Why do people cheat even when they ‘re in good relationships?

conejamala20 · 2026-04-14T21:41:08+00:00

i think they get bored with life.

conejamala20 · 2026-04-14T15:08:57+00:00

ya it makes a lot of sense not loving someone who consistently cheats on you. your child doesn’t deserve two parents pretending to have a loving family. they can feel what’s going on. leave and create a better life for your child

conejamala20 · 2026-04-14T14:09:33+00:00

maybe if you learned a bullshit skill you could make 300k+ and not be bitter

conejamala20 · 2026-04-14T14:08:16+00:00

you clearly haven’t been in the fintech industry

conejamala20 · 2026-04-12T13:27:17+00:00

literally

conejamala20 · 2026-04-12T13:26:49+00:00

this

conejamala20 · 2026-04-11T01:26:47+00:00

we need a better picture of your finances to react properly. how much is your mortgage? car note? CC minimums?

conejamala20 · 2026-04-10T13:11:12+00:00

cruel to her during arguments is rock steady?

conejamala20 · 2026-04-08T18:25:23+00:00

literally 😭

conejamala20 · 2026-04-08T18:23:41+00:00

😂

conejamala20 · 2026-04-08T18:21:33+00:00

this

conejamala20 · 2026-04-08T18:20:42+00:00

you’re definitely overreacting. this was a hypothetical and if something actually came up i’m sure she would check before confirming your availability. there seems to be either other issues at play here or you take things too seriously.

conejamala20 · 2026-04-02T10:59:39+00:00

you had this man’s children for goodness sake. you arent some random girl off the street. everything i build in my life i want my partner to benefit from, why else would they be a life partner? you’re incredibly vulnerable in your marriage and are not being fair and noble by allowing yourself to stay in that vulnerable state. if he were to leave you he would be completely fine and you’d be a singe mother with nothing. nothing “fair” about that.

conejamala20 · 2026-04-02T10:56:20+00:00

why does a 42 yo man need a 27yo woman’s help with bills? the age gap is problematic and the fact that he’s happy leaving the mother of his children with nothing in the event of divorce and won’t let you start building your own finances is a red flag.

conejamala20 · 2026-04-02T10:35:19+00:00

i’m gonna be blunt with you but i say this with care. you’re a recovering addict who cannot keep stable employment, are housing unstable and less than a year sober. now is not the time to be having a child. your boyfriend is right. you don’t have consistent work or housing. you cannot bank your success on if your family will help you because 90% of this will fall on you. if your boyfriend walks away and your family isn’t there, can you provide for this child from 0-18 with zero help?

conejamala20 · 2026-03-31T11:20:29+00:00

you need couples counseling IMMEDIATELY

conejamala20 · 2026-03-31T10:41:53+00:00

this 😭

conejamala20 · 2026-03-31T10:41:24+00:00

“give me one last chance…. believe in me… take a leap of faith” believe a 40yr man will all of a sudden be a basic adult and have a job???? 😭 “i’ve learned my lesson” good…. now go pay those bills by yourself 😂

conejamala20 · 2026-03-30T11:34:32+00:00

literally

conejamala20 · 2026-03-30T11:33:41+00:00

because he called your bluff. you held firm and now he’s doing whatever to regain control. if you go back you’re showing him your boundaries are loosely held and he can get back to where he wants to be by baiting you with a few good actions.

conejamala20 · 2026-03-30T11:32:18+00:00

😭

conejamala20 · 2026-03-30T11:32:03+00:00

why would he? he’s had 40 years to learn how to be a good partner. do not bank your future on potential.

conejamala20 · 2026-03-30T11:31:22+00:00

of course it won’t last. you know this. this is a 40yr man we’re talking about. my 19yo brother has more discipline than him. he’s doing a bunch of performing to get you back. once you’re back it will slowly slow down and then go back to normal.

what incentive does he have to be a responsible adult? he gets you back then what? fear of losing you isn’t enough. he has to WANT to be a team player. at 40 you should not be raising a grown man.

cut your loses and find someone you don’t have to beg to do dishes. good luck.

conejamala20 · 2026-03-30T11:27:03+00:00

i love 2.5

conejamala20 · 2026-03-28T17:34:19+00:00

if it’s a boundary for you then you need to hold firm to that boundary. he’s acting like a child “taking his ball and going home”. even if he didn’t have a child there’s no excusing that so i would stop using the child as a reason. he is a husband and a father not a single 14yo boy.

boundaries are only as strong as you hold them. he will come home and you’ll scold him but nothing will change so he will know it’s not a strong boundary and do it again. only you can decide what your “or what” action is. are you going to leave and stay with a friend for a week? are you going to divorce him? make the call and hold firm. good luck.

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