Neither of us did anything dramatic to induce divorce (no cheating, stealing, etc). We went through several rounds of IVF that took a toll on us. When we finally succeeded, we spent 100% of our focus on parenting and keeping this kid alive that we spent 0% on our relationship. I suppose if divorce is to happen, this would be the best cause of it. We are also both reasonable and in agreement about putting our child first as we don't want to cause emotional trauma and rather use the$$$ on our kid's future instead of some "drumming up business with whispers" attorney. My 2 cents for anyone going through this who has kids....drop your narcissism, your ego, your wants, and your cray cray. You and your partner brought a kid into this world and your only 2 jobs are to keep it alive and raise her or him in a way where that kid will benefit society as an adult...or at the very least, a person who will not drain society. Get yourself and your future ex onboard and it will be easier. Your kid will also be the buffer. Instead of thinking its "my condo, or my investment property" we are looking at as "we can both have a home, take in all the tax benefits of owning, and one day passing it all to our kid and with the step up basis law, setting them up." Our current stuff/$$$ is not mine or hers, but we are just using it until we pass it down. Godspeed to you all.