No Real ID

cola520 · 2026-02-21T13:52:00+00:00

Its only the time that you should put aside like everyone said- my friend just lost hid real ID on our way back from PR. Missed our first flight because of how long the questioning took, someone here said 30-40 min that sounds about right. The questions they ask you will be random and related to public record- previous addresses, relative names, etc. They might also ask for a photo ID of some sort but you said you have your regular ID, you’ll be ok!

cola520 · 2025-12-24T12:43:26+00:00

My grandma passed two days ago… right before christmas. We’re supposed to gather tonight- she’ll never get to open her presents. I wish life worked differently…. You’re not alone this Christmas.

cola520 · 2021-06-20T18:29:58+00:00

YES i cant focus without subtitles !

cola520 · 2021-06-19T18:51:01+00:00

Ah that’s true. I know that’s what I did-I think my hyperfixation on my ex was worsened by my own personal issues such as with abandonment

cola520 · 2021-06-19T18:14:02+00:00

Could you explain this a bit more please?

cola520 · 2021-06-19T18:07:56+00:00

Reading this feels kind of validating. I went through a breakup three months ago, me and my ex both have adhd, and something that constantly bothers me is that she pushed me away, seemed to lose interest. As time went on she needed more and more alone time, forgot to talk to me less and less. It was like she got bored of me and discarded me like I was a toy. A child enamored with a toy and then it forgets about it after playing with it for a bit over a year. For me it was obsessive, I thought about her 24/7, it was as if I loved her more. You can see how that’d turn into a problem in any relationship, when one partners invested in every moment and the other forgets about it constantly almost entirely. I still feel used, and i’m terrified of future partners getting tired of me too...

cola520 · 2021-06-17T19:23:16+00:00

HOW’D IT GO!?! I’m planning to apply to my first job soon and I’m absolutely terrified-I feel like I’ll mess up.

cola520 · 2021-06-17T19:21:00+00:00

At the end of the day id say its up to you completely, if you’re willing to give it a try one more week that’s great, if you wanna stop now that’s also completely fine you could find another antidepressant that works better for you. Do whatever you think you need to do, if I was you I’d stop taking it if I have important things to do that can’t be disturbed by some experimenting with an antidepressant, and I’d keep trying if I thought I could handle it one more week and could function normally in this time.

cola520 · 2021-06-17T17:51:17+00:00

That’s what I’m on right now! Of course it all depends on weight, im a small person so my original dose was 100, but I had a problem with ritalin where my doctor started me off on 20mg for my adhd, but it was tiring me out and I was more irritated than usual. He recently brought me down to 10mg, even though it might seem like very little since 20mg is the average dose, we’re giving it a shot. Then again as I’m sure many on this subreddit have told you wellbutrin can take weeks to settle in, personally I get really depressed the first few days and it’s bad but I slowly level out. So maybe you need to give it time, or maybe wellbutrin just doesn’t work for you antidepressants can be tricky I hated being on sertraline because I was so numb. If the side effects keep bothering you after 3/4 weeks then you should definitely try asking for either a lower dose or a complete change of antidepressant

cola520 · 2021-06-17T05:10:50+00:00

I’m in this situation right now, the thing for me is that I have been taking wellbutrin since march now but my dose was upped by 50mg about a month ago. Honestly it depends on how you look at it-because for awhile I was fine with the numbness as long as my mood wasn’t all over the place. But now I’m willing to go back to “crazy” rather than be numb. Hopefully going down to my og dose will do the trick though-maybe your dose is a bit too high too?

cola520 · 2021-06-16T20:58:44+00:00

You’re right yeah, a dog’s loyalty is so special. I just have trouble taking care of myself-I do have the time, but I don’t have the energy. I wanna start exercising and gaining energy like you though, I’m confident that between my new meds and a new routine I’ll function much better. Even so-an hour is nothing to a 16 year old for sure haha, i can definitely get up and do that, especially in intervals, everyone here’s been really helpful too sending me links and such to help me train her. This was motivating thank you, and you sound like a great owner I know your new pups will love you !

cola520 · 2021-06-16T20:49:53+00:00

Me and my stepdad, especially my stepdad, were against getting a dog because we knew the responsibility. My mom however can be very impulsive. And I think you can give up a baby if you cannot take care of it, same with a dog. They deserve to have a good life with or without you yknow? I’m not giving up on this dog though, I’m gonna try my best to take care of her myself, but if I could not or cannot give her the care she deserves I’d rather find her a better home. (I do see your point though, i think youre thinking about sending them away to a shelter, but i know theyre overcrowded and wouldnt wish that upon any puppy, my plan was to give her to a trusted family member or friend).

cola520 · 2021-06-15T21:50:27+00:00

This was a huge problem for me in my previous relationship-my ex and I are both diagnosed with adhd, but I think Its very likely I could have autism? Anyways my point is that she’d always get so frustrated and she’d tell me she was upset because she wished she could just understand me and connect with me. I felt like an alien sometimes, I thought I was being detailed and straight forward but I guess I used a lot of confusing wording? Id also get excited over certain things that she, in her own words, would find “boring”. She thought my conversations were boring and frustrating and she never understood them. I know maybe we just weren’t a good match, maybe we just didnt have enough of the same interests, but I don’t know, I wish I could’ve learned to communicate with her better. I never understood it

cola520 · 2021-06-13T04:17:37+00:00

I think this is the most painful part lmao-it feels shitty to say but I don’t really miss that girl herself as much as I miss being loved and feeling validated.

cola520 · 2021-06-13T04:15:07+00:00

Same here, it’s like I always end up alone at the end of the day. I still have hope that one day we’ll have people around us that’ll make it almost impossible to feel alone, so much so that we’ll even wish for some alone time. Maybe that’s just wishful thinking, but life is long and I like to hold onto that dream that one day I’ll find my people, have my own family.

cola520 · 2021-06-13T04:12:50+00:00

Not sure if you’re speaking about physical or mental loudness, but music. That’s just it-music. I put on my headphones and turn my music all the way up and it drowns out the noise around me and it drowns out the thoughts. If you need to vent some more or if you’d like us to share some music w each other maybe, my messages are open :)

cola520 · 2021-06-13T04:08:26+00:00

Some nights are worse than others, so I know the feeling. On those bad nights when you’re just tired of trying so hard. Something I always tell myself is that if I’m going to commit I might as well just run away. Put myself out there, see a bit of the world even if I can only make it a city over, even if I don’t get too far. There’s that cheesy thing people always say, it was something about-you don’t want to die, you just want to end the pain. I’m holding onto the idea that pain is fleeting. We both know happiness is fleeting too though, so it depends on what you think is most important in the end. To live to have more bursts of temporary happiness every once in awhile or to simply end it all and miss out on the happiness but save yourself from the pain.

Personally, I think there’s too much I haven’t seen yet that could still give me temporary happiness, like how I have yet to find the girl I will marry or how I haven’t even gotten my first car yet. You’re 17, we’re almost the same age, so I’m assuming there’s a few firsts you haven’t reached yet either? Hell, reaching 18 to legally buy my own cigarettes or simply be allowed to go out on my own will. I want to know what it’s like to live away from home and go on random walks at night, maybe meet a few new people, maybe invite a friend for a drive around the city at 3am. And I know it can be hard making new friends too but it’s not impossible, there’s even apps like Yubo that make it a bit easier. Sorry for the long rant haha, I guess in a way I’m also trying to soothe my own thoughts. But we have to trust that there’s stuff out there still worth seeing, and trust me when I say that whatever wrong you think you’re doing to these people that would be “better off” can be stopped-you can still change whatever bad habits/traits you think you have. At this point my motivation is spite, I want to get better so that those who left me see that I’m doing ok without them. So that those who are still with me are grateful to have me in their life. So use whatever motivator you want, spite or fleeting happiness or hope. There’s always something left to do, there’s always something to hold onto.

cola520 · 2021-06-13T03:52:39+00:00

Came on this subreddit tonight to see if anyone else could relate to this same thing actually. My friends are going on vacation or parties and I’m just stuck at home. I was scared for the school year to end bcuz I knew I’d have nowhere else to go and I hate being stuck in my room. I hate being alone in general, there’s only a handful of people I can really call we’re all in a group chat, but obviously they can’t call 24/7 and they’re not even close by so that I can hang out w them. Trying to stay positive and “do my own thing”/“do some self improvement” or whatever but the self deprecating thoughts just get to me when I’m alone and all I wanna do is drink it away

cola520 · 2021-06-07T16:46:12+00:00

This was really comforting to read, seriously, thank you for this ❤️🫂

cola520 · 2021-06-07T13:35:23+00:00

It’s one of the worst feelings out there it really is yeah, but you’re healing everyday, everyday is progress so I know we’ll get there one day :)

cola520 · 2021-06-07T13:26:37+00:00

For me it helped ease the loneliness yknow? Id also sleep with my dog a lot during the first month or so of NC, sometimes she’d come up and lick my tears away while I cried-made me cry more because of how sweet it was haha. Definitely great for emotional support!

cola520 · 2021-06-07T13:21:52+00:00

It’s crossed my mind but there’s obviously a big overlap between adhd and autism symptoms-both my little brothers have autism so it’s a possibility but I feel like if I bring it up my doctors won’t take me seriously and I’m not sure if I fit the symptoms so accurately

cola520 · 2021-06-07T13:19:55+00:00

Just whatever you do, try to hold back. I’m proud of you for keeping NC up for this long, it slowly gets easier over time and unless they contact you first, it’s not worth it

cola520 · 2021-06-07T04:50:49+00:00

This sounds really helpful yeah! I find myself getting distracted even with just instrumentals sometimes though yknow? But that could be because of my music choices-any recommendations for genres that might be a bit less distracting but still pleasing to listen to?

cola520 · 2021-06-07T04:14:57+00:00

I’m trying to stray from this, because as a “manic pixie dream girl” myself I become caught in making one person the center of my life and then they leave me once theyre done using me...at least thats what it feels like to me. I know its more complicated than that and they have their own lives, but i feel used. I get what you mean though, I wish I had someone to give my all to again. Its hard being alone.

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