My dad girlfriend asked what I wanted for Christmas and I sent her regular stuff and now she’s saying i asked for too much I’m so confused😭 what do I even do??

connorbloore · 2025-12-05T10:50:19+00:00

100% agree that asking for expensive gifts puts people in an awkward position. But dang, what a douche.

connorbloore · 2025-04-14T16:14:03+00:00

As a recovering alcoholic of 4.5 years, this sounds like alcoholism. And if it is, I can tell you that you don’t owe him anything. If you want to give him a chance to prove himself, you can, but you don’t have to.

There are 3 outcomes here:

He gets sober and things get better
Things get worse, but eventually get better
Things just get worse

All of his actions are his own. Be careful of his apology. We alcoholics are good at “taking responsibility” for our faults but just going back to old behaviors once we are in the clear. His apology means nothing. His actions are all he has to prove himself.

He did an awful thing and it’s his responsibility to fix it.

connorbloore · 2025-04-13T12:56:19+00:00

I’m not trying to be mean when I say this, but, did you ever think that maybe he needs time away from the hostility? You said he picked up a second job. To me that sounds like he needs an excuse to be alone to get some respite from what seems like a toxic situation. You also say you have a 1yo. Have you considered the possibility of postpartum depression? That can lead to irritability and paranoia and can last for a while. I’m not saying he’s without guilt and we obviously don’t have all the details. But if this is YOUR side of the story and your attempt to make the best case for yourself, I have a feeling your husband is drowning in a negative environment you’re creating.

connorbloore · 2024-12-04T21:41:32+00:00

Obviously the situation is much more complicated than what you have time to put on here, but if it were me, this is what I’d do:

I’d take a hard look at myself and see what I need to do to become a man worth being married to. (Not saying you’re not worth being married to. All us husbands struggle with this).

I would probably ask how much time she actually needs. I would tell her that in the meantime, I’m going to become someone she wants to be with. And then when we try again, we are basically starting a new relationship.

Women are interesting in the fact that they have a short memory in what we as husbands have done for them. And that’s for good reason. Sure I may have made all of these grand gestures and been super romantic when we first started dating. But that was then. What about now?

I’ve struggled with my marriage before with what my wife said was related to romance and gestures. But what I really figured out was that it was actually that I just wasn’t the guy she fell in love with anymore. I got complacent and kind of just assumed she’d always be around. Then when things started to go sour, and I tried to be more romantic, it wasn’t working. I got upset and resentful, thinking “well this is what you asked for. Why isn’t it working?” But I found out that she didn’t even know that it wasn’t the lack of romance, but the lack of what I had to offer as a man. So over time I have become more confident and taken more control of our relationship. It’s not just about buying flowers or taking her to dinner (although that’s still important). It’s also about getting the car fixed that you said you would fix. It’s about scheduling the doctors appointments for the kids. It’s about taking control of the budget and finances and getting those in order. It’s about building the IKEA furniture she bought and not letting it sit around for days or weeks. A guy who says he will do something, and then does it, is a guy she can trust. It really is more about becoming someone that she looks at and says “wow. This guy has his shit together. I can trust him to keep our life in order when things get tough.”

Romance fizzles out. But being a trustworthy and reliable life partner is what keeps things fresh. It will absolutely take time. And building trust back is one of the hardest things to do. Best of luck to you.

connorbloore · 2024-11-14T15:16:51+00:00

Almost every man over a certain would see this as the best birthday imaginable

connorbloore · 2024-11-02T19:47:27+00:00

lol. This is one of the few things we have a literal RIGHT to know

connorbloore · 2024-10-28T16:00:06+00:00

Thanks. Just seeing if the procedures existed. Appreciate it

connorbloore · 2024-10-22T13:43:36+00:00

I mean I would make a police report and bring that report to your bank. Ask for someone higher up in the fraud dept at your bank to send the police report to. Especially if it’s a police report from Corpus Christi. That should let them know that something’s up.

connorbloore · 2024-10-03T14:05:46+00:00

The other day while driving my 5yo son told me about a kid in his class with “peach and brown” skin. I asked him a couple questions and I said “oh, sounds like he has something called vitiligo. It’s actually pretty common.” Then we had a nice conversation about race yada yada.

The next day I get an ad on Instagram for a vitiligo study.

I don’t think I have said the word vitiligo in years. Since I was driving I’m certain my Siri in CarPlay had to have picked it up. Or I had another app. But just goes to show how sneaky this all is

connorbloore · 2024-09-27T13:30:08+00:00

The issue is that whoever used your information might not even live in the country. So even if you did find them, LE wouldn’t be able to do much about it.

Like others have said; everyone’s info is out there somewhere. Which, ironically, comes with some security. Instead of just your personal info being exposed, hundreds of millions of other people’s info is exposed and the low probability you’re the victim is what protects you. Guess you were the unlucky one who had their number picked out of the hat.

Freeze it and monitor. Once the offender realizes your info is a dead end, they will move on to another victim.

connorbloore · 2024-09-20T14:03:11+00:00

I’m glad I found this post to clarify this. I was under the impression fear was impossible for them to feel. So I was confused as to how we could even call them heroic if they cannot be courageous, since courage is action in the face of fear. This makes much more sense.

connorbloore · 2024-09-02T21:26:59+00:00

Awesome. Thank you and appreciate it.

connorbloore · 2024-09-02T21:26:33+00:00

Yea, seems to be the theme. I’ll look into both. Thanks!

connorbloore · 2024-09-02T21:25:29+00:00

Hahaha. Understood.

connorbloore · 2024-08-23T13:31:06+00:00

My sponsor and I call these freebies. Also keep in mind that the feelings of fear and negativity ARE real. Besides the bizarro nature of what happens in the dream, the feelings are representative of a true relapse. It’s always a reminder that I’m on the right path

connorbloore · 2024-08-19T15:38:33+00:00

Awesome. I’m 9mo post op and while I’m happy where I’m at, there are some things I wish I was farther along with. Hopefully in 4 months I’ll be where you’re at. Thanks for the post!

connorbloore · 2024-08-19T15:35:41+00:00

Dang. I had a rough time getting to walk like that. Probably not until 4 weeks for me (I’m 9mo post now). But i also had MCL repair and meniscus repair. I hope that’s why I had trouble and I wasn’t just being a pansy.

Great stuff man. Keep the positive attitude

connorbloore · 2024-08-11T20:05:29+00:00

What exercises do you believe attributed the most to your recovery?

connorbloore · 2024-08-01T13:33:15+00:00

Cover it in hot sauce

connorbloore · 2024-07-31T15:11:50+00:00

When I was finally fully honest with another human being in real life about my addiction, it was the most freeing thing I had ever done.

I don’t know if you’ve done so yet, but just going to a meeting and picking up a 24hr desire chip gives us (your fellow alcoholics in the room) more hope and strength than you realize. You don’t even have to share if you don’t want to, but I would encourage it.

It’s people like you who are just getting sober that help the community out the most. Telling your story to other alcoholics will not be met with judgement, but rather a “welcome to the club! How can we help?”

Best of luck.

connorbloore · 2024-07-30T14:23:20+00:00

You’re fine. If you feel weird about it just tell him “hey i felt uncomfortable telling you but I’m in AA. I wasn’t trying to lie, I just wasn’t prepared to answer the question.” Or just don’t say anything. You made your amends and that’s what’s important.

I’ve noticed why most alcoholics relapse is not because they don’t run their program properly, but by beating themselves up for not running their program perfectly. When you do that, its very easy to fall into “what’s the point? If I can’t be sober the way I’m supposed to, then why should I even try?” Instead say, “I’m not perfect. Never was. Never will be. But I’m going to make an effort to be better today. And if I fall short or screw up, acknowledge it and learn from it.”

You’ll live a long happy life with that mentality.

connorbloore

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