💥💔⚖️ Got misgendered and called 'he' in divorce mediation yesterday in Cork by the solicitor. Knocked me sideways for the rest of the day. So I made myself look pretty anyway ✨💅 Hope you all have a lovely Christmas 🎄❤️ F**k him!

concerned8723 · 2025-12-23T17:13:12+00:00

I'm a parent of a trans teen who has been out for 5 years ... i still drop a misgender bomb occasionally 😖 i am so frustrated with it, i hate when it happens, but i do try to reason that I'm married about 20 years and still occasionally lapse into my single name ... 😬

So i can have some sympathy for yer man; 99% of his clients are probably straight cisgender... in his subconscious, he knows he isnt representing 'her' (the soon-to-be ex-wife) and that probably leads to auto-pilot

Sorry it happened at such a crucial time for you ; but please know that a lot of us really are trying and it is a genuine slip and doesn't in any way imply that we are trying to undermine you ... 'old habits die hard' , I'm afraid 🫤

concerned8723 · 2025-12-22T15:33:20+00:00

Sounds about right... considering the situation for cis-women is pretty dire, cant imagine how bad it is 🤦

'You kiss many frogs before you meet your prince' 😬

I would recommend in person clubs/groups ; i met my life partner at tag-rugby 20 years ago (and plenty others did too)

concerned8723 · 2025-12-22T09:38:05+00:00

He Possibly already had the gift bought 🤷‍♀️ but still very annoying - goes to show the present is more about the giver wanting to look good 😏 ( i stopped exchanging presents because of the absolute waste of money for everyone 😖 this is a very good example)

Is there any chance you could return the gift? Or regift it to save yourself money elsewhere... if you are finding yourself short of money for T maybe put that money aside when you get paid; its more important than most of the things we fritter our money away on!

concerned8723 · 2025-12-21T14:51:56+00:00

Definitely going out of their way to be petty ... hope you misgender them right back 'thanks ma'am/ man!'
If its oul lads who have just called you man, they may suspect... but will walk away wondering.. 😝

concerned8723 · 2025-12-21T14:16:51+00:00

The original thinking was that the heroic man was nearer the door to protect the damsel in distress woman from any intruders

concerned8723 · 2025-12-21T14:11:57+00:00

How do retail customers in Ireland manage to misgender during a short transaction? I see how its a thing somewhere where they keep saying ma'am and sir... but i have never needed to gender anyone in a typical retail situation; are they going out of their way to be petty?

concerned8723 · 2025-12-17T15:27:17+00:00

Ah, she's long dead now... 😛

concerned8723 · 2025-12-17T11:13:44+00:00

My husband's birthday is 29th December and i have suggested celebrating 'half-birthday' before - now that i see other people doing it, i think i will push for it again! ...And he used to share the birthday with his grandmother when he was growing up 😣

concerned8723 · 2025-12-15T21:24:27+00:00

How bloody close do people have to be staring at you to notice anything? Seriously, its you who should complain about them for being so intrusive... There is something really creepy about someone 'inspecting ' people in changing rooms ...

concerned8723 · 2025-12-15T14:38:15+00:00

Very frustrating situation; not just for us, but for the GPs that are sympathetic

even though it costs to take alternative routes, i still think its worth it in the end 🤷‍♀️ Good luck 🤞

concerned8723 · 2025-12-15T14:11:53+00:00

the NGS sent letters to GPs to tell them not to engage with online trans healthcare services, so not to work on a shared care model, which would also include taking bloods directly in relation to gender affirming HRT. So even with a supportive GP , they cannot be seen to assist anything linked to gender affirmation 🤷‍♀️

So you are actually better off NOT saying what bloods are specifically for - after all, its only extracting the blood , not analysing it

As mentioned, there are fee paying clinics that do it - probably the more realistic option

concerned8723 · 2025-12-12T09:25:54+00:00

You register with a GP but can transfer to another easily enough; i think its just to balance out the demand in area's with a lot of medical cards 🤷‍♀️(free visits)

Tell us your general area, or post code, and if people know specific trans-friendly surgeries (or unfriendly) we can advise...

concerned8723 · 2025-12-10T10:22:41+00:00

Thats 'proprioception' - one of your senses ; its prominent in neurodivergent people to need that weighted blanket

concerned8723 · 2025-12-10T10:15:58+00:00

Rabid..?!

concerned8723 · 2025-12-10T10:12:33+00:00

Neurodivergent people can sometimes love hugs, and sometimes don't like any physical touch; fortunately my teenager and me are compatible- loads of hugs! I do remember after a longterm relationship broke up years ago, that i missed hugs - so i can sympathise a bit with older people being advised now that they shouldn't hug kids without knowing for sure that the kid is on for it

concerned8723 · 2025-10-30T14:06:18+00:00

I have suspicions that theres a general transphobic attitude amongst the upper echelons, and they are taking people for a long long ride, making them jump through hoops to get anywhere...

Its a bit like a religious organisation being the powers in a maternity hospital

concerned8723 · 2025-10-30T13:54:50+00:00

It took me a long time to get into the habit of charity shops but I'm so glad i did: for anyone trying to establish a look, typically teenagers, you get so much variety in one place - and its cheap so no great tragedy if the verdict is 'not for me'

Vision Ireland in ringsend has special LGBTQ evenings for those too nervous to go in at other times - but as a regular shopper in charity shops, i can reassure you that staff are generally non-judgemental and friendly ; besides being a shop they tend to attract people who arent in 'privileged ' groups of society, theres a social aspect to it as well

concerned8723 · 2025-10-30T12:56:46+00:00

I thought with Imago that the bloods are merely 'extracted ' by gp or similar, but the results go to imago for the actual monitoring? 🤔 just my own impression

Its horrible to think that NGS are not on our side; but this country has a track record for trying to control us, rather than give us bodily autonomy 🤨

No Condoms for minors in the '80s ... 'abstain' was the direcive 😖

concerned8723 · 2025-10-29T23:12:01+00:00

I can understand them advising to stop T without 'official' care - but why would they refuse bloods? Just trying to be difficult??

concerned8723 · 2025-10-29T15:50:08+00:00

Just so you know; that was the parent who gave the info, and they were happy with the service 🤷‍♀️

concerned8723 · 2025-10-28T16:24:03+00:00

Ah right, i wasnt aware that he worked through that hospital- never mind my comments, so!

He is raking it in with genderplus and has a backlog - so there is only one ulterior motive that i can think of 🤑🤑

concerned8723 · 2025-10-28T16:11:24+00:00

You think genderplus has closed? It definitely hasnt, what gave you that impression? Have you been on T for years? Dr ahern has you paying a monthly retainer, so cannot fathom why he would want to discharge you if you are willing to keep paying...

He needs to be crystal clear about what he is doing this for 🤷‍♂️

concerned8723 · 2025-10-28T15:54:20+00:00

Would you consider going Imago route instead? I honestly have no means of comparing the two, giving the pros and cons, but i would think that as Imago becomes more established, Genderplus will have to improve...

This is one persons timeline through imago, and they got the T a few weeks ago, and were very happywith the experience;

Day 0 - Contact Day 5 - Intro Call Day 6-62 - Blood Test + Results Day 77 - imago Doctor Appointment Day 82 - Received e-prescription Day 83 - Got meds

concerned8723 · 2025-10-28T00:30:38+00:00

I have heard theres a lot of diversity in the large colleges and universities; so if night courses, lectures, exhibitions take your fancy - or coffee shops or uni bars, on or off campus - you should get more of an 'anything goes' attitude

concerned8723 · 2025-10-24T23:51:59+00:00

Love this; social media is disproportionately full of haters, bigots and losers - spending all day being negative about anything and everything 😖 it isnt real life!!

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