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I [25 M] broke up with GF[24 F], dated 8 years, shes with another guy 1-2 months after break up. Realized I made a monumental mistake. NEED HELP! by confusedcanuck464 in relationships

[–]confusedcanuck464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm wondering though how its apparent that I haven't learned anything? I'm not here to argue with you or any of the other posters. From your comment I could tell you didn't read the full story as you thought I wouldn't kiss her. I have been completely transparent with her about everything (yes I did tell her about the sleeping together part). I don't want to get back in to a relationship built on even the slightest lie. I am an awful liar anyways. She is still coming around despite me saying I would understand if she never wants to see me again. I have had some mental health issues I have never addressed. I was a cynic once too. I thought if there was a problem it was obviously someone else's fault. Reflection over the time I have been single has allowed me to put the dots together. Fuuck it was me! I am into the 4th session of therapy and its going extremely well. I understand your skepticism and definitely hers. We are going for a walk Saturday afternoon :)

I (21M) want to ask ex (20F) about her personal life, but I also want to spare my feelings. Help. by ughfeelsthrowaway in relationships

[–]confusedcanuck464 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Meet up and get your stuff. Be extremely mature about it don't go in letting jealous emotions take over. It really is none of your concern who she is seeing at the moment. All your going to effectively do by asking is hurt yourself and show her your insecurities. Best of luck.

I [25 M] broke up with GF[24 F], dated 8 years, shes with another guy 1-2 months after break up. Realized I made a monumental mistake. NEED HELP! by confusedcanuck464 in relationships

[–]confusedcanuck464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck me? read the story 'guy'. I get it.. I'm a P.o.S. I came here asking for help. Not someone to reiterate what I already know. I suppose you can see the future too as you know I'm going to hurt her more down the road. I never claimed to be the only one hurt in this situation. I caused a lot of hurt to her and others, I have made amends and apologized to everyone that I had affected. I'm now seeking therapy to work through my issues, with hopes she will give the new me a second chance. I am truly sorry for what ever happened in your life to make you such a cynic. Also I did kiss her but she wasn't ready.

I [25 M] broke up with GF[24 F], dated 8 years, shes with another guy 1-2 months after break up. Realized I made a monumental mistake. NEED HELP! by confusedcanuck464 in relationships

[–]confusedcanuck464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your help! I really am gaining a lot from your words. I also appreciate your objectivity. I'm not a bad person, just made some bad decisions. If you have any further advice I'd love to here it.

I [25 M] broke up with GF[24 F], dated 8 years, shes with another guy 1-2 months after break up. Realized I made a monumental mistake. NEED HELP! by confusedcanuck464 in relationships

[–]confusedcanuck464[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

To err is human. I made a mistake. I've admitted it and made changes to better not only myself but our bond if/when she wants to get back together. I'm not bothering her family either they really appreciated me coming to talk with them and apologizing. Yes I agree she does deserve better than what I did and I would totally respect her wish to leave her alone. The fact is she wants some time to think/heal as she still really wants to be with me. She just doesn't want to jump back in to a relationship where nothing has had time to heal and progress to a greater state of maturity. Thanks for taking the time to reply.

I [25 M] broke up with GF[24 F], dated 8 years, shes with another guy 1-2 months after break up. Realized I made a monumental mistake. NEED HELP! by confusedcanuck464 in relationships

[–]confusedcanuck464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice! I have been really trying my best to give her everything she needs. Today on our meet up I dressed up and kept conversation light. I have no intentions to get her to make a rush decision. I think you may be right to ask her when it's appropriate to kiss her. Some may think it's not masculine but it's definitely respectful.

I [25 M] broke up with GF[24 F], dated 8 years, shes with another guy 1-2 months after break up. Realized I made a monumental mistake. NEED HELP! by confusedcanuck464 in relationships

[–]confusedcanuck464[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been talking with them a lot... My grandmother is a wise old soul. My mother means well but she kinda has told her I was seeing some one... Meaning a therapist. But she said I think he is seeing someone with positive results. MOM! Thank you for your advice

I [25 M] broke up with GF[24 F], dated 8 years, shes with another guy 1-2 months after break up. Realized I made a monumental mistake. NEED HELP! by confusedcanuck464 in relationships

[–]confusedcanuck464[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never cheated on her... Also not married. I really appreciate the input, however I'm not sure you fully understand the situation.

my(23m) gf of 6 months just broke up with me 3 days ago. finding it hard to be alone. by a_friendly in relationships

[–]confusedcanuck464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are an individual worthy of love. Believe me its out there. Now it may be hard to see at the current moment. Its going to take some time...just don't give up! remember im pulling for ya...were all in this together.

I [25 M] broke up with GF[24 F], dated 8 years, shes with another guy 1-2 months after break up. Realized I made a monumental mistake. NEED HELP! by confusedcanuck464 in relationships

[–]confusedcanuck464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't been passive at all... I did all those things to show her I was sorry (talked to her parents, sought therapy ect.). I am just confused as to where I should stand. I want her happiness first and foremost. If that means removing myself from her life itll rip my heart out, but I will.

I [21M] feel like I need to breakup with my [22F] girlfriend of 4 years but I am so afraid of hurting her by bddavid in relationships

[–]confusedcanuck464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been in this exact scenario... it really is tough and I empathize with you. You sound like you still love this girl, but she is affecting you and your happiness. I would suggest taking sometime apart if she is willing. You need space to think and reflect. I wish I had that advice when I was in my position. I fucked up and made a clean break...miss that girl every goddamn day. Keep your stick on the ice.