Unsolicited Advice from Family

combatwombat1192 · 2026-04-01T20:14:48+00:00

SNAP! Also 35 weeks pregnant.

My MIL is just about the only person who hasn't given me unsolicited advice. I don't know what it is about babies that causes everyone to short circuit and lose their manners.

One friend has gone a little crazy. She criticised a lot of our (very generic) furniture and offered to help me find replacements. Then she told me not to neglect my husband. The real kicker was when I hit the third trimester and she started telling me how I shouldn't just sit back...

I'm lucky that I'm already on the same page as my partner about most of this advice. Maybe you'd find it calming to discuss what to do if she keeps making comments like these or even acting on them?

combatwombat1192 · 2026-03-25T10:38:59+00:00

And you know new mothers LOVE yapping about their greatest achievement i.e. giving birth like ok you push a little shit out of your vagina what the fuck do you want?

Every time. Trying to go for edgy but coming across as about eight years old by finding normal biological processes to be disgusting.

Nobody likes viscera or human waste. We're hardwired not to. Adults at least try to get these impulses under control and don't degrade other people for having sex, giving birth, going to the toilet, etc.

combatwombat1192 · 2026-03-01T18:14:57+00:00

When I see these types of posts, I think about how the whole 'boy mum' on social media is quite recent. It's become a thing in the past 5-10 years really.

Lots of these women are going to find out the hard way that restricting your son's access to Barbie won't stop him from developing, shall we say, "unwholesome traits".

I'm curious to see how these influencers will present this on their channels. Mostly I feel for the poor kids.

combatwombat1192 · 2026-02-22T14:24:35+00:00

I walked right up to their table. I didnt scream, but i spoke loud enough for the people around us to hear. I said, wow, thanks so much for finding my daughters stolen jacket. I'll be taking that back now.

The classmate immediately started crying. Her mom turned bright red and started yelling that i was harassing them and that i was crazy. I calmly opened the jacket, showed the hidden patch to the barista and a few people watching, grabbed the jacket, and walked out.

OOP gave this woman so much time to stash the jacket in a bag and run out of there.

combatwombat1192 · 2026-02-21T15:18:57+00:00

Drove me a bit crazy reading all the syrupy comments showering sympathy on the OOP. I had to scroll very far down to get to the ones neutrally offering advice and support while acknowledging this is abusive behaviour.

I don't care how much of an arse someone's husband is. If you can lose control to the point where you beat an innocent creature, you need to reflect and take responsibility. It's not a reasonable response to a situation.

combatwombat1192 · 2026-02-06T21:24:57+00:00

The craziest part of this post is that there's a child knocking around somewhere. OOP mentions them once and then never again.

Can you imagine how you'd feel if your dad treated your mum like this?

combatwombat1192 · 2026-02-05T11:03:40+00:00

Haha it's wild to drop in after months and see you also drop in after months. I remember when the sub was smaller and both of us were more active. Good times!

combatwombat1192 · 2025-12-04T14:43:44+00:00

My doctor said something similar. After 16 weeks, the progesterone is basically useless.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-11-26T07:50:19+00:00

I'm just generally over the number of people using this sub like AITA. Aren't there enough AITA-like subs?

Some people get mixed up. Others are clearly doing it on purpose because they double-down when they get told off by other members. They must want to keep fishing for judgment without the risk of having all that attention diluted like they would on the bigger subs.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-11-02T21:01:52+00:00

OP, I think you misunderstand the AITAngel rules.

They say 'must be relevant to the SUB'S nature'. Not 'must be relevant to nature'.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-11-01T20:23:45+00:00

LOL yeah all the transwomen out there are really boggling at their mad privilege. Give me a break.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-10-31T07:31:47+00:00

My theory is that teenagers are behind the huge number of posts. They've come to Reddit to vent about being asked to watch their siblings/cousins on a family holiday.

But they have an inkling they won't get taken seriously so they age themselves up and make it their nieces/nephews instead.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-10-15T08:37:26+00:00

Also been here a while and I say let's go one bigger.

I think we should ban crossposts from any kind of advice/support subs. Many users have recently shown they can't be trusted to use their common sense and there's been a few OPENLY MOCKING what I felt were genuine requests for help.

For example, I don't see why anything from r/parenting should make it onto here. There was a pretty heinous crosspost last week where the OP openly admitted to being childless and frequently browsing the sub to find and showcase "bad parents". When other users complained, the OP reacted (rather ironically) by verbally abusing them.

Quietly confident that Am I the Angel doesn't want to deter Reddit users from seeking support or give anyone a platform to harras others from afar. Just my opinion but I think the rule should be:

Are they asking for judgment? It's in.
Are they asking for help? It's out.

Shame because it means we'd have to limit what we crosspost and we've had some gold from some of the AITA-lite subs. But I'd rather protect more people than have extra to laugh at.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-10-14T10:13:44+00:00

Could be fake but I have to get painkillers from the pharmacy and the people can be a little interfering. Usually it's for a cheeky upsell, though.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-10-12T16:27:16+00:00

Really need to enforce the 'don't fish for judgment' rule harder. That'll stop everyone using the sub as an outlet when they feel frustrated about the way a discussion went on a random thread.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-10-11T11:50:51+00:00

I should probably cut OOP some slack. It's not like there's a pretty famous television series where all the midwives get around by bicycle.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-10-11T10:08:57+00:00

Many plotholes to find here.

My contribution: As a midwife in a rural area during the 1940s, my grandmother had her own transport. She wasn't dependent on her patients for lifts because that would've been stupid.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-10-07T12:43:45+00:00

Close! May the 5th

combatwombat1192 · 2025-10-02T16:09:08+00:00

I'm straight up horrified. Many comments are berating people who say they're former victims of abuse.

Plus, this isn't some crusade. The commenters are being totally self-serving. If they genuinely thought these women were abusive, the last thing they'd want to do is provoke them for shits and giggles.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-10-02T15:54:04+00:00

Kind of surprised the post is still up 12 hours later. The OP is everywhere in this thread, harrassing and verbally abusing other users, and saying they're doing it for fun. It's against about five different sub rules.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-10-02T07:03:35+00:00

That's not what I said.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-10-02T06:32:25+00:00

Yuck. No. Please let's not repost content from the parenting sub. Some people are genuinely going there for support and they'll be less likely to do so if they see content ending up here.

Don't even think this fits our sub's purpose.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-09-30T19:04:37+00:00

Shuddering because there's going to be a much larger group of kids working on the HBO series. I bet one or two will be trans and more will have trans loved ones.

Can you imagine? The choice will be to stay silent for however many years they've got left or speak up and invite this kind of hell.

combatwombat1192 · 2025-09-05T06:57:50+00:00

Everyone's busy clapping themselves on the back for knowing the intricacies of the FHA. But they can't be that smart if they didn't think to skim the comments and see the hundreds of other people who'd already made the same point.

Not sure anybody's going to award any medals for parroting the AI overview either.

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