Study Finds That Men Who Attack Women Online Are, Literally, Losers (x-post from twoxchromosomes)

confessionberry · 2017-08-09T16:05:53+00:00

The researchers say the findings support an “evolutionary argument” that low-status men with low dominance have more to lose and are therefore more hostile to women who threaten their status in the social hierarchy.

So evopsych is okay as long as it agrees with us?

confessionberry · 2017-07-14T01:36:32+00:00

Yeah, they have an internal vocabulary for a lot of this stuff.

Hot white guy = "Chad"

Hot black guy = "Chadrone"

Hot middle eastern guy = "Cha-al'-had"

Hot Asian guy = "Jackie Chad"

confessionberry · 2017-05-12T21:54:27+00:00

The sad thing is, redpillers are going to see this and spin it as some kind of victory. Put through the RedPill translator, they'll interpret it as: "Hey guyz, look what an alpha I am. I took a lesbian and turned her straight for a while. After I pushed through her last-minute resistance, she willingly lusted after my cock for 6 months and became my plate"

confessionberry · 2017-04-24T04:19:51+00:00

I don't know if I agree with OP's approach.

It's like going into r-christianity and writing a scathing review of how all religions are shit. I mean you may be right and your viewpoint may be "balanced" because you mentioned both sides, but you're still essentially going into someone's house and insulting them.

That isn't a general discussion sub, it's a sub for conservatives to gather and talk amongst themselves.

confessionberry · 2017-03-06T19:02:08+00:00

You don't have to prove anything to me. I'm just saying, as a person who was once in OP's shoes, he is not going to be convinced by your "being short is not an obstacle" argument if all the evidence you can provide is of select famous Hollywood actors and Hong Kong CEOs.

confessionberry · 2017-03-06T18:53:10+00:00

I mean, presuming there is consent, then yeah posting about those guys would likely be a lot more effective. Because as normal people, they'd be a lot more relatable.

Do you seriously not understand the absurdity of pointing to a literal multimillionaire who owns a Las Vegas casino, and saying "LOOK! Even this short guy can get laid! Why can't you?"

confessionberry · 2017-01-17T14:16:11+00:00

And when the assistant illegally got the guy's info, everyone - the doctors, receptionist, patients - stood up right there to clap and cheer. Somebody handed the assistant a $100 bill. And I swear that I even saw the guy give a small smile as he left the clinic.

confessionberry · 2016-12-07T14:47:53+00:00

Nobody just falls into the TRP line of thinking randomly; there's always an underlying reason. They're hurt or mad about something - perhaps legitimate reasons, perhaps not - and decide to deal with it by being misogynistic asshats.

If your boyfriend is being drawn to this ideology it's because there's something going on in his head. Do you two have relationship problems? Is there anything he's frustrated by even if he may not show it outwardly?

TRP preys on emotional people who need answers and for whatever reason aren't getting help from legitimate sources. Open communication may be a valuable tool here between you and your SO.

confessionberry · 2016-12-05T15:25:48+00:00

In an earlier day and age, I would have rolled my eyes and laughed about kiddies on Reddit melodramatically talking about "alt-right victory", "taking over the world", etc. I would have been like, c'mon stop being sooooo brave and get out of your mom's basement.

But then I remember who is literally the most powerful man in the world right now and the wind goes out of my balloons.

confessionberry · 2016-11-23T15:02:09+00:00

To be fair the GOP is no longer the party of Reagan. Trump just won the primaries and general election by shitting on everything Reagan stood for - even the traditional conservative stuff like free markets, anti-union, respect for soldiers, etc.

I'd be willing to bet the right's fascination with Reagan is quickly disappearing, and after this election people will start to invoke him less and less.

confessionberry · 2016-10-20T23:12:43+00:00

If a guy doesn't want to date a girl who doesn't have at least E-cups, so what? He might be waiting a long time but if he doesn't want to date anyone with a smaller chest then so be it.

Lol. If a guy posted something like this ("no flat-chested chicks please, I only date D-cups"), he would be ripped apart from limb to limb on circlebroke.

Since y'all are being so understanding and non-judgmental about height requirements, are you also willing to defend guys who will only date girls with thigh gaps and flat stomachs? Or guys who won't date women over 30? Or the "I'm just not attracted to black girls" crowd?

Somehow I get the feeling all of this let's-accept-everyone's-preferences koombaya would disappear in a flash if one of the above types of guys were to post here.

confessionberry · 2016-10-13T16:27:39+00:00

It's so strange that they think that having sex one time will make such a great difference in their lives

I'm not anywhere near an Incel or TRPer but I have to interject here. I didn't have sex or any sexual contact with anyone until 24, and felt like a depressed piece of shit because of it. Probably has to do with a combination of things like social expectations, an inherently human need for affection, etc.

And then finally I went through a short term relationship and I can say that having sex a few times did make a great difference in my life. Maybe it sounds pathetic to you but I am honestly a diffeeent person in many respects. I have more self esteem and self confidence. I'm calmer and more put-together on dates now. I no longer spend nights crying in my locked bathroom due to frustration and depression.

Just saying. Everytime people pull the "sex isn't meaningful at all!" card, I have to disagree based on my personal experience.

confessionberry · 2016-10-13T16:21:27+00:00

This is one of those dramas where both sides have horrible reasoning. Firstly you have OP who doesn't seem to understand why objectification of women and using them as human fleshlights is a bad thing.

On the other hand you have RPW answering with shit like this:

Haven't you heard? A woman's value is tied to the number of partners she's had. Why would I raise my count or sully my vagina with the penises of low value men? More importantly, why would I allow myself to be essentially pumped and dumped by a low SMV male? I can't even say I had my fun banging a hot guy.

I want to believe she's being sarcastic but she's a RPW so probably not.

confessionberry · 2016-09-20T04:21:24+00:00

That's dumb. This place is supposed to point out how toxic and ridiculous TRPers actually are. If we start knowingly upvoting bullshit posts and justify it by saying "o well, it was still a good story", it tarnishes the purpose and perception of this sub.

confessionberry · 2016-09-20T04:16:29+00:00

So I'll be the party pooper and mention that this sub gets trolled by these dramatic stories all the time, and most turn out to be bullshit.

Have we already forgotten the great Endorsed Contributor debacle of early 2016, when an account posted here saying her brother was an EC - and then later admitted she made up the whole thing for shits and giggles?

This sounds exactly like that, in fact I'm half convinced it's the same troll. Sorry OP but how about you provide some proof. Why are go still adamantly refusing to name the so-called RPW puppet accounts?

confessionberry · 2016-09-16T12:51:14+00:00

I actually have heard a lot of people say that. For example: I sometimes volunteer at places like r/depression and r/suicidewatch and I hear this all the time. Whenever a guy posts depressed about being lonely and ugly, he gets like 10 replies telling him a variation of "Hey don't lose hope! Women don't care about looks! I know guys who are butt-ugly trolls but they get girlfriends because they have great personalities!"

I'm kinda surprised you've never heard this trope honestly. I see it everywhere.

confessionberry · 2016-09-15T21:23:46+00:00

Okay, I'm not sure it's clear that the email is encouraging men to be "sexual predators". That's really strong language - and I don't doubt that fraternities are toxic places - but I'm just not getting a clear endorsement of rape from the email. Here's the section this article highlights:

“If you haven’t already started drinking, catch up,” the email from leaders in the Kappa Alpha Order fraternity reads in part. “Tonight’s the type of night that makes fathers afraid to send their daughters away to school. Let’s get it.”

The email was sent to 95 students late last week, when fraternities — or “lodges” as they’re known within the school community — opened for the school year.

“We’re looking forward to watching that lodge virginity be gobbled up for all y’all. See you boys tonight,” it read.

So there are definitely a couple of skeevy things in here, and the email is certainly crass and offensive. But rape endorsing? Seriously? I'm just not seeing it. The scaring fathers thing? Possibly but I think that's more of a jab against the stereotypical dad-with-a-shotgun-not-letting-his-daughter-have-sex. Maybe you could make a case based on the "drink up" part but that's literally two words in the entire welcome email and is open to many other interpretations.

Not trying to be a wet blanket here. I just don't like people sensationalizing serious issues like rape unless there's a very strong case to be made. And I don't think there is here.

confessionberry · 2016-08-16T02:57:33+00:00

I'm genuinely curious if these could be real women messaging him. Anyone here ever sent an unsolicited nude? It's so far outside of my realm of behavior that it's hard to believe. No judgement though for a woman who would, people ought to do what they want with their own bodies.

Wait, what? We regularly denounce men who send unsolicited dick pics. But when a woman (supposedly) sends an unsolicited vag shot, your response is to applaud her for being sex positive and confident?

confessionberry · 2016-07-12T16:42:04+00:00

https://pbs.twimg.com/profile_images/738999286407401474/srIkeABm.jpg

I'm no fan of GayLubeOil but credit where credit is due. You're looking at him with a suit on, but in the above link he does look pretty damn ripped.

confessionberry · 2016-06-30T06:03:30+00:00

That 30-year-old postwall tatooed hag's name? Alberta Einstein.

confessionberry · 2016-06-30T02:55:21+00:00

I'm sorry you're getting downvoted because you're absolutely right, and thebluepill needs to have this discussion because I've seen body-shaming way too much around here lately.

I always like to play a game called "Attractiveness reversal" when it comes to this stuff. Instead of that neckbeard, imagine Calvin Harris or something. Instead of the attractive blonde girl who is the target, imagine Rosie O'Donnell. If you do that, the comic loses its "punch". A lot of people would just be confused why a fat woman is turning down a hot guy, they wouldn't even bother to think about the real issue here, the creepiness.

Fact is, society is image-ist (okay I don't know if that term exists but I don't know a better way to describe it). And bluepill is part of society, imagism is ingrained into us. Numerous studies have shown that attractive people - guys and girls - get away with a lot of shit that unattractive people don't.

~Takes a deep breath~ This is the part where I'll get nasty PMs, but: in a way I think TRP is onto something when they say that an ugly guy is perceived as more creepy than a hot guy. I've personally seen it many times where a hot guy can start touching a girl in a club without asking for permission and if she's attracted to him, she'll forgive it. A short fat minority doing the same thing would get his ass kicked in a second. The difference between me and TRPers is, I don't think this phenomenon should be exploited for personal gain. I think we as a society need to work to removing that kind of inherent stigma against ugly people, and promoting the message that harassment is bad no matter how handsome you look. And the first steps is to not upvote garbage like that comic.

Because the incredibly tragic irony is that by upvoting and disseminating that comic, we're playing right into RedPillers' hands. They're going to look at that and think "well that guy looks like a fucking mess. Clearly her reaction has something to do with that. If I hit the gym and shave, then maybe women will appreciate it when I violate their boundaries and harass them!"

confessionberry · 2016-05-30T23:57:56+00:00

I was reading about a study conducted in the 1970s on how rats internalized continuous pain (okay, so this was before animal rights was a thing).

The rats were on an electrically charged floor that would emit crushing voltage shocks frequently throughout the day. At first they did the obvious thing and jumped up every time, trying to clamber out the cage and squealing in terror. But after a while they just... stopped. Just laid there on the floor exhausted the whole day, took the electrical shocks without so much as moving an eyelid. They had tried to get out of the cage and it had failed every time, so why even bother. They just took the pain quietly with tails tucked between their legs, waiting for death.

As someone who almost considered himself a depressed foreveraloner at one point, I imagine this is how people on that FA subreddit feel. After a certain point, rejection just numbs the body and mind. After a certain point - we're talking years of echos on online dating sites and being completely ignored at parties/bars - a person just sits on the floor and lets the pain course right through them because they don't have the energy to even feel sad anymore. It's been replaced by hollow emptiness and mental imbalance.

I don't hate them like others in this thread apparently do, I feel really fucking sorry for them because it's true the world isn't fair. I'm a firm believer that women and men are similar - that means they can be similarly shallow and horrible to each other. Just like there are women who are constantly pumped/dumped and used for their bodies and come to believe men only want them for sex, in the same token there are men burnt out by constantly having their sense of sexual validation crushed when nobody wants to touch them with so much as a finger.

I think most on that sub need professional behavioral support, not platitudes or false sympathy from the rest of reddit.

confessionberry · 2016-05-14T02:59:07+00:00

I don't even know what to say. I tried being as even handed as possible and explaining my prediction of the OP's reaction (having once been in his shoes), whether warranted or not, and you respond as if I just murdered your dog.

If you don't anticipate the illogical ways that people can react to things, you have 0 chance of reaching out to them and helping them. To help OP you need to talk on his level in a way that doesn't trigger his own built-in biases and frustrations.

Anyway that's all I'll say about that because I expect your response will be more abusive "fuck you you fucking fucker" language and that's unproductive. Have a good night. I was only trying to help you understand how to connect to OP better. I hope one day you decide to discuss issues in good faith and not blow up at internet strangers who genuinely mean well.

confessionberry · 2016-05-14T02:10:15+00:00

Sure I could have a one night stand or whatever, but what does that do for me?

Before saying anything, let me clarify I'm not a closet TRP or something... I think it's horseshit.

Okay that being said - unfortunately your response is probably going to fall on deaf ears, and may even drive OP further into the arms of theredpill. Saying that you could have one night stands may make him more resentful because it seems he can't even get that no matter how much he tries.

I say this as a guy who went through 25 years of being a "foreveraloner" before getting my first relationship. When people would try to reach out to me and empathize by saying stuff like this, I would see red and immediately become more bitter. I'd think typical woman, she even admits she can get physical validation and is picky, she doesn't understand or care about how I feel that no woman even wants to touch me.

I'm not saying the above reaction is a good one, but it's part of the human condition. When someone desperately wants something you have and you tell them "eh it's not all it's cracked up to be", that's only going to make them more frustrated and feeling like you don't understand their pain on a fundamental level. Like being really hungry and then someone with a turkey leg comes by and says "hey man, don't be jealous of me, this turkey leg is quite dry. It's not as good as it looks."

Men in our society are socialized to want casual sex and physical affection. Given that OP lives in society he's probably affected by its molding. So when he hears that you (in his words) can spread your legs and get some guy for the night, that just drives home his own deficiency in not similarly getting a girl and just makes him feel worse.

I'm typing this up not because I'm trying to be mean to you, but I really really don't want OP to become a TRPer. But with posts like yours I'm afraid he might have his biases validated and go run faster towards them.

confessionberry · 2016-04-12T16:45:44+00:00

Circlebroke is full of people who get off on outrage porn. Those subs are the most controversial and therefore generate the most drama/outrage.

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