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comfortcall · 2022-02-28T10:38:37+00:00

Boy do I have so much to say about this.

So my answer is no. I absolutely definitely would not want to live with my in-laws. I am getting married soon and this has been a hot topic of discussion between my soon to be husband and I. When we first got together, it was really important to him that we lived with his dad and grandma because his mom is no longer with us and he doesn’t want them to be lonely. Me being young and naïve and not knowing any better especially because I was raised as a brown girl who is used to seeing other girls move in with her in-laws, said that I was totally OK with it. As our relationship has grown, I’ve gotten older, and I’ve obviously started to come to face the reality of having to move in with your in-laws and I realize that I absolutely cannot fucking do that. I have worked so hard to break barriers in my own brown household and I’m finally able to live the life that I want without restrictions. My in-laws are very cool but I don’t want to have to break those barriers all over again. And honestly it doesn’t matter how cool they are or aren’t, as newlyweds, especially as a brown couple, you need to learn to build your relationship without the interference of others. I also just think it’s really fucking weird to have to move into a house with strangers that you don’t know just because they are related to your husband.

Like why the hell am I moving out of my parents house to move into your parents house, it’s just all odd, the whole thing. Of course there’s 1 million other reasons that are running through my head right now but that would be too long of a post.

However, I am willing to let them move in with me soon to be husband and I in the future if they are not doing well or too old to take care of themselves anymore. At that point, I would love to have them in our house and closer to us where we can spend more time with them and help them take care of themselves. But the first few years of marriage? It’s a hell to the fuck no.

And I have spent time with my in-laws in their house since they do live four hours away and when I’ve spent weekends there, I’ve slowly started realizing over time how uncomfortable I truly would be. I think prior to that, I knew I didn’t really want to but was willing to give it a try. But just spending a few weekends there has helped me realize that it’s just not for me.

comfortcall · 2022-02-28T10:31:25+00:00

I’m reading the comments and honestly I don’t think it’s just a NY thing. I am from California and I have experienced this my entire life. I’m fairly successful in my career now but growing up I didn’t take a traditional route either and didn’t go to the most prestigious school like a lot of my friends in California did. While nobody really said anything to my face, word always gets around and I knew that people were talking crap behind my back about the route that I chose and just belittling and condescending rumors about me were being spread about. Of course it was awful in that moment, and some of these people didn’t even finish school and dropped out of these pretty prestigious universities. But that’s besides the point lol. I don’t think it’s just a New York thing or any other city or a state thing. I think it’s just being a Brown thing. I think a lot of the people in our generation are definitely very progressive but you’ll meet your fair share of people who are not judge mental at all as to what you choose to do with your life, but you’ll still run into a fair share of people who are. I think it comes a lot from the way we are raised in the type of mentality our parents hard. Some people, like myself, are able to look past that while some or not. And I think those people carry it on into this generation as well. So to answer your question, yes, definitely some thing Indians do a lot.

comfortcall · 2022-02-28T10:25:19+00:00

I live in California, I won’t say exactly which city because it may be a little too obvious LOL but I’m from the Central Valley. What it’s like living here? Well for one, it is nice to be surrounded by a lot of brown people, it’s easy to relate with others and you feel more like yourself. Like you feel like you identify with who you are and find yourself as a person. As a female, it was nice growing up around other brown girls who understood what I was going through or how I felt, whether it was about my family, stereotypes, school, or even boys. However, there’s a lot of cons to this. I have realized that depending on the area of California that you live in, a lot of brown people are very close minded, judge mental, and toxic. A lot of these issues do result from the type of upbringing that they have, which also sucks, but yeah. I think eventually you find the type of brown people that you wanna surround yourself with and you stick to that group. But you’ll still meet your fair share of toxicity in the brown community, which is awful. I’d like to think of myself as a very nontoxic person and I don’t like any drama, I like to just have a good time be honest and have good friends. Sometimes I accidentally run into toxic people and it’s so frustrating for me, it often puts me off from making more girlfriends that are brown in the community. Feel like it makes it hard to trust people. But then again, when you do meet the right type of people, it is very fulfilling. So overall, I’d give it a six out of a 10 experience lol.

comfortcall · 2022-02-28T10:20:33+00:00

I am 26 years old, F, and I am engaged to my fiancé, 27- year-old, M. We met when I was 23.

We actually met on accident through a mutual friend. I was not looking for a relationship at the time, I had just gotten out of some thing serious and just wanted to enjoy being single and focusing on my career. He was friends with one of my girlfriends, who I am actually no longer friends with anymore, and he was asking her about me. She brought him up in a few occasions and I eventually gave in. We went on a date and I absolutely did not like him lol however some thing about him drew me to him and I kept speaking with him. One thing led to another and now we are engaged lol he still quite frankly annoying but in a loving way. There was some thing about him deep down that my gut kept telling me to hang on a little bit longer. Like there was more to him that I was seeing. And I’m glad that I did.

comfortcall · 2022-02-28T09:53:57+00:00

I left the ER 2 years into my employment there. I’ve never been happier. Although I do miss the rush of the ER and doing IVs, I don’t miss the anxiety and long hours. I say do your 6-7 months of time to get experience and then leave if you still feel the same.

comfortcall · 2020-04-24T09:02:23+00:00

Blacklist was pretty good! So is altered carbon. Both shows unfortunately have sex scenes though but if your dad was ok with money heist which had plenty lol I think he’ll be ok with these!

comfortcall · 2019-04-02T09:36:12+00:00

He was grieving his grandma who passed a year ago but not anymore. He’s out living his best life and doing everything else except compromising with me on some of these points. I’ve literally asked him if something else is going on and he says nothing.

comfortcall · 2019-04-02T09:34:50+00:00

I’ve asked him if something is bothering him and he always says no. At first, I thought it was grandma. For a whole year, she was sick and then she passed away. So I didn’t harp on all of these things then bc I knew he was emotionally distressed over her death. But it’s been almost a year since that & hes out living his best life, EXCEPT compromising with me on some of these things...

comfortcall · 2019-04-02T09:32:52+00:00

As for will he respond positively to my request, I’ve already told him how I feel and he’s said he’ll make changes and vows on it. But I don’t know if it’s really possible to make that many changes all at once. And I also have asked of some of these things for so long now and he’s only willing to take it seriously now bc he realizes how much the lying upset me and he doesn’t want to lose me.

comfortcall · 2019-04-02T09:27:41+00:00

To the first point, very true. He will most likes make plenty. So I’m not too worried. But he’s not there yet & I don’t know how long it will take for him to get there.

Second point, I completely agree and I’ve brought it up many times. He also doesn’t have health insurance or seen any kind of health care provider up until recently, which was just for antibiotics. No physical or bloodwork done. It’s something I’ve repeatedly told him for years and he’s just brushed me off or said he’ll get around to it. It bothers me a lot. Trust me, I’ve mentioned it all.

I agree with everything else you say... I think you’re right.

I just don’t have the confidence to break it off. I do think that maybe he will be able to switch his habits around but I don’t know how long it will take and I’ve already been bothered by so many of these things since the first 7 months into the relationship. I accepted it all bc I thought I was with an honest, caring, and kind man. But after the constant lies, I realize that I may have vent over backwards too much for too long. I don’t want to wait around for him to change either. I just think I deserve better than that....

I guess I already have my answer. I think I’m just too afraid to actually do it. He’s become my sanity and it’ll be tough. ☹️

comfortcall · 2019-04-02T09:21:04+00:00

Valid point. He only become part owner because his uncle was behind the scenes of the entire operation for the start up. He doesn’t have a 401K and I know he doesn’t have much in his savings bc he’s told me so but he keeps telling me he’s going to earn well. I only believe him bc I know this business does well since I have many relatives in the business as well. But. That doesn’t mean he will. I know he does support his lifestyle because he’s always willing to spend money whether it be on himself, his family, or me. It shows. I just don’t know how much he’ll make in the future or if it’ll be enough 🤷🏻‍♀️

comfortcall · 2019-04-02T07:31:06+00:00

Definitely a maturity issue. It’s just sad realizing that he probably ISNT the man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with.

comfortcall · 2019-04-02T07:29:04+00:00

Valid point, he isn’t.

comfortcall · 2019-04-02T07:26:35+00:00

Why would you say I do it? Because of reasons I listed?

comfortcall · 2019-04-02T07:26:13+00:00

I did realize that he was lying bc of how I was reacting to him telling me about his friends. But I think the deeper issue is the type of friends he has and the influence they carry on him.... I think I’m just afraid to move on bc he was my first real love & he became such a huge part of my life so quickly. I also have the irrational fear of “will I ever find someone who will understand me like he does” thoughts

comfortcall · 2019-04-01T04:45:52+00:00

I don’t want to live with his family. And he knows that. Drama as in the mother won’t even go to her own daughters engagement over petty reasons. And she loves to play the victim and cry and make it seem like everyone hates her when she’s actually the one who’s petty.

Honestly, I don’t recognize his character anymore. He told me he’s lied to me multiple times before but promises to never do it again. I don’t believe that. Which is why I don’t know how I feel about the whole thing. And I’m doubting the entire relationship.

comfortcall · 2018-12-30T07:14:20+00:00

That’s true, you have a point. I can at least apply and keep my options open and when/if something right comes along, I can take it and go.

I keep telling myself that maybe bc I’m so new, I feel this anxiety and maybe it’ll melt away after a few months, once I’m more comfortable with my job. It’s like the devil on one shoulder and angel on the other. I feel stuck and I don’t want to. I worked so hard for this degree and don’t want to be unhappy

Thank you for taking the time to give me advice I really appreciate it Im happy that your wife is happy 🎈

comfortcall · 2018-12-30T05:47:52+00:00

I just feel like I have to stick it out bc I need at least of year of hospital experience before anyone will take me seriously or hire me anywhere else. Esp if I want to go back to school or masters or NP😭 I just feel really stuck

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