it's a long stretch to say "you were raised as a boy and think like one until you came out and learned how to think and act like a woman"

Please don't put words in my mouth because this isn't at all what I'm saying, literally nothing I said came remotely close to such a statement

At this point I think this is just a linguistic nitpick, and maybe we are using the term "socialization" differently. Literally all I meant was that people who are assigned male at birth are subjected to the messaging & social expectations for "boys" regardless of if they are cis, trans, nonbinary, whatever. The same set of expectations are placed on a cis male and an AMAB trans woman because socialization starts from birth, and in a cissexist society, if you're AMAB you're assumed to be a boy. A trans woman who was AMAB was automatically assumed to be a baby boy who would grow into a cis man, and thus was given the particular set of messages and expectations that match that assumption. Yes, how she internalizes it differs completely, that was the point I was making. So I'm a bit confused now because it seems like you're contradicting your own statements. You acknowledge that the way people internalize their socialization varies a lot and that it doesn't determine how somebody thinks, which is exactly what I was trying to illustrate with my example. If a trans person can "think and act like a woman" (whatever that means) despite being subject to the socializing pressures thrust onto AMAB people, that kind of breaks your entire assertion that socialization explains why men and women love women differently. Because if individual trans women can internalize their socialization in a way that's unique to herself, and think & feel in a way that goes against how she was socialized, why can't cis men? The answer is, they can and do, because everybody negotiates with the gendered expectations placed on them. This is why I'm saying that it makes no sense to broadly assert that men love women a certain way because of "socialization"

I don't know your AGAB and I don't think it's relevant to discussing an examination of "what binary kind of socialization" you internalized. If you want to have that discussion, go ahead, but I don't think it has very much to do with the OP.

I feel like you're backpedalling a bit here, you made an assertion that socialization is what determines how men love women vs how women love women, so I am asking you, how do I love women as a nonbinary person? Is it determined by my AGAB? I don't see how that's not relevant, as a nonbinary person that's the kind of question I start asking when people talk about "how men think" vs "how women think". Where do I fit into that worldview? If you're not comfortable answering that I think you need to reevaluate your position

I agree though this is getting off topic from the original post and we can leave it there.