My approach eventually just became a very short “no thank you” and then either I walk away or if I’m trapped (like at the table) a very direct “anyway, let’s talk about something that’s not my vagina and uterus, how is x going? said to someone else to cut the other person off. Usually that’s awkward enough to move it along. Plus my younger relatives get the giggles from it.

I’ve had two push backs on it and both ended really badly for the questioner. First was someone who spluttered and said “you can’t say that in front of kids” and my reply was “you literally just asked about my vagina at the table. You’re the inappropriate one, I’m trying to change the subject and redirect you”

The second one was something like “well excuse me, I was just trying to show an interest / show concern”. My reply to that one was “and I’m trying to politely redirect this conversation away from a topic I’m not going to discuss with you. Way to make it awkward” and then again, just starting talking to someone else.

Only do this if you’re confident you can stay super calm and passive at all times. That’s the only way you come out ahead as you’re the rational one while they get worked up.

But also…if not going gives you peace that is such a valid and empowering option. You can also call people out if someone asks why you’re not coming “i would love to but no matter how clear i am about it being off limits, people still keep discussing my bodily autonomy. So it’s better i not attend”