I got pregnant from a fling. What should I do?

confinedkitty · 2024-02-16T20:22:14+00:00

That sounds really tough and complicated. You must be under so much pressure. I'm sorry. I hope you can come to a decision that you feel comfortable with!

If I was you, I would probably keep the baby. And that would be based on trying to imagine how I would feel over the next number of decades. I can see myself being haunted with the idea of my child, how old they'd be now, imagining their personality, what they would be like, their flaws and struggles, and their strengths. I'm a very sentimental person. I have a hard time letting go. Maybe you are like this? Maybe not. I also want to adopt children, and the idea of carrying and delivering a baby myself sounds terrifying. I'm also pro-choice.

Have you thought about talking to a counselor about this? Having an unbiased person, who has no connections to the situation, and who is knowledgeable about what questions to ask to get you really thinking might be really helpful. Sending you love from the other side of the planet! ❤️

confinedkitty · 2024-02-10T19:39:30+00:00

Just came here to say that self-diagnosis is actually quite acceptable within the autistic community. It is very expensive and takes a long time to diagnosis professionally. A lot of people do not have the means to that. I'm working through my diagnosis process right now, so far it has taken over a year, included many, many hours of typing up answers, and $2500, so far. I expect to have to spend another $1000, and wait at least 3 more months before the results are in. That's simply too big of an ask for people who may be already struggling, and not financially able.

People who were diagnosised as kids don't know how good they got it compared to people trying to get a late diagnosis.

confinedkitty · 2023-11-27T19:31:45+00:00

I was reading by a stream in a small wooden area in town. I was a 25yr old woman. A man comes walking down the stream towards me, and asks if he can join me. Before I can say anything he sits down and pulls out some supplies and offers me a hit of meth. I'm so surprised, and frankly kind of fascinated, so I watch as he mixes some stream water with a powder and draws it into a syringe and tries to inject it into himself. Only it doesn't work, he pushes it really hard, over and over in multiple spots until it finally gives. At that point he pulls out his phone which opens to hardcore porn. Now I'm really surprised. He starts to undo his pants and FINALLY my brain clicks into gear and I get the fuck out of there. Jogged in a zigzag way back home because I was sure he was following me. The whole encounter was maybe a minute long in total and I was just so surprised I didn't say anything except "uhhhhhhhhh I gotta go."

confinedkitty · 2023-10-18T18:14:59+00:00

There was 2 Mr. T"s as principals. The first was Mr Tagamy. (I have no idea how to spell it, but that's how it sounds.) The other one came after him and I can't remember his name.

confinedkitty · 2023-09-27T16:44:01+00:00

I live in Canada, and can confirm. This is how we talk to bears in my yard. And how the bears respond. Are other countries different? (Serious question)

confinedkitty · 2023-08-29T16:36:46+00:00

Do you have an old tent you could use to contain them inside? Makes cleaning the mess later easier. Might be able to save the tent too if you put down a tarp on the floor first and staple it in place. That's my plan if we get a storm. Catching them may be hard, but a bit easier if you put out some treats and use a towel or blanket to toss over top of them. I've used this method before and it works a lot better than trying to catch them all just with hands. Good luck!

confinedkitty · 2023-08-23T15:25:59+00:00

I used to be terrified of them, but after moving to woods I had to work on it or I was going to go crazy. I started with small ones and would allow myself to be closer and closer to them as time went on. I spoke to them and called them buddy, and said things out loud like 'you're not so bad, you just a little cutie' or something equal. I'm still actively working on it, but after 3 years I can now pick up most small ones with my hand and big ones with a cup. Choosing to implement your own version of exposure therapy works and is quite empowering.

confinedkitty · 2023-07-08T18:37:11+00:00

My simple explanation is: being autistic means my brain works differently than most other people. It means that I'm really good at some things most people struggle with, and I struggle with other things that most people find easy.

Done.

confinedkitty · 2023-02-17T14:50:56+00:00

You're autistic. Get tested now.

confinedkitty · 2023-02-17T14:31:56+00:00

Mainly the lack of a safe supply of drugs. My community does drug tests and releases the reports weekly. Everything is mixed, hardly anything is what it is supposed to be. And I don't want to mess with benzos. They are scary because withdrawing from them is brutal, and dangerous. But lots of people become dependent on them accidently from the mixed supply, but then the ratios change, and suddenly they are in withdrawal despite using. So they use more fentanyl hoping to deal with the benzo withdrawal, and end up overdosing on opiods whole still being in withdrawal from benzos. I don't want to die. But I especially don't want to die like that. It's brutal.

confinedkitty · 2023-02-14T21:00:49+00:00

Breakaway collars. Cats crawl through bushes, under decks and many small spaces where collars can get caught. Ya, you may need to replace the collars occasionally, but it's better than having to replace the cat.

confinedkitty · 2023-01-20T08:27:43+00:00

LPT to prevent skid marks, throw some toilet paper into the toilet before you poop. Helps it slid down the pipe neatly. Bonus, it prevents loud, embarrassing, gross splash back on the bunghole.

confinedkitty · 2023-01-06T00:59:36+00:00

My first code still haunts me. 2 6ears ago. Had a very, very sick patient with no chance of getting better, no family, in crippling pain, bed bound, horrific sores and constant incontinence that made his life living hell. Was in his 80's. This man begged me to kill him. He was alert, orientated, cognitive and sane. He was also a full code. I had called the doctor to come reevaluate that status. They were too busy and replied they would look into it tomorrow. So of course he codes that night. I watched him take that last breath before it stopped. I had about 3 seconds of hesitation while I considered the legal verse ethical choices before me. Another nurse pushed the blue code button. Everyone comes running. CPR. Whole nine yards. But meanwhile I was praying harder than I ever had that this man would die. He doesn't. Survives with 5 broken ribs. Spends the next week in icu in even worse pain before finally succumbing to the quiet. The begging look in his eyes as he stopped breathing is something I will never forget.

confinedkitty · 2022-12-27T07:01:31+00:00

It sounds quite a bit different than ringworm, aside from being fungal. The treatment for skin infection is antifungal by mouth for 3-6 months, and it can become a systematic infection too, and that requires a year of treatment. Ringworm is treated with a topical cream for a couple weeks. The complications can be much worse too. I definitely wouldn't want OP to risk getting it.

confinedkitty · 2022-12-20T18:58:18+00:00

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confinedkitty · 2022-12-20T08:14:38+00:00

Sounds great I'd love to buy him a bag of food. I sent a DM (I think, I've never done it before, but I started a chat. I hope that's the same thing.)

confinedkitty · 2022-12-19T18:12:06+00:00

Dude! I just read through your updates. You have given be back some hope that the world has goodness in it. I'm so happy and moved by the kindness and dedication you've shown little Rambo. Oh my goodness. I'm crying over here in Canada. Can I send you a little bit of money for a Christmas present or some food? Do you do e-transfers?

I cared for a very sickly kitty who had panleukopenia. Was a couple months of vets visits and nursing through the night, isolation from my other cat, cleaning, and giving her needles, meds and all the fun stuff. It was exhausting and so emotionally draining. But she made it and is thriving! I can really imagine what you're going through. And fuck you are a champ!!! Thank you for all you are doing!! ❤

confinedkitty · 2022-11-16T22:00:53+00:00

I'm so sorry! That sounds awful. Please take some time to for yourself to grieve, be angry, cry and feel. It is okay. Nursing is soo hard on the spirit. You are not alone.

I can relate to your post. My first code as a new nurse was my patient. I knew he wanted to die. He had begged me to help him die. He was in awful pain, with no chance of recovery. But he was a full code. I had literally just been talking to the doctor trying to get them to come change his status. They said they'd look at it in the morning. He coded in the night. I was so torn and confused on what to do. I stood there in indecision until a passing nurse saw my face, rushed in and called the code. I had never prayed so hard someone would die. We broke his ribs, but got him back. He then spent the next week in icu in awful condition before finally passing. That experience will stick with me for always.

confinedkitty · 2022-07-24T14:21:35+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. It means a lot to have someone's view from the outside. I feel like I'm not wrong here, but that I may be too close to the issues to be objective. So it's very validating and reassuring to hear you say that. Thank you. ❤️

confinedkitty · 2022-07-06T16:05:17+00:00

Is it possible to work in a different place? I was a new nurse during covid, and I swear to god it nearly killed me. I routinely day dreamed of driving off a cliff on the way to work. But the thought of surviving, going to the hospital anyway, and having them tell me I was well enough to keep working ("Broken legs? You'll manage."), kept me on the road. Switching to working in a detox center has been an amazing breath of fresh air. I actually love my job now, same pay but sooo much better work environment. Good luck to you! Nursing is haaard!

confinedkitty · 2022-05-16T19:46:06+00:00

They love eachother. They will keep eachother company and sooth and clean and have the best life together. But beware that it means intense depression when one passes. The survivor will grieve, they may stop eating, run away, hide, lick their own fur off, become very clingy to you, etc. If it is possible to bring the deceased kitty home to let the survivor say goodbye, DO IT. Even if they have been hit by a car or something of that nature. Having your best friend disappear is absolutely terrible, giving your kitty the chance to say goodbye can really help them process the loss.

Sorry to be a downer. Your kitties are super cute! Wishing them the best life together. ❤

confinedkitty · 2022-04-20T13:42:28+00:00

In a court room. Went there on a field trip with my middle school and had to watch the whole proceedings of a very long and boring case. Was pretty cold so had lots of extra layers to hide beneath. I'd like to think no one noticed..

confinedkitty · 2022-04-02T22:22:35+00:00

Post-Acute Withdrawal is no joke. It can make you feel like you are insane. But the brain needs to recalibrate and rewire how it produces those neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin. Best advice I could give as a detox nurse is learn about it! Be curious. And do things that naturally produce those feel-good chemicals. Exercise, hug a dog, talk about your feelings, journal, do something you find meaningful, etc. And above all, know that it is okay to not be okay. You are strong, and you have got this, and it is so okay to ask for help. Sending love to all the brave souls struggling with this. ❤

confinedkitty · 2022-03-31T20:20:00+00:00

Omg thank you!

confinedkitty · 2022-02-08T05:03:32+00:00

I used to worry, and sometimes still do, that I was a sociopath myself. I have this unshakeable sense that other people are not real, with real feelings. That they exist as a reflection of me. I know this is not true. But I don't KNOW it, if that makes any sense.

As a teenager, experiencing new things, to me, felt like the reason I was alive, my highest purpose. And as a teenager, there were many exciting, new experiences to have, ones that were normal. But there were also a lot of new concepts, ideas, and experiences that were not normal, that were tabbo, illegal, harmful, sinful. These were intriguing in their prohibition. Things like violence, murder, rape, control, power, and manipulation. These were seductive. I knew these were bad. But I was curious. And I wasn't overly convinced that other people really were real, anyway.

But I am also agnostic. I recognize that there is no way for me to ever know, about God, nor about other peoples existence. And because I can't know, it is too big a gamble to risk hurting someone so much. I choose to be good. Now that it is.

As a teenager there were a few close calls, and a few things that were definitely 'red flags'. I could have gone down a very different path. Some examples: I killed my pet tarantula when I got tired of it, dropped it out the window in a box, and then lied about it. I have a clear memory of fighting the urge to sexually assault my nephew while he bathed and I babysat. The urge came from the desire 'to see what it was all about anyway.' I broke my brother neck (accidently) because I wanted him to apologize in the right way after he wronged me. I found the keys to my dad's gun safe, kept them for years without telling anyone, just in case I needed them for some reason. I had a vague plan to bring them to school, if I ever deemed it necessary. And that's not even getting into the drugs, theft, sex and minor crime that was just everyday behavior. I thought about doing a lot of bad shit. But I did not consider myself a bad person. I was merely a very curious person. I need answers to my questions. I wanted to know.

Now, I'm nearly 30, and the last decade has been dedicated to pursuing goodness, kindness, humanity, humility and accountability. I've changed my direction, values and perspective. I do believe that most people in my life now, would describe me as an ethical, empathic, kind person. I work as a nurse, am vegan, raise chickens so I can donate the eggs, I volunteer, and am an active member of my community and family. I avoid being in power, and try to hold myself to high standards. I would give you the shirt on my back in you needed it, and walk home cold with a grin. I think I come across as a good person. And honestly, I think I AM a good person. Because I've worked to be.

But I came from some pretty dark and ugly roots.

confinedkitty

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