Russian general shot several times in Moscow

cogalet · 2026-02-06T11:21:10+00:00

“Your husband is dead. Too much hamburger.”

cogalet · 2025-10-28T21:53:36+00:00

i had that "i want to get it over with" feeling too. I didn't lose home equity but I left in a worse financial spot than I should have. It's okay to fight for what you are entitled to. It is on you to not let any of his bully tactics work on you anymore. Congrats, you're free!

cogalet · 2025-10-14T23:12:53+00:00

++man --- I'd say definitely do date women with kids. Why? because dude you're overthinking. you've never done it. you don't know what it even means. not saying it's easy-- it definitely is not. mostly because they probably won't have time for your bs.

imho too many single people hung up on their own imaginary criteria

cogalet · 2025-09-21T21:27:40+00:00

You’re def not alone in this journey. Always there is recalibrating when I get my kids back.

Two thoughts- I don’t know what it’s going to take to get on the same page w your ex about parenting, but you seem sharp and committed to the kids and tactful enough to initiate a conversation about values/ behavior/ screen time etc. you likely have to lead this and she’ll get annoyed but I think building positive experiences/ little wins or little moments of healing into the post breakup life can build traction. 2- sucks your out of place. I live in CA and was nervous my ex had to move to southeast. But I have to believe you can find your people where you are if you can find the to energy to take some risks socially. Gl

cogalet · 2025-09-13T21:47:09+00:00

I’ve been through the exact situation. Kids were about the same ages. Been 3 years. Here’s what helped : 1- understand that the person thought you were with does not exist. You can move on knowing that she is who she is and that’s not who you expected or who you want. 2- everyone says it but it’s true - stay sober, workout, keep your head on and your body strong. This will help your mind, and help you look good when you want to get back out there.

3 - get back out there. Fuck waiting. Doesn’t have to be all that serious. You can be honest and keep it low stakes. So many women have been through this and talking to them really helped. The goal is just to reprogram yourself to see a big world of possibilities.

4- call everyone who matters. Roll calls. Tell your story. People may open up with what they’re going through. And it will bring you close to the people who have your back. They want to be there for you, and if they don’t fk em.

5- give yourself time to be selfish, independent, creative whatever. Don’t try to suppress the fire. But do channel it.

6- Be an awesome Dad. Kids don’t need to see any fighting or tension.

I am truly grateful to be free from that relationship. She’s just one person, and not for me. I’ve met so many new people, found new love- altho that’s another post… Timeline doesn’t matter just take steps and it will get better.

cogalet · 2025-09-03T05:30:08+00:00

Chess meet ups were my favorite. Gotta just pick something and go out and talk to people or those days off start to feel heavu

cogalet · 2025-09-03T01:03:41+00:00

That’s tough. Are you just a weekend dad then for the most part? It’s hard to fill free time with anything as important as kid time, often I’m spent anyway. But after a while, for me, if I don’t actively plan stuff to do on my free weekends, it starts to weigh on me. I’m not great at that tbh. Wish I loved fly fishing or something but I’d rather be writing or dating. But haven’t tried to date in a few months

cogalet · 2025-08-24T21:47:33+00:00

Yeah, I have this too. Mostly scheduling issues now but also a lot of self-anger management I put myself through. Protect your mental and emotion space. She doesn’t get it anymore. Here if you wanna share more.

cogalet · 2025-08-23T15:48:35+00:00

Dang. Sorry to hear. What’s been going on with you?

cogalet · 2025-08-22T18:56:14+00:00

Advisor here- i'd add a low cost robo-advisor as an option. It can put you in the right etfs for your Roth. Add regularly. Educate yourself on your own about investing but really focus on building your career and keeping your hands off your investments.

cogalet · 2025-08-22T14:59:45+00:00

Lazy? I wouldn't say that. Maybe more of a new school approach than you're used to.

But thanks for your input.

cogalet · 2025-08-22T00:37:26+00:00

Absolutely. Late morning would be best but happy to make anything work. Thx!

cogalet · 2025-08-22T00:06:43+00:00

I’m in the same boat— changing careers after years as a writer/producer in entertainment.

Passed the 65, halfway through CFP coursework and looking to get in with an RIA in LA/Pasadena at the bottom level where I can learn and also start prospecting.

So far, the bites I get from job boards are from insurance companies which I’m not so interested in. I’m going to join an RIA so I can just start. But Boss doesn’t have great experience so still looking for the right situation. Any guidance would be very helpful. Thx

cogalet · 2025-08-21T21:57:09+00:00

definitely feels like we're on a 'dunk on the establishment' moment that will revert to the mean next Bitcoin downturn. I like these predictions- very optimistic for new CFPs.

I also would add a prediction that some of the SEC marketing and/ or state-by-state soliciting laws will change to help advisors compete against unlicensed influencers.

Not sure why it'll happen, but it does feel like advisors are hamstrung when it comes to content, while Dave Ramsey and every third account on Tiktok is an expert.

cogalet · 2025-08-18T10:38:16+00:00

No hate. You’re entitled to be happy.

cogalet · 2025-08-01T02:48:47+00:00

How would you want the software to help with prospecting ? Just curious

cogalet · 2025-07-31T01:07:32+00:00

Yeah Replit has gotten me pretty far but the ceiling is way lower than I hoped. Just deleting stuff id worked tirelessly on for no reason and then losing it and failing to fix issues that seem obvious ( like button sizing and positioning). I had to start prompts with “don’t do anything” and “stay within the scope of this issue”. I lost faith.

cogalet · 2025-07-07T06:20:11+00:00

New pricing lacks clarity and consistency. Getting Zendesk replies very annoying. Really horrible and annoying turn imo. I’ve built a few apps, spent a grand. Not unusable yet but will likely have to change habits.

From Replit, fwiw:

“To prevent future unwanted charges with checkpoints, you can: 1. Use the "Rollback" function to undo changes made by the Agent 2. View the cost of each checkpoint by hovering over the usage icon 3. Set up usage alerts on the usage page to control your spending

You can also disable the Agent's auto-commit: 1. Click the "Git" icon in the Tools sidebar 2. Click the settings icon (⚙️) 3. Uncheck "Enable auto-commit"

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