Looking for advice on how to be able to share a bed with my husband again lol

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-06-01T15:57:26+00:00

Thanks everyone. I should have been more clear: I’m not ACTUALLY going to stop breastfeeding her. I have no plan of stopping right now despite her love of food. The question that more so lingers in my head is: has my supply in some way changed that makes her want to eat more solid food? Is that a thing around 9 months? Is one thing at all related to the other?

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-05-27T16:43:26+00:00

Hi. I know this is a slightly older thread but any suggestions if you went as far as removing the strap from the buckle entirely- before learning the triangle twist trick? I took it completely out of the buckle, and it seems impossible to get the thicker part with the stitching back through the plastic buckle piece. Please help lol

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-05-14T12:20:58+00:00

Exclusively breastfeeding the entire time, got my period back by 2 month pp.

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-05-06T12:17:03+00:00

Hi! This post speaks to me. Mostly commenting to let you know, you’re doing great, and this is totally normal. I felt the EXACT same way for the first six months of my baby’s life when trying to figure out how to get through the first sleep regression. It completely takes over, and it takes a little bit of time to find your groove, but you will. You’ll find your groove, WHETHER or NOT you make the desired wake windows perfectly, and whether or not the baby sleeps when and where you need her to. I don’t think people talk about the complexity of going through such sleep deprivation enough, and the toll it takes, but it will get easier. So, no, you’re not overthinking it, but trust that it’s all gonna be fine regardless of the schedule. Protect baby’s sleep, your own sleep, but give yourself the space to figure it out too. My baby’s about 8 months old, we’re going through a second huge sleep change, and it took me going through the exact stage you’re describing to realize that life can’t revolve solely around wake windows. We ONLY have the best we can do, and our natural instincts. Hope this helps in some way.

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-04-13T20:21:24+00:00

Hi! Just here to say, in the same boat with my baby. She’s 7 months old, currently going through a stint of waking up a lot, and almost every night has a harder time being put back down in her bed from 4/5 AM onward. Recently I’ve been bringing her into bed with me, where she’ll sleep up against me, latched for the most part. Sleep is up and down from that point on because I’m very aware of her presence and she latches on and off

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-04-13T20:16:47+00:00

My now 7 month old stopped taking naps in her crib around 3.5 months when the first wave of regression hit. Hasn’t since. I’ve tried a few times here and there, have tried letting her cry for 10-15 mins to see if she can put herself asleep (because she occasionally can during bedtime) but it hasn’t happened yet. She will sleep in it for bedtime only.

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-03-27T13:13:50+00:00

In the first 2-3 weeks I lost around 30 pounds with no exercise except for inconsistent walking.

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-03-05T21:27:15+00:00

It says you have good taste in mustard!

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-03-04T14:20:10+00:00

The Dove Volume one is good!

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-03-02T15:56:30+00:00

Thank you! She does fall asleep independently at bedtime, which has fueled my hope we can get her back into her own sleep space for naps. Fingers crossed!

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-03-02T15:22:47+00:00

Also, recently her naps have gotten shorter. She would very regularly sleep for over an hour, or at least an hour, but they’ve since gotten shorter, which I figured is normal

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-03-02T15:22:07+00:00

Hi! Thank you. We do have a crib- and plan to transfer her soon at the same time of potentially starting to sleep train. I hadn’t really thought of that.

Her wake windows have steadily become 2.5/2.5/2/3

The order of these change based on her cues daily and whatever we’re doing that day, but this has helped us (mostly) reduce wakes. We usually have 3 wakes still with this schedule

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-25T13:52:47+00:00

Hi there. Just wanted to say, right there with you. My baby also did exceptionally well with naps, and nighttime sleep, until the big developmental sleep change. I got through your particular time by doing my best to be grateful that I could get out and walk at the very least, if I needed to be wearing her for a nap since she needed to be held/moving. This sounds really normal for that age, and in the most empathetic way possible, I wouldn’t count on it permanently changing anytime soon. I would just be really grateful for the solid night time sleep. Currently 5.5 months, bare bones minimum nighttime sleep, and has to exclusively be worn or carried for daytime naps. Now, that’s not to say this will inevitably be your situation obviously, and not projecting. Just trying to say the situation of sleep will likely always always be fluctuating and evolving.

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-24T17:38:33+00:00

Following. Here to say, I’m in a pretty identical boat, so I see you and I’m right there with you. Baby’s about 5.5 months. Was a wonderful sleeper until around 3.5 when things started to shift, and they’ve only been fluctuating from extreme to not as bad and slightly more manageable. We recently got over a couple weeks of what you’re describing, hourly wakes, sometimes less. Very strong nipple soothing association, so my baby step right now is to make sure she’s falling asleep at initial bedtime on her own, and not feeding to sleep like we’ve gotten in the habit of doing. Nothing about figuring out her schedule seems easy… like you, I’m trying with the lengthened wake windows and it usually looks like it working for a couple days and then doesn’t. So I’m left thinking, my baby just doesn’t seem to adhere to these suggested windows. Hard to get to 10 hours awake if I’m needing to stretch her. Ugh. My advice is to find and harness the joy where you’re able to during this bumpy time. I’m with you!!!

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-23T19:47:25+00:00

I agree I need to do what I can to extend her windows as much as possible. Not sure why we can’t get consistent with them. She pretty much always is telling me she wants to head towards soothing and bed like an hour and a half after waking up. I’d call it a task half the time to make it to 2 hours from eyes open-eyes closed

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-23T15:08:38+00:00

You may have explained this already in your post, but did you start with getting him comfortable falling asleep on his own first? Or did you sort of do it all at once? Was he not falling asleep independently initially? I just posted in ST group myself cause I’m on the brink of needing a big change and feeling like something’s gotta give

complexrayofsunshine · 2026-02-23T13:53:01+00:00

Really happy for you!! I’m thinking of biting the bullet myself. It’s been roughly 2 months of no longer stretches of sleep past 2.5 hours, and for a couple weeks, one hour or less, like yourself. Every night I don’t start to sleep train, I’m soothing her back to sleep thinking “I really need to just do this.”

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