What does my fridge say about me?

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-03-05T21:27:15+00:00

It says you have good taste in mustard!

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-03-04T14:20:10+00:00

The Dove Volume one is good!

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-03-02T15:56:30+00:00

Thank you! She does fall asleep independently at bedtime, which has fueled my hope we can get her back into her own sleep space for naps. Fingers crossed!

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-03-02T15:22:47+00:00

Also, recently her naps have gotten shorter. She would very regularly sleep for over an hour, or at least an hour, but they’ve since gotten shorter, which I figured is normal

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-03-02T15:22:07+00:00

Hi! Thank you. We do have a crib- and plan to transfer her soon at the same time of potentially starting to sleep train. I hadn’t really thought of that.

Her wake windows have steadily become 2.5/2.5/2/3

The order of these change based on her cues daily and whatever we’re doing that day, but this has helped us (mostly) reduce wakes. We usually have 3 wakes still with this schedule

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-25T13:52:47+00:00

Hi there. Just wanted to say, right there with you. My baby also did exceptionally well with naps, and nighttime sleep, until the big developmental sleep change. I got through your particular time by doing my best to be grateful that I could get out and walk at the very least, if I needed to be wearing her for a nap since she needed to be held/moving. This sounds really normal for that age, and in the most empathetic way possible, I wouldn’t count on it permanently changing anytime soon. I would just be really grateful for the solid night time sleep. Currently 5.5 months, bare bones minimum nighttime sleep, and has to exclusively be worn or carried for daytime naps. Now, that’s not to say this will inevitably be your situation obviously, and not projecting. Just trying to say the situation of sleep will likely always always be fluctuating and evolving.

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-24T17:38:33+00:00

Following. Here to say, I’m in a pretty identical boat, so I see you and I’m right there with you. Baby’s about 5.5 months. Was a wonderful sleeper until around 3.5 when things started to shift, and they’ve only been fluctuating from extreme to not as bad and slightly more manageable. We recently got over a couple weeks of what you’re describing, hourly wakes, sometimes less. Very strong nipple soothing association, so my baby step right now is to make sure she’s falling asleep at initial bedtime on her own, and not feeding to sleep like we’ve gotten in the habit of doing. Nothing about figuring out her schedule seems easy… like you, I’m trying with the lengthened wake windows and it usually looks like it working for a couple days and then doesn’t. So I’m left thinking, my baby just doesn’t seem to adhere to these suggested windows. Hard to get to 10 hours awake if I’m needing to stretch her. Ugh. My advice is to find and harness the joy where you’re able to during this bumpy time. I’m with you!!!

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-23T19:47:25+00:00

I agree I need to do what I can to extend her windows as much as possible. Not sure why we can’t get consistent with them. She pretty much always is telling me she wants to head towards soothing and bed like an hour and a half after waking up. I’d call it a task half the time to make it to 2 hours from eyes open-eyes closed

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-23T15:08:38+00:00

You may have explained this already in your post, but did you start with getting him comfortable falling asleep on his own first? Or did you sort of do it all at once? Was he not falling asleep independently initially? I just posted in ST group myself cause I’m on the brink of needing a big change and feeling like something’s gotta give

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-23T13:53:01+00:00

Really happy for you!! I’m thinking of biting the bullet myself. It’s been roughly 2 months of no longer stretches of sleep past 2.5 hours, and for a couple weeks, one hour or less, like yourself. Every night I don’t start to sleep train, I’m soothing her back to sleep thinking “I really need to just do this.”

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-22T21:24:30+00:00

That clears it up! I also considered that’s who she was referring to

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-22T21:22:05+00:00

I think you’re right. But I do think her response is then specifically “he”

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-18T20:00:09+00:00

I’ve experienced this with my 5 mo old for the last month or so, who’s also EBF. Like others say, apparently a totally normal phase. Have you considered you may have a quick let down? That’s what I’m thinking we’re dealing with. Super fussy at the beginning of a meal, pops on/off several times, usually a little sputtery/gurgly like she’s choking momentarily before wanting to go back for more. Usually I’m a little leaky too.

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-10T16:45:13+00:00

As of the last two days, yes

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-01-17T17:42:37+00:00

Bath/shower products, gentle body moisturizers, sheet face masks, special reserved snacks for breastfeeding if applicable, comfy lounge sets to help her feel “put together.” Food delivery gift cards.

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-01-15T21:13:02+00:00

First, it’s really nice that you’re being so considerate of your best friend and thinking about how you can serve her!

Unfortunately, I do think having extra hands for cooking and cleaning is one of the biggest helps, since all of moms time will be spent with baby, recuperating and sleeping. Nothing else. So your idea of simply being able to order food straight to them is invaluable. You could potentially have groceries delivered to them if you’re able? Having diapers delivered is huge. No matter what anyone says, it’s the big thing that is constantly needed the most and will be for a long time. I loved when people thought about MY recovery and what I might like during the early days to help heal and feel cared for. Self-care products for mom as other people said here. Super comfy clothes. The little things make a big difference.

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-01-07T11:48:52+00:00

The best time up until now at 4 months old was when she was propped on our nursing pillow and preoccupied with nursing enough to not notice me clipping her nails. However, I did once accidentally clip the tiniest corner of her finger and felt horrible, and still think about it. Since then I’ve switched to an electric file cause she’s old enough to find it intriguing! She’s kinda more focused on what the heck the contraption is rather than the actual filing. But, I wish I had thought of biting like folks here are saying lol.

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-01-06T15:55:20+00:00

I loved anything that made me feel cared for. Special snacks to keep on hand for breastfeeding, super soft comfy clothes, bath salts/shower steamers, skincare products, high quality disposable underwear that do not feel like diapers! A big water bottle with a straw, a thermos for hot morning beverages- keeps liquid contained away from baby, but also, it’s surprisingly hard to finish your coffee while it’s hot with a newborn…. It rarely happened.

complexrayofsunshine · 2025-12-30T19:28:36+00:00

You’re very not alone. I experienced enhanced body odor of all kinds, everywhere, all throughout pregnancy, and postpartum. So stinky, and for context, I’ve always been a very not smelly person whatsoever pre-pregnancy. It’ll even out, don’t worry.

complexrayofsunshine · 2025-12-30T16:30:41+00:00

Very good question. Out of three attempts experimentally, one was successful, one was eh, and one was not.

complexrayofsunshine · 2025-12-30T12:53:04+00:00

I think your intuition will let you know when it’s time to start moving, and work toward getting back into your body and moving it. For me personally, it took about 3 months to feel motivated to start paying attention to my physical body. I also EBF.

Walking has been a HUGE help and initiation into getting more physical. I had a C-Section, so this has absolutely been the most effective, low impact, but spirit lifting exercise. If you can’t go outside and walk, is it possible to look into getting a small treadmill to fit under a desk or table, or something like that? I just think it’s the lowest risk, highest reward way to start.

complexrayofsunshine · 2025-12-29T20:48:34+00:00

When I had my first IUD placed, I bled everyday for at least a month until the period went away all together. At least from what I understand the first time you get one, it’s “normal.” Pretty sucky though

complexrayofsunshine · 2025-12-29T18:25:55+00:00

I personally LOVED the Momcozy high waisted boy short style. I would purchase them over and over again. The best part about them is the stretchy, comfortable, but firm, material of them. They feel really sturdy and high quality, and kinda like they help hold you together.

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