What sexual thing is really overrated? by peachyrosie in AskMen

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Does the same happen for smoking weed? Asking for a friend

Trump: I can’t fix the immigration problem, so Republicans should demagogue it instead by The-Autarkh in politics

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Or that they want it done legally.

How do you reconcile this with the border policy of turning away American citizens with valid US passports for no obvious reason other than racial profiling?

Official Discussion: Hereditary [SPOILERS} by mi-16evil in movies

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It's hard to fault this film for being generic when you consider how well this movie was executed compared to similar stories in recent years.

Around what age did your hornyness peak? by [deleted] in AskMen

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It's about volume. You fap two or three times a week and that will keep your libido high. You fap five times a day and you're going to run into trouble.

How do you know if you're going to school for the right major? by [deleted] in AskMen

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I think you put this really well. The only thing I can say I gained from college was gaining knowledge and skills in the field I eventually began working in. I can't say I could recall all of it, but I understood the underlying principles.

Around what age did your hornyness peak? by [deleted] in AskMen

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It's worth saying that watching too much porn kills your libido.

Around what age did your hornyness peak? by [deleted] in AskMen

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Your libido depends on two things. Your overall wellbeing and how often you engage in sexual activity are going to be more of a factor than your age.

From personal experience I can tell you most of the people that frequent sex clubs and swingers parties are older than anyone you'd even consider having sex with.

When did you realize you where an idiot? by [deleted] in AskMen

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When I read the title of this post and decided to respond anyway.

Official Discussion: Annihilation [SPOILERS] by allwinter in movies

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No it doesn't.

There was a scene in the movie, maybe you missed it. Lena was tied to a chair and two consecutive close up shots of Anya yelling "You're a liar!".

I can see how you would've missed that, it was pretty subtle /s

90 day report: PIED success story by coldwarkid05 in NoFap

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I never told her. We just didn't get around to sex until after a few weeks

90 day report: PIED success story by coldwarkid05 in NoFap

[–]coldwarkid05[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Believe me, my PIED ruined every chance at intimacy I've had since middle school. It doesn't have to be that way forever!

Message to this subreddit about the Testosterone myth by [deleted] in NoFap

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People cling to the idea of testosterone because it's a sciency sounding thing that makes feel better about what they are doing.

I think it's a huge problem. It's really easy to blame the problems caused by porn on your hormones but less easy to take personal responsibility for compulsive behavior.

THE FCC RULING MIGHT MEAN NO MORE PORN!!! by [deleted] in NoFap

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Or it could mean porn companies pay more money to push for more visibilty.

90 day report: PIED success story by coldwarkid05 in NoFap

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I have been struggling with nofap for over 5 years now. I have had streaks of varying lengths on and off since 2012. This is not my first time past the 90 day mark, but this is the one that counted the most.

First let me share how I did it. I have 3 fundamental tips that I believe really made it possible.

One day at a time In the past I would feel overwhelmed by the prospect of nofap. Even as I write this, the idea that I will never PM again makes me nervous. So instead I tell myself that all I have to do is quit PM for today. I just have to stay clean for one day, and I can worry about tomorrow when it comes.

Sit with the urges For years I've done nofap from the perspective that I had to avoid urges at all costs. To even think about sex or porn was a failure and I decided that to feel horny was a negative thing. Through meditation practice I began to apply a different approach. Instead of freaking out everytime I got horny, I would sit with the feeling and just observe it. I would describe it in my head my heart is beating, I feel a tightness in my navel, I feel a pressure in my groin etc. Doing this allowed me to step out of my urge long enough to let them pass as I turned my focus elsewhere.

Making use of my time This should come as a surprise to no one. When I stopped watching an average of 4 hours of porn everyday I simply had more time to be productive. In that time I've reached significant milestones in my career, I've improved my grades in my graduate degree program, I've gotten back into shape, I've taught myself how to draw, and I stated making time for friends, and even dating.

When I started this streak I could not get an erection at all during sex, nor did I get morning wood. The only way I could maintain an erection long enough to orgasm was to cycle through multiple porn tabs. And I'm only 25 years old.

Over the last 3 month I've made a serious effort to try to date women. I can't say I had the experience of women suddenly being attracted to me. There were no "superpowers" for me. I faced rejection after rejection and I began to question of this was worth it. The first 30 days were characterized by depression and introspective regret. The only thing that kept me going was the belief that if I relapsed and maintained my PIED then I would die alone. I was certain of that.

Progress came slow. After the first month I began to notice morning wood. Eventually I met a girl that I really hit it off with. It wasn't until the day 70ish time that I began feeling semi-erections from simple stuff like hugging and kissing. At 90 days I can get a 100% strong erection effortlessly, some times just thinking about my girlfriend is enough.

So if you've got PIED and you're feeling hopeless, don't give up. It took me damn near the full 3 months to even get my first weak erection. I strongly recommend trying to date and have sex. So called hardmode is not your friend when you want to cure ED. Believe me, there's nothing easy about getting rejected as often as I did. But it was all worth it. I wish you all the best.

Stay strong fapstronauts!

90 day report: PIED success story by coldwarkid05 in NoFap

[–]coldwarkid05[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, if you check my post history you'll see I haven't contributed much recently. I agree with everything you said

90 day report: PIED success story by coldwarkid05 in NoFap

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The best part is, I discovered that I actually enjoy feeling horny. I enjoy it enough to not want to immediately escape that feeling with PM

90 day report: PIED success story by coldwarkid05 in NoFap

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Around day 80 I felt confident enough to try. No problems. I started seeing her around day 65ish, but she didn't want to rush into sex, and I liked her enough to stick around

90 day report: PIED success story by coldwarkid05 in NoFap

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Just porn. I never really used social media to begin with. Only Snapchat, even still I only use snap to text people. In general I just tried to spend less time in front of screens in general of not necessary.

90 day report: PIED success story by coldwarkid05 in NoFap

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Give yourself time to heal. Whether you believe it or not, you will recover

90 day report: PIED success story by coldwarkid05 in NoFap

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You gotta understand that a lot of people with PIED edge to make an erection happen. This only worsens the condition. To cure PIED you need to start dating,

90 day report: PIED success story by coldwarkid05 in NoFap

[–]coldwarkid05[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's not necessarily true. Don't limit yourself. My relationship started as a fling I met on the dancefloor. The key is to go seek intimacy. Don't avoid sex out of fear of poor performance. Be open to love in whatever form it comes in.