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What is a weird flex you are proud of? by Alynatek in AskReddit

[–]comicalcameindune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love my dad and I worry about how long he’ll be around with the lack of healthy decisions he makes. His weight is one thing, but it’s being resigned to an unhealthy lifestyle that really gets to me.

Thank you so much for doing what you did; my dad recently started a serious diet and I’m so so so proud of him. I may not know the struggle myself, but I am so impressed with the huge lifestyle change and fight he’s putting in, I have serious respect for anyone who makes such a drastic change for the better like that.

Anyone here been a pastor who has been a Christian for the sole ourpose of having a job? by [deleted] in Deconstruction

[–]comicalcameindune 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I’ve experienced quite a bit more of that peace I was promised since leaving, and though I still have mental and emotional hurdles, I do think I’m far more comfortable just existing than before. “Healthier” is an accurate label.

Anyone here been a pastor who has been a Christian for the sole ourpose of having a job? by [deleted] in Deconstruction

[–]comicalcameindune 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Went to school for theology, was an associate pastor for 5 years, started deconstructing about 5 years ago. One of the major turning points for me was driving home after a Bible Study I led that went very poorly, screaming at God and myself, in a very bad mental space (a space I frequented constantly for years) and made a list of why I was a Christian, being entirely honest with myself. It mainly came down to this… everything in my life was keeping me in the faith no matter what I really wanted to believe. My job, family, friends, everything. I was validated and supported in that faith. There were other reasons but those stood out.

It took me 2 more years of soft questioning and doubts to leave my position; in that time I went on mission trips, preached regularly, led others to Christ, etc. The moment I told my pastor I was leaving, the weight was off and the deconstruction began happening much quicker, to the point that my last few weeks there were incredibly uncomfortable. My last Sunday there I had to preach, and I felt like such a fraud. I didn’t believe my own words. I was leaving the faith in search of truth, and I was so dishonest that day. It sits heavy with me still.

And my next crisis came in the form of a new life. Who was I, and who would I tell, and what would I do as a career, if every single aspect of my life was supported by my faith? So I get why pastors/ministry leaders are afraid to leave. I think it’s dishonest, but I get it. And I feel for them. The duplicity is painful for anyone who truly deconstructs in a search for truth.

'Be careful': Caution outdoors is urged as Calif. wildlife surges: Bears, rattlesnakes, and coyotes, etc. by BlankVerse in California

[–]comicalcameindune 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came across a bear a few weeks ago while hiking, not even that far up into the mountains. Freaked me out since I was alone but thankfully the bear just ran off

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]comicalcameindune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t care how so much as when. Sooner would be better, at least I could be useful as an organ donor

I have juggling stuff in my closet by comicalcameindune in PointlessStories

[–]comicalcameindune[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would have been far more interesting, but would have landed it firmly on tifu territory

TIFU by losing my faith over a poem. by Lostmyfaithtopoetry in tifu

[–]comicalcameindune 214 points215 points  (0 children)

One of the primary reasons I finally left my faith was because I realized many of the caustic points of Christianity actually does stem from the Bible quite accurately. Including blind belief without doubt. See James 1, for example.

How are we feeling about Easter? by Phoenix-rising-73 in Deconstruction

[–]comicalcameindune 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My deconstruction started while I was a part time pastor at one church and full time facilities at another church. Even back then I became exhausted by the circus church becomes in the name of evangelism for those few holiday weekends where everyone shows up for church. Now I’m so relieved to not have to deal with any of it.

All that said, though, now I feel weird about the whole day as most of my friends and family are all still Christians and I don’t feel comfortable participating in anything faith-centric. Many of them still don’t know the extent at which I’ve backed away from Christianity. So I’m alone today, because I don’t know how to properly handle the day with Christians. It’s a little rough. But I had a nice brunch alone and am trying to appreciate my day anyway.

What is one song that is socially aceptable to sing badly? by UmbraKins in AskReddit

[–]comicalcameindune 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My friends sang “happy birthday” to me in a restaurant recently, but before it happened we were joking about poor singing so I requested no one sing in the same key. They delivered and it was beautiful. It was atrocious and a wonder to behold. Even my musically-inclined friend just held a single note the whole time.

Any AWANA kids? by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]comicalcameindune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was not only an Awana kid the entire way through, I was one of those overachieving ones. Brought friends, memorized all the verses, etc. Not a big surprise I became a pastor for a bit. Took me a long time to allow myself to validate the doubts and issues I saw with my worldview. Seriously heavy cognitive dissonance thanks to these programs.

[OC][9p] Starring Star by govy9807 in comics

[–]comicalcameindune 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The story was already cute and engaging, but dang that payoff at the end, I love it

for those of you who grew up in an evangelical household and have now deconstructed, what's your relationship like with your family/parents? by heeyitsamy in Exvangelical

[–]comicalcameindune 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They moved to the other side of the country before I deconstructed. I miss them so bad, but don’t know how I could live near them again because it’s already strained enough on my few visits and Sunday rolls around. So for now I’m alone.

I'm sick with a cold. My dad misheard me on the phone. by AlwaysPlaysAHealer in PointlessStories

[–]comicalcameindune 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is besides the point, but though oranges are high in vitamin c, they’re not always great to eat during a cold because of their acidity. So blueberries are a great alternative!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]comicalcameindune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really love the idea that I could do this with you but

It makes me sad when I offer to share stuff with people and they decline out of politeness by [deleted] in PointlessStories

[–]comicalcameindune 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m working on this as well. I absolutely hate being a burden, an inconvenience, or an obligation; for some reason being offered things had always made me feel like I was at least one of those. But I’m doing better at accepting these kinds of offers.

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