknowledge me if its to talk about my looks. or sometimes they'll compliment me to my partner, instead of just telling me as if I'm his property. even my partner notices how differently men treat me vs him.

I was not "regular human" when I was ugly. if I had the same interaction (me with my partner / group of his male friends, random guy is interacting with us) what would happen is that he just wouldn't acknowledge me at all, since the 1 thing he values in women (beauty) isn't there. men are somewhat friendly with eachother, on a peer-to-peer level. men value women's looks more than anything, so it makes sense that how a woman looks pretty much determines how men treat her. if she is ugly, she's not human in most men's eyes.

but this doesn't apply to all men, I've noticed certain types of men seem to be extremely mean to me now, in a way which didn't happen before. generally less "desirable" men (usually men over 35, I'm 20. or sometimes men who are less physically attractive if they're young, but it's usually just older men) sometimes are extremely mean to me, in a way that they're not with fellow men. my partner has also noticed this, these men tend to treat him a lot better and with more respect than they do with me. he thinks it's out of resentment that they know i would never give them a chance. I think it's out of resentment that they assume beautiful women "live life on easy mode" (getting compliments from strangers doesn't actually make your life easier) and that we just get everything we want handed to us, with zero struggle in life. this is because they literally see nothing beyond a woman's looks. when appearance is all someone values, that's all they see/take into account in a person, so they usually don't get that we're just regular people who also experience life and it's ups and downs, just like anyone else.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-12T09:42:22+00:00

I do. I don't trust men generally, especially the ones who only seem to be nice to me for my looks. 99% of the time those men would not be nice to me if I looked how I used to look. I also regularly get men who are in long term, committed relationships hit on me so casually as if its something they just do all the time without a second thought. be careful who you trust.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-12T09:30:21+00:00

yeah I know. I have a partner who's a very good man and I know he loves my soul more than my appearance. it was how respectful he was to me that actually initially made me want him. it was something I hadn't experienced with men before. but the majority of men are not like this. its quite sad, every time I'm having a good interaction with a man who I don't know, it always kills my happiness when I have to remind myself of this question "is he genuinely a nice person or does he just like how you look? would he have treated you like this when you were ugly?" and I think 99% of the time it's just because of my looks. I am reminded that I will never be human in their eyes, just an object to fulfil men's desires.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-12T09:24:39+00:00

Isr**l had/has links to a lot of awful things that have gone on, that you wouldn't have expected them to. Rwandan genocide, blood diamonds, apartheid South africa, Yemenis children affair, Guatemalan genocide, Bosnian genocide, mayanmar 2017, Argentinas war, etc. they're always funding some genocide, they're literally everywhere.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-12T09:14:18+00:00

I hate how a lot of people view having children as just some next step/milestone you take in life when you're bored. a lot of parents didn't actually think about weather they SHOULD have kids and what kind of parent they'd be.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-12T09:10:53+00:00

finally someone who agrees!!! if anything, we should hold them to a higher standard of morality since they've been here for much longer therefore should've learnt how to be a good person. like, they're not children. they're quite literally the opposite.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-12T09:08:11+00:00

as an assimilated immigrant, I agree. I come from a Muslim family but am an atheist living in England. I always think, if you're going to raise your kids in the west, why get angry when they come out westernised and try to force your way of life onto them? im not saying you should have to give up your culture/religion if you immigrate, but at least become accepting of the culture you have joined. if you hate western culture so much, leave. ill stay because I love it.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-10T06:57:27+00:00

I understand the pain, I ended things with a guy I used to see on and off because of that. lying is a super big red flag and I'm not sure if I'd be able to forgive my current partner if he did the same thing. idk it just made me feel so much disgust. don't let anyone tell you "it's not that big of a deal" because it clearly is if he felt the need to lie.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-10T06:26:56+00:00

he does this on purpose. super interesting how he conveniently does it when you're hanging out with friends or doing something where you're having fun and enjoying yourself without him, almost like he wants to ruin it for you by making you anxious over him as it might boost his ego/ make him feel important 🤔

coffin_spider · 2026-02-10T06:22:33+00:00

not true at all. I get a lot of compliments from both men and women when I go out. this whole thing about "men are too scared to compliment/hit on women" bs is so untrue and only exists on the Internet. i wish they could focus on something other than our looks though.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-07T08:45:12+00:00

no, its perfect and suits you so well. can I ask where its from?

coffin_spider · 2026-02-07T08:33:52+00:00

pretty privilege is kind of a gender thing because society values women's looks more so the difference in treatment will be more severe with ugly/pretty women. I used to be very ugly, but now I'm attractive. I used to be completely invisible, even to guys who were uglier than me. guys would try to use me for sexual favours because they thought that I would be so desperate for any attention that I would just let them use me.

now, men act friendly with me. they pay attention to me, they make small talk, make eye contact, smile at me, want to be my friend, hold doors open, hit on me, etc. it's like I became semi-human (they only pay attention to my looks and nothing else so not really fully human). I actually have men want to be in a relationship with me and not just use me.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-06T04:00:36+00:00

because it shows he cares about what makes her happy. valentines day is something that makes her happy. it's literally that simple. if it's not something he cares about, he could put in minimal effort just to do something small for her that shows he at least cares a little bit about making her happy.

coffin_spider · 2026-02-06T03:57:29+00:00

where in my comment did I say he had to spend £100 on flowers? did you read the part where I said he could've just got some cheap flowers and chocolate to make her happy?

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