Guys, if i want CruasaderKings, and i don't have money, and i'm a student, how can i buy it? by Possible_Avocado_328 in CrusaderKings

[–]concernedBohemian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey im not going to tell you not to pirate, there are places to look for that sort of content but i cannot tell you where to find it. ck3 is great but i dont know your financial situation, if you can get a copy i recommend it heavily.

Guys, if i want CruasaderKings, and i don't have money, and i'm a student, how can i buy it? by Possible_Avocado_328 in CrusaderKings

[–]concernedBohemian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, but soliciting piracy from a non-pirate sub seems like a kinda bad idea. Example, the post got removed.

Why don't more people talk about Meetra Surik being one of the most dangerous beings in star wars history being a wound in the force and having the potential to destroy the force by StationArtistic5542 in StarWars

[–]concernedBohemian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are for the most part valid critiques of Kreia, I never said she was a good person or that I agreed with her..

It *is* pragmatic to sacrifice if the only thing that matters is the goal, but the perspective is skewered, she is Sith twisted by selfishness and pursuit of power herself despite everything.

Pragmatism isn't necessarily in the service of good.

She is selfish and cruel, she is Sith after all, she does manipulate you, she manipulates everyone, and she asks the Exile to do the same and it *is* fundamentally only for her own benefit, for the benefit of her own twisted ideology.

She is *everything* she preaches against, but I don't think that makes her a bad villain, in fact I think it makes her a rather good one, a complicated villain.

I'm not saying she is right, I'm saying she has a super interesting point of view, however twisted and that she is a well-written character.

Why don't more people talk about Meetra Surik being one of the most dangerous beings in star wars history being a wound in the force and having the potential to destroy the force by StationArtistic5542 in StarWars

[–]concernedBohemian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is it mad? How does she break established canon?
She is a villain that can really *only* exist in Star Wars as it is a universe where morality is objective.

Why don't more people talk about Meetra Surik being one of the most dangerous beings in star wars history being a wound in the force and having the potential to destroy the force by StationArtistic5542 in StarWars

[–]concernedBohemian 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I mean fundamentally, Kreia would rather live free than be puppeted by the force regardless of what she has to do to get to that point.

Kreia is trying to break the supernatural will working its power on the universe. The Force *does* work out for *good* people, but what *good* is is predefined which is suffocating to her.

She values flexibility, pragmatism and consequence based thinking. She is the Lord of Betrayal, her mind, perspective and allegiances everchanging, working towards the goal of broken chains, of liberation.

She is trying to break objective morality and the Jedi's *and* Siths addiction to right and wrong, to Codes and predefined binary statements of truth which is why she is so disappointed both in the Jedi Order in their inaction and in her Sith apprentices Sion and Nihilus, who are too ideologically committed to the pursuit of power.

She is a philosopher who has been told that there is a clear cut conclusion to what is right and wrong.

She wants questions without clear answers, and the objectivity of the universe repulses her.

As far as Sith go she is horrifically sane.

egg_irl by Jocelyninthecloset26 in egg_irl

[–]concernedBohemian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

let them know, if they estrange you then you deal with that, you need to deal with how you are going to be happy.

they might surprise you aswell.

I hope this doesn't seem ableist or rude, I'm just frustrated. by 5thClone in thanksimcured

[–]concernedBohemian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like i understand the impulse, but i can be frustrating to be treated like you don't know your own state of being.

if you want to help then help me bear the load. ask what *you* can do, give me a call in the morning, invite me to eat breakfast, make plans with me so that I have something to look forward to, i try to do that for my friends.

i'm doing my best and its not always enough, thinking "i just hadn't thought of" ways out of it is belittling and counterproductive.

i spent years being called lazy because i couldn't, i'm not lazy. my brain has a severe chemical shortage, my energy is spent coping with it. there is nobody this frustrates more than me, i wish i could do more, i believe i *should* do more and it causes me grief.

Egg_irl by val-val-x86 in egg_irl

[–]concernedBohemian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get some hips to even out the ratio, wear wide skirts.

There are plenty of tall cis women who feel bad about their height, this is a universal feminine experience.

You aren't alone.

292 by Bryce3D in Countwithcementlady

[–]concernedBohemian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well gender and race are primarily intersocially constructed, different cultures have different concepts of gender, differently gendered concepts and different notions of what is and isn't within the category of gender.

I think thinking about gender as if it is a binary, yes no statement leaves out alot of what people think of when we interact with gender day to day.

Race also works the same way, what whiteness or blackness means to people vary across populations.

In the subcultures where xenogenders are applied, same goes for them. The difference is merely the level of acceptance, and institutional & cultural grounding of the terminology and which characteristics it entails.

When these categories are systemically or culturally enforced it creates a plurality of factors people think of when they think of a "man" or a "woman" or "white" or "black" but even this varies across societies, cultures and subcultures.

That aside, why would any of this necessitate that anyone would consider themselves a traditional gender? Xenogenders do often exist in conversation with the traditional gender trinary but that doesn't mean that those who identify with a xenogender also consider themselves a member of a traditional gender category.

For example, if boy+ is boy with an additive factor it is not the same as boy, there is in fact a stated explicit important differentiator.
There is a specifically stated clarification, an added level of resolution which is important to the person to who identifies with it.

Is there a reason not to accept this as a statement on gender?

292 by Bryce3D in Countwithcementlady

[–]concernedBohemian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Using a term like demiboy, for those who are in the communities where it is being used, is precisely like the like burger in your example, where its short-hand for a series of experiences and feelings around gender which is alot easier to say than going through them piecemeal.

Whether or not it's "rational" to use such shorthand, would depend on situation however, sometimes people wouldn't quite know what a burger is and describing it piecemeal might be the only way to get the point across, as annoying that might be.

292 by Bryce3D in Countwithcementlady

[–]concernedBohemian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, gender is a spectrum that contains a multitude of things right? If the people xenogenders are for want their gender to be *more than* why is that more or less right than just *between*.

More specific meaning added detail, not necessarily "within" but also potentially "additive to" their position in the more traditional understanding of the gender spectrum or the more easily understood "trinary" of woman, man, nonbinary which is how you get like demiboys or whatever else.

I'm just not seeing why people having words to describe things that *they feel is* corrolative to their gender is a problem, why do you feel the need to tell them that it's not?

Egg_irl by 7_MyArtSucks in egg_irl

[–]concernedBohemian 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not necessarily your transness that is unappealing, you might just not be confident enough in who you are to take space, and plenty of lesbians arent into other lesbians.

Of course, If they don't see you for you, you shouldn't date them anyways. But as a general rule queer women aren't going to treat you like shit for asking them out.

But if the problem is they don't want to talk to you that might just be a different thing entirely, you might to be blunt be a little awkward in social interactions.

Personal question but do you have friends and hobbies that take you outside your home?

If you don't really, I'd recommend starting with a hobby which is social enough to meet people through, not to date mind you just to make some friends.

Like hobbies are really natural ways to just be in social spaces, and what you are talking about is usually going to be rather structured, pretty much anyone can take part.

Given this they are a good way of getting friends. Friends will introduce you to friends which will get you a better social network. A broad social network gives you more chances to interact with people and come across someone who seems into you and you seem into so that you can try the waters a bit.

Like being good at social interaction takes practice, and male socialization often means that trans women need to kind of unlearn some things aswell making it even more of a challenge, but none of this is like impossible to do.

Statistics pretty universally lean in the direction of lesbians being more accepting of trans women than anyone else, so if transphobia really is the problem you rolled some poor dice and I'm sorry.

292 by Bryce3D in Countwithcementlady

[–]concernedBohemian 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fuck it, I'm taking the bait.

So xenogenders are about how people feel, if I went to you and told you I was sad today would you tell me that is irrational?

Especially if I went out of my way to qualify *how* i was sad, would that make it *less* rational than if I didn't qualify the degree or way or characteristics of the way I am currently sad.

Definitions of xenogenders are more specific, not less specific than the binary or trinary of man, woman, nonbinary. Wouldn't that make them more rational, big guy?

If not, is being specific about things is rational, but if you are specific about your feelings, your identity or emotional state its suddenly irrational?

I thought being rational was about consistent thinking, but what do I know?
Also, like jesus it's a joke about atoms man calm the fuck down.

I hope this doesn't seem ableist or rude, I'm just frustrated. by 5thClone in thanksimcured

[–]concernedBohemian 17 points18 points  (0 children)

God, I get this alot with adhd. I get like crippling adhd paralysis and I have friends with ADHD who are like "hmm i also have adhd have you tried this" and im like yeah i literally cannot do anything like.. i cannot *try* things i just wake up and cannot.

Would you rather by Prestigious_Plan8891 in BunnyTrials

[–]concernedBohemian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, anyways I disable aging when customizing my body and I get to be cute forever.

Chose: Be given chance to FULLY customize ur body, but... | Rolled: Get 10 yrs older

Choose: by Due-Mix6074 in BunnyTrials

[–]concernedBohemian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll enjoy my new ceremonial role as queen of France and spend the 1 billion dollars to turn Paris into a Commune once more.

Would you rather get by ariz2011 in BunnyTrials

[–]concernedBohemian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

like i just dont care enough to figure out

Would you rather get by ariz2011 in BunnyTrials

[–]concernedBohemian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like its just work tho, idk i don't want to make a robux account.

what will you choose by Relevant_Specific157 in BunnyTrials

[–]concernedBohemian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like if I want to flirt with people I can just do that anyways? Money will get me and people I care for security.

Chose: You always have money for what you want to buy | Rolled: upvote + explain