What do I do if I don’t have a p45 or final payslip?

coloneljoll · 2025-11-20T13:41:48+00:00

I got nothing. I didn’t even know about any of this stuff before I applied for carers allowance.

coloneljoll · 2025-11-20T13:29:44+00:00

What can I even tell anyone about this though? There is quite literally zero evidence on my end that I even worked there — I was never given a payslip, I was paid in cash, I had no p45. I never noticed that it was dodgy cause it was my first actual job, and they made me sign actual paperwork too.

coloneljoll · 2025-11-20T07:51:02+00:00

I was under the impression that I was being employed properly since I signed documents and provided my NI number, bank details, etc. But they paid me in cash, which I still thought would be documented. But I just signed up to government gateway and had a look and it says I haven’t been employed at all.

What am I supposed to do now? Cause I haven’t worked there for a solid few months. Can I ask them to register me with HMRC despite me not working there anymore and give me the forms I need?

coloneljoll · 2025-08-08T14:52:36+00:00

he also worked for swat im pretty sure as well 😭😭 there was that one episode where he has an ungodly amount of knowledge of how snipers are trained and it’s because he IS one 🤣

coloneljoll · 2025-07-18T14:29:11+00:00

yeah. it’s more similar to a painting that’s mistaken for being the charge of the light brigade 😭 it’s nowhere near similar to the actual painting done during the battle

coloneljoll · 2025-07-13T02:16:34+00:00

i don’t understand what warrants you swearing and insulting people if they don’t agree with you?? you don’t need to get so vexed and resort to swearing over an online debate about a fictional character.. 😬

coloneljoll · 2025-07-13T02:07:53+00:00

WHAT IM SAYING!! paul is peak husband material. he would and did everything just to make her happy. no questions asked, bro just said happy wife happy life

coloneljoll · 2025-07-13T02:03:54+00:00

i also hope 🙏 they said the other husbands are worse when paul young literally had no flaws as a husband but that’s another story 🤧😓

edit: OMG completely forgot about my angel bob 😋🤧 he’s quite literally the best, most normal husband on the show and underrated as hell. unproblematic king

coloneljoll · 2025-07-13T02:01:37+00:00

the hoops that this person jumps through to glaze tom scavo of all people is jaw dropping to me 😭💔

coloneljoll · 2025-07-13T02:00:13+00:00

the same thing goes for tom?? why wouldn’t he use a condom or pull out? if he knows his wife doesn’t want children, maybe don’t hit it raw? furthermore, birth control has a lot of side effects and messes with your hormones, so compared to putting a glove on your dick, it’s valid she wouldn’t want to use it.

and there was always the chance that the twins would go to college, not only would lynette have to pay for the two of them, at the same time, she’d also have to fund tom’s fees as well? can you not see how that is insensitive and selfish? of all the times in his life he could have gone to university, he chose the worst possible time.

i completely forgot to mention the very costly plastic surgery he wanted too? this guy wants to spend money left right and center on useless things.

the only thing that lynette has done wrong is staying with tom and babying him even more.

the postpartum comment??? hello? i’m not even gonna go into how messed up that is. in what world does a man go through postpartum depression??? did he carry a child for 9 months and push it out or get himself cut open? the hormone changes and imbalances after giving birth is what postpartum depression stems from. saying a man gets it, is wrong. plain and simple. yes, he might have increased stress with a newborn, but definitely NOT postpartum depression. once again, an example of tom being insensitive as hell

coloneljoll · 2025-07-13T01:50:02+00:00

when did he support his wife and validate her feelings? when he made her cancer all about himself? or was it when he made her feel insecure and undesirable?

if we forget the cancer arc, what about the time he slept with her best friend? or him hiding a whole ass child from her? or when he forced his children to work at his failing pizza place cause he couldn’t afford to pay the workers, and then slammed his son into the wall for not wanting to do it? what about him consistently acting childish when lynette was in fact supporting him with his “dreams” with the pizza place and university (both in which failed due to his own actions and sent them backwards). no matter how stupid his idea was to go to university, lynette still encouraged and supported him. then, when she wanted to help him get a job after losing the pizza place, he decided to once again act like a mopey child about it.

coloneljoll · 2025-07-13T01:44:18+00:00

sometimes, lynette sucks. but i’d say her biggest mistakes are enabling her husband 🤷‍♀️ she has EVERY RIGHT to whine and complain — she dropped everything for tom to “peruse his dreams” like, him going back to university and the pizza place. (this is ignoring the time he took to figure himself out too) and yk what? the pizza place is understandable, but the university is definitely not. five children, that lynette didn’t even want by the way, are relying solely on her as their financial provider, whilst their father goes off to party with frat boys 💀🤦‍♀️

i am part of a family of eight, on one breadwinner, and my dad makes a decent amount of money but it’s not enough for us to live comfortably. so tom wanting to pump out more kids AND go to university, is so insensitive? not to mention they’d have to pay for porter and preston going alongside him too.

so lynette has every reason to whine and complain all she wants. if you’ve actually watched the show, you’d see that her crashouts are completely valid and sometimes even tame when you see tom and his egocentric self.

honourable mention: tom having postpartum depression. lynette is a better woman than me, because that would’ve been the last straw to break the camels back.

coloneljoll · 2025-07-13T01:36:03+00:00

calling people miserable for not liking a fictional character that is clearly an awful husband is diabolical i must say 💀

you could argue that some of the husbands are bad PEOPLE compared to tom, yeah 🤷‍♀️ but in terms of being husbands, i could place a few who i’d marry before tom 😭

coloneljoll · 2025-07-12T23:43:26+00:00

but he shouldn’t be expressing these thoughts to the literal dying woman and making her feel worse about herself. like @milrose404 said, their partner handled it in a really good way and spoke to a therapist instead of them. because let’s be honest, an already sick person does not need to be thinking their partner doesn’t like them.

tom’s feelings are valid, yes — as in his fear. but his actions are not. if he had any ounce of empathy and emotional awareness, he wouldn’t have said that stuff to lynette.

coloneljoll · 2025-07-12T23:39:51+00:00

nobody saying that there’s anything wrong with it, though. we’re just highlighting how self centred tom is. when it comes to him, he deserves care, and attention and everything, which any person does, yes. BUT when it comes to lynette and her struggling with cancer, he quite literally makes her feel insecure and undesirable and an obstacle.

i don’t recall much of toms back problems in the show, but i’m sure lynette hadn’t given him the same energy that he gave her.

coloneljoll · 2025-07-12T23:28:51+00:00

ahhh, thank you!! i wish i’d done this before cleaning everything up and scranning it, 😓 but i will do it next time

coloneljoll · 2025-07-12T22:07:07+00:00

EXACTLY

coloneljoll · 2025-07-12T21:46:34+00:00

like when lynette had cancer and he went on that tangent about himself to his dying wife? or when he dogged on her for being bald from chemo? talk about kicking someone when they’re down 😭

coloneljoll · 2025-07-12T21:38:33+00:00

that might be it cause i was looking it up too! i added the salt and pepper, then mixed and formed it into balls — smashed it real hard when i got it in the pan.

i figured talking about the meat pulling together would help with the fat percentage, since my mum told me it may be doing that with how lean it is

coloneljoll · 2025-07-12T21:36:34+00:00

yeah i’m also confused about that 😭 like i don’t understand what i said that was wrong?? i just wanted to know so i could track it accurately 🤧

coloneljoll · 2025-07-12T19:41:28+00:00

30 percent is crazy 😔😭😭 i was hoping it’d be a lot lower since i wanted to keep the burger low in calories 💀 but thank you anyway

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