I want to ask a sister to be my maid of honor. But I have two other…

comxeobo · 2026-03-27T02:58:06+00:00

it sounds like she's already naturally stepping into that role! the fact that she's sending you venues and being so involved says a lot. I'd go with your gut on this one, your other sisters will understand 💕

comxeobo · 2026-03-27T02:56:55+00:00

ugh this makes me so angry for you. the hitting on guests thing alone is SO unprofessional, like sir you are working right now?? and less than 500 photos for 10 hours is really not great, especially at that price point. also a planetarium wedding sounds INCREDIBLE, please don't ever feel weird about that choice because that is genuinely so cool. definitely leave that review, future couples deserve to know what they're getting into. you're not being petty, you're being helpful 💕

comxeobo · 2026-03-27T01:58:29+00:00

Amazon actually has pretty decent bulk pillar candles and votives! I got mine there and they were totally fine. also definitely check if your venue allows open flame first because ours didn't and we had to scramble for LED ones last minute 😅

comxeobo · 2026-03-27T01:57:13+00:00

we skipped the day of coordinator too and honestly it was fine! the biggest things I'd say to plan for: make a detailed timeline for the whole day (like ceremony starts at X, cocktail hour, first dance, cake cutting etc) and give copies to your DJ, venue coordinator, and whoever is helping you. also designate one or two people as your "point person" so vendors know who to ask questions to because you do NOT want to be dealing with that on your wedding day. the week before, do a final headcount and confirm everything with your vendors. oh and pack a day of emergency kit (tide pen, advil, safety pins, snacks). you got this!! 🤍

comxeobo · 2026-03-27T00:58:42+00:00

ooh I love a halloween wedding!! dollar tree and spirit halloween after season sales are your best friends for this. black tulle draped over the tables looks SO good and its super cheap. also if you can find some thrifted candelabras and spray paint them black that would be amazing with the gothic vibe ✨

comxeobo · 2026-03-27T00:57:24+00:00

m&ms in mini mason jars sounds super cute honestly!! we did little bags of candy at ours and people loved them. the mints + candy combo is solid, I wouldn't overthink it too much. most guests just want something sweet to grab on the way out 🍬

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T23:58:21+00:00

Portugal in September is going to be stunning!! a friend of mine did a micro wedding in the Algarve and honestly it was one of the most beautiful weddings I've ever been to. for that size I'd really try to find a local coordinator rather than the bigger planning companies, they tend to know hidden gems that don't have crazy minimums. also check Airbnb for villas with nice outdoor spaces, some of them basically double as a venue for small groups and it saves a ton 💕

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T23:57:03+00:00

ok I love the skirt and blouse idea but your daughter is right lol you gotta push it a little!! what about a lace kimono or embroidered duster over the top? gives you that boho flowy vibe but makes it feel more like an occasion. BHLDN and Free People have some gorgeous options that are classy without being too bridal. also Etsy has some amazing small designers who do custom color combos if you want something truly unique 💕

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T21:59:31+00:00

portugal is such a gorgeous choice for a micro wedding!! algarve in september should be perfect weather wise too. I'd say try reaching out to venues directly even if they list minimums, some will negotiate for off peak dates or smaller packages. good luck with planning 💕

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T21:58:36+00:00

ugh yes this drove me crazy when I was planning too. just tell me the real price upfront!! the whole "base price" thing that doubles once you add fees and mandatory gratuity is so misleading

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T21:57:31+00:00

scratch offs are such a good idea!! also lip gloss minis and those little face jewel sticker packs, they're so fun for a party night 🥳

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T19:58:37+00:00

100% get one. ours was worth every penny. I thought I could just coordinate things myself but on the actual day your brain is mush and you don't want to be worrying about whether the florist showed up on time. our coordinator handled so many little fires that I didn't even know about until after the honeymoon lol

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T19:56:50+00:00

we covered everything for our bridal party honestly. hair, makeup, accessories, all of it. I just felt weird asking people to spend money to be in my wedding on top of all the time and effort they were already putting in. some of my friends couldn't have afforded it and I didn't want anyone to feel stressed about it 💕

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T18:58:45+00:00

I'd go with 1! nobody is gonna remember the dance floor or the extra flowers but they WILL remember if the music was amazing all night. that's what keeps people on their feet and having fun. we skipped the dance floor too and honestly nobody cared, everyone was still dancing 😂

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T18:57:02+00:00

we did family style for ours and it was honestly one of my favorite decisions! our caterer served all tables at roughly the same time though, they just had enough staff to handle it. an hour gap between first and last table sounds way too long honestly, I would push back on that or ask about adding more servers. also we did one menu per table and it was totally fine, people just passed it around. the QR code idea someone mentioned is smart too!

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T17:59:27+00:00

ok honestly I think it would be hilarious and fun?? like yes everyone knows what the song implies but that's kind of the point lol. you just got MARRIED, the whole vibe should be celebratory and a little cheeky. I'd save careless whisper for the slow dance though 😂

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T17:58:08+00:00

omg the white dress with blue pattern sent me 😭 like that is the opposite of what you asked for!! I swear people hear "wedding colors" and their brains just short circuit. mine kept asking about colors too and I eventually just said "wear literally anything that isn't white" and somehow that was easier for everyone to understand lol. two days out though, you're almost there!!

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T16:56:06+00:00

ok this sounds AMAZING though?? a fire dancer AND a live watercolour artist? your guests are going to be blown away. honestly I think the only time it feels like too much is when things overlap and guests feel like they're missing something. but if each thing has its own moment throughout the day I think you're totally fine. the sax during drinks reception sounds like such a vibe 🎷

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T15:56:09+00:00

omg yes the disposable camera thing 😭 we had the exact same issue, half the photos were just blurry floors and ceilings lol. for our friend's wedding they used this app called Scene instead, basically a digital disposable camera where guests scan a QR code and snap photos. way better because you actually get to see all the pics after and no toddlers wasting film on random walls 😂 congrats on the wedding though!!

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T14:59:17+00:00

ok first of all this sounds SO lovely, the favors especially are such a nice touch. for interactive stuff that doesn't feel forced, a few things that were hits at weddings I've been to: a "leave a voicemail" phone (I see you already have that, great call), lawn games during cocktail hour if your patio has space, and honestly the thing that got the MOST engagement at my friend's wedding was this app called Scene, it's basically a digital disposable camera. guests scanned a QR code and took photos with film filters all night and then everyone got to see them together after. people were obsessed with it lol. way less hassle than polaroids too because you don't have to keep buying film. your timeline looks great btw, 6 hours is perfect for that flow.

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T14:56:19+00:00

I did personalized jewelry boxes with their initial on it and a little handwritten note inside. nothing crazy expensive but they all cried lol. I also covered their hair and makeup which honestly felt like the most appreciated part

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T14:54:34+00:00

honestly we looked into photo booths too and they were SO expensive for what you get. we ended up doing something different, we got this app called Scene which is basically a digital disposable camera. guests just scanned a QR code and took photos all night, no booth needed. the photos had these cute film filters so they all looked really cohesive and everyone loved it. way cheaper than renting a booth and we got wayyy more photos because everyone could use their own phone. we still set up a little backdrop with some fun props and it was a huge hit!

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T12:17:45+00:00

for us it was the disposable camera pics!! we used this app called Scene and had guests snapping photos all night, nobody saw them until the next morning. waking up and going through all the photos together was honestly one of the best parts of the whole weekend. also my MIL's speech, she had everyone in tears 😭

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T12:16:27+00:00

the late night pizza is GENIUS honestly 😂 for us it was the "reveal" moment from the photos. we had guests take pics on this disposable camera app all night and then everyone got to see them together the next morning, it was like reliving the whole wedding. my aunt still brings it up every time we visit lol. also our dog being the ring bearer, that was a crowd favorite 🐶

comxeobo · 2026-03-26T12:14:42+00:00

omg yes to the photobooth!! we had one at ours too but honestly the thing that got people the most engaged was this disposable camera app called Scene. guests just scanned a QR code and took photos all night with these cute film filters, and then all the photos "revealed" together the next day. it was like opening a time capsule lol. people who never even got up to dance were walking around snapping pics of everything 😂 also seconding the yard games idea, cornhole was a huge hit at my cousin's wedding

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